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Somewhere We Live Inside

@tadahow / tadahow.tumblr.com

Taylor. 31. Queer. Former Grad Student. Caffeine Addict. No One Famous. Oklahoma native. I shall fear no evil. The shadow is mine, as is the valley. Multishipper. Lots of fandom. Formerly booksaremylover (which has been taken by someone else)
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yennefer

netflix is CRAZY if they think i’m about to pay for my own account when i can just p*rate all their shit 😭

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Meanwhile, Brazil has a pretty robust consumer's defense public system called PROCON, which has already notified Netflix twice of potentially unlawful charges of login in multiple addresses, on grounds that (1) nowhere in the constitution says you can't have multiple addresses on your name, (2) nowhere in the constitution says you have to have a home (fixed address) in the first place and (3) the streaming service states that you can "watch wherever you want" (referring to the app on your cellphone), which leads the consumer to believe you can log on your profile wherever you want, thus being false advertising. PROCON is coming for Netflix's ass and I'm ALL for it

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I would like to tell you about a time when my mental health was absolutely trash and I developed a sort of code with a few friends, in case anyone else might benefit from it.

There is a type of task which I would call "washing a dragon." There were a variety of specific things that would fall into this category but broadly it meant something like, I need to do this thing and I have been putting it off because it will be hard but the longer I put it off the harder it actually becomes.

Like if I really need to wash a pet dragon, well the dragon doesn't really like to be washed so it's hard to fight with the dragon to get it washed but also the longer I put it off, the dirtier the dragon gets and so the harder the washing and fighting will be once I do it.

And for a real life example, I needed to email a professor whose independent study I was in, to tell him I needed to drop it or find some other solution because it was going to be so hard to catch up because we hadn't met or worked in weeks, but this was a hard email because I was embarrassed and I wasn't sure what the solution was going to be, but obviously the longer I put it off the harder the problem is to solve and the more embarrassing the email was going to be.

Washing a dragon was often something of this form, asking for help on something where the longer I wait the more help I need to ask for and the more embarrassing it is to admit I need it. But there were also other kinds of dragons to wash. And since they often had some amount of embarrassment to them (it's embarrassing to leave the dragon unwashed for so long) it is hard to ask someone to help hold me accountable for finally doing the thing, or to ask them to make me sit with them until I do the thing.

But once I had this code in place I could just be like "hey I need to wash a dragon" and I didn't need to say what the dragon was but a friend could say oh okay I will now pester you about washing the dragon multiple times a day until you do it, or I will make you sit next to me with your laptop until you have washed the dragon, if the dragon washing is a laptop-based task (forms, emails). This was very helpful. I washed a lot more dragons when I could have my friends hold me accountable, and I was more willing to do that if I didn't actually have to tell them what the dragons were.

I need this.

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kyraneko

There should be a website and/or service called Wash The Dragon where you explain your problem and somebody answers your questions, breaks the task down into easy pieces for you, helps you craft any dialogue or written words you need, stays on the line with you as you do it, and congratulates you when you get it done.

They should have open-house study hours where you can pop in, sit down in a social area (or do the equivalent virtually), and they have a person hosting that asks you about what you're studying and what your goals are, provides a little encouragement and perhaps resources, and keeps you on track while you're there.

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Also remember there are disabled trans people and LGBTQIA+ people who are vulnerable — and there are some who have long covid. Intersectionality is a praxis, solidarity and analysis tool. We are in every community and various age groups, never forget that. Put the protest and rioting back into Pride. And keep it there.

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godtrauma

STAY SAFE!! [ID: the Gilbert Baker pride flag with the words “Happy pride to all those who are unable to celebrate openly and safely. You are loved and seen!” in all-caps black text over it. /end ID]

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He doesn’t even know, and he doesn’t want to.

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katy-l-wood

I don't go here but I feel like "It's a metaphor. Don't force it to do the work of a fact." is a great statement about literature and fan-content in general.

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"it's really cool that all the gay people are born in june."

robins head snapped up to look at steve.

"what?!"

"yknow, pride month because gay people are born... in june."

"steve. not every queer is born in june, i- what?"

"yknow. as soon as it came out of my mouth... i knew it was wrong."

"my birthday is in december!"

steve sighs, "yeah. yeah, okay."

robin laughs, shaking her head. "you're pretty smart but damn steve. sometimes you can be a little dumb." she places a hand on his shoulder, smiling at him before shoving him over, effectively pushing him off the couch.

"yeah, it wouldn't really make since. my birthday is in august."

robin eyed him from her place on the couch. "did you just come out to me?"

happy pride month, have this lil thing

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Any news article involving Musk automatically becomes a series of punches to the face.

"Surely it doesn't get worse than misquoting someone to make fun of kids with cancer

"Ah"

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bogleech

One single republican decided to base his vote on a reasonable evaluation of available data and it quite possibly improved thousands of lives. I hope maybe in my lifetime I’ll see an America where that isn’t shocking for a politician to do, and maybe one in which people’s entire well being doesn’t come down to just one extra guy having a shred of decency.

something very charming about “I don’t really know what’s going on here but I don’t think it’s my problem” as a response to the anti-trans hysteria

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