hi there! i’m lil ✨
• pan ace feeder / ffa / qfa
• this is an 18+ space for soft-to-medium feedism & wg, mostly sfw
• fat liberation is necessary and that is not negotiable!
• read my original mini-romance here!
• more info/faq on my about page!
could any asexuals or a-spec folks who are into feedism (and post about it) please reblog or like this post?? i’m trying to compile a list of blog recs to send someone. thank you!!
rbing to boost would also be appreciated :)
Grey bi ace here!🙋🏻♀️
I’m a-spec!
alittlepudge-neverhurtnobody reblogged
Crying b/c there are literally NO books about women who fall in love with handsome fat men
RUDE
I want to be REPRESENTED
I haven't read any of these books, but according to the Internet, these are some woman main character x fat male character romances!
- A Taste of Her Own Medicine by Tasha L. Harrison
- Their Troublesome Crush by Xan West
- Guarding Temptation by Talia Hibbert
- Take a hint, Dani Brown, also by Talia Hibbert
- Xeni by Rebekah Weatherspoon
Seconding Xeni as I read it recently and it was so delightful!
Additionally:
- Weather Girl by Rachel Lynn Solomon (+ heroine struggling with depression)
- The Stand-Up Groomsman by Jackie Lau
- Violet is Nowhere by Faith Gardner (this one is sort of a reach bc it doesn’t come up a whole lot and isn’t really part of the plot, but the male narrator’s weight is commented on a few times and the female narrator only ever describes him as hot)
- Attachments by Rainbow Rowell (caveats bc this book does have a semi-weight loss arc toward the back half but you can kind of ignore it if you squint [i do]. RR also has a not great history with POC rep so totally get it if you want to avoid her, but all the MCs in this book are white so she’s at least in her lane here)
I REALLY REALLY wish I had more to add here and I’ll update if I think of anything else!
alittlepudge-neverhurtnobody reblogged
“no feedists in fat liberation” really echoes “no kink at pride” sentiment to me. feedists and freaks have been in both the fat and queer liberation movements since the beginning. the founder of the first fat acceptance organization, naafa (founded just 2 weeks after the stonewall riots), was a self proclaimed ‘fat admirer’ who wanted to create a better world for his fat wife. not to credit a thin white man for the legacy of fat lib, really the more influential figures branched off of naafa were the fat underground: politically radical, fat lesbians who had regular retreats & were very open about fat sexuality. we had the gay chub/chaser scene which originated with girth & mirth in new york and san francisco the 1970s, some of the first spaces where fat men could feel accepted and be desired openly. for as long as there’s been positive ideas about fat, there have been people who love it.
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Anonymous asked:
If its ok to ask; how do you feel about fat kinks? I havent seen any fat acceptance blogs talk abt it. /genq
I know it's a sore spot for a lot of fat liberationists (and yes, I'm quite familiar with why so please do not take to my inbox), I think people are scared to talk about it. personally, I think it is crucial that people with fat kinks are able to access fat liberation spaces so long as they leave the kink at the door. I say this not only because the majority of them are fat people, but because that community is steeped in a deep shame and feeling of brokenness for taking delight in fatness and/or weight gain, which perpetuates rampant fatphobia. and fat liberation is what will heal those wounds. I don't understand it when fat activists tell kinksters/fetishists/feedists, whatever you want to call them to stay out of the fat liberation movement. because what is the alternative? do you want them against the movement? that doesn't make sense at all. I think people are so uncomfortable, disgusted, or afraid of this community they don't understand, that they just wish they wouldn't exist. they aren't going away. kink is akin to sexuality, to identity, to queerness. I think what people really mean when they say feedists should stay out of fat lib is, "kink should stay within spaces designated for kink." we aren't talking about kink when it comes to who can belong in a movement, we are talking about people. it is wrong to equate every person who has a kink or a fetish to a predator. it causes very real harm to those people, because they internalize that message that their kink makes them a bad person who is inherently worthless, who has to hide. if feedists aren't welcome in fat liberation, they aren't welcome anywhere.
I think that people who love fat people, love feeding people, love their own fat bodies, who see their fattest selves as their most satisfying selves, would be natural allies to this movement once they find their way to it and feel safe and accepted here. I want to make it absolutely clear that ANYONE is welcome on this blog as long as they aren't harassing or harming anyone. so many of my followers and biggest supporters are kink blogs. some of my closest friends and fat liberationist allies are feedists. I know feedists who are way more educated and passionate about fat lib and body politics than most people I've met. I don’t wish for anyone to feel alienated on my blog - especially fellow fat folks and fellow fat allies. we are 100% FAT POSITIVE AND SEX POSITIVE on this blog, babey‼️
In fact I feel really glad when I see fat kink/feedism blogs engaging with my content bc it means that person is putting the work in to understand systemic fatphobia, how to be an ally to fat people (if they aren't fat themselves), but also healing their community through education and acceptance. and HOT TAKE, BUT: when it does happen?? when feedists aren't shrouded in internalized fatphobia, shame, and isolation, and instead start embracing this innate, powerful appreciation for fatness, it's literally so fucking beautiful? and so very queer?
choosing to gain weight on purpose as an act of self creation. because it feels Right for you. gaining weight to affirm the relationship you have with your body. getting fatter because you feel so much of your identity (even gender presentation!) is attached to your fat body. feeling sexiest when you're fat. someone else worshipping that about you. giving unlimited permission to nourish yourself and/or others - and taking carnal delight in it. releasing food rules and food guilt through centering pleasure. food and fatness as an erotic and sensory experience. finding feedist partners who also have this ingrained love of fatness that can't be replicated, partners who are willing and eager to support and adore your fat body, NOT merely tolerate it. reclaiming tropes used against you through kink, and turning a loving gaze inward. saying "fuck you" to the system and choosing to take up more space in a world that consistently tries to shrink you. never denying yourself pleasure even though everyone is telling you you don't deserve it. feedism is such an interesting facet of the endless spectrum of human sexuality and I think that once people in that community find liberation and heal their relationship to the kink, it can be one of the most radical forms of self acceptance and exercising complete bodily autonomy.
I already know that a love letter to feedism coming from a fat lib blog is gonna piss people off. I'm going to lose a lot of followers, I'm going to get a lot of hate. but. kink in general is SO demonized and SO misunderstood and as liberationists we should also be open to sexual liberation. so much of this discomfort around feedism comes from a lack of education and understanding about kink in general. feedism doesn't = fatphobia in the same way that bdsm doesn't = misogyny or abuse. quite the contrary, if practiced ethically, with informed consent. every community has assholes. especially when those communities are small, ostracized, and so young that there are next to zero resources for self acceptance, safety, education, and accountability. in fact, the assholes are the ones that you're going to SEE because every respectful person is staying away and out of your business. if you've been harassed by someone with a fat kink, that is so shitty and I'm sorry that happened to you. I know it happens a lot. try to remember that what you experienced was abuse, not kink.
what consenting individuals choose to do with their bodies is entirely their business and there is nothing wrong with kink. (and I will not stand for sex-negative, puritan bullshit in my inbox, thank you very much.)
reminder: fat pleasure is fat liberation.
alittlepudge-neverhurtnobody reblogged
hunnybunforfun-deactivated20231
Your new answer to everything…unless it’s eating of course.
alittlepudge-neverhurtnobody reblogged
the thing is fat people are the hottest people in the world
alittlepudge-neverhurtnobody reblogged
Guys when they open the fridge door and the door hits there belly cause it's gotten so big
Guys rummaging the fridge at midnight
Guys drinking all the milk or soda right out the bottle
They come back to bed bloated and really full
Their loud stomach and burps wake you up and you have to help soothe it but giving it lots of rubs.
alittlepudge-neverhurtnobody reblogged
auroralovex
thinking about the sound of seams ripping as you try to squeeze yourself into a pair of pants you swore fit a week ago
alittlepudge-neverhurtnobody reblogged
wistfully day dreaming about being a cute little cottage wife to my cute chubby partner. we start the days in the garden and pick fresh fruits and veggies to use for dinner that night. my partner heads out to tend to the few livestock we keep, gathering eggs and feeding the animals. i return inside to prepare for the evening, mixing and chilling pie dough for a berry pie, roasting chicken with potatoes and carrots with a rich gravy. i fill our table with plenty, the rain falls gently outside, the fire crackling in the hearth. they eat their fill and then some, polishing off at least two slices of the still warm pie. our cats weave around our legs as we clean up, eager to find any dropped morsel. i put food away and make hot tea. we sip our steaming mugs while cuddled under a soft blanket. happy, warm, content, utterly in love.
alittlepudge-neverhurtnobody reblogged
Athletic favs softening around the edges the more you pamper them, starting with subtle things like snacking throughout the day so they can keep their energy up for their exercises and escalating to large (possibly unhealthy) meals. You say it's just because you're worried they don't eat enough, but judging by the way you keep eyeing the plush curves that once made up their chiseled abs, that's clearly a lie.
alittlepudge-neverhurtnobody reblogged
"feeds you way too much homecooked food as a sign of love" gf x "eats way too much of that homecooked food as a sign of appreciation" gf
alittlepudge-neverhurtnobody reblogged
just thinking about somebody absently rubbing their tummy a lil after unbuttoning their pants to fit in a few more snacks. that's it that's the post
alittlepudge-neverhurtnobody reblogged
Just wanna sit in the shade and feed someone ice cream floats and donuts until their belly looks like a beach ball 🍦🍩
alittlepudge-neverhurtnobody reblogged
Happy Pride Month! Here’s a fat LGBTQ+ reading list I’ve compiled! 🏳️🌈💜🏳️⚧️
Books
Fat and Queer: An Anthology of Queer and Trans Bodies and Lives edited by Bruce Owens Grimm, Miguel M. Morales, and Tiff Joshua TJ Ferentini
What We Don’t Talk about When We Talk about Fat by Aubrey Gordon
Fat Gay Men: Girth, Mirth, and the Politics of Stigma by Jason Whitesel
The Other F Word: A Celebration of the Fat & Fierce by Angie Manfredi
Nothing Is Okay Poems by Rachel Wiley
Catrachos by Roy G. Guzmán
Wow, No Thank You. Essays by Samantha Irby
Shapes of Native Nonfiction: Collected Essays by Contemporary Writers edited by Elissa Washuta and Theresa Warburton
Speaking Wiri Wiri by Dan Vera
Fiction
I’ll Be The One by Lyla Lee
Putting Makeup On The Fat Boy by Bil Wright
Soft On Soft by Em Ali
Faith: Taking Flight by Julie Murphy
If It Makes You Happy by Claire Kann
Here The Whole Time by Vitor Martins
Undead Girl Gang by Lily Anderson
Untouchable by Talia Hibbert
A Harvest Of Ripe Figs by Shira Glassman
Private Eye (The Spies Who Loved Her) by Katrina Jackson
Three romance/erotica novellas by Xan West:
Xan’s work centers kinky, trans and non-binary, fat, disabled, queer trauma survivors. It leans more towards centering Jewish characters, ace and aro spec characters, autistic characters, and polyamorous networks.
Featured list from LGBTQ reads: Sapphic Plus-Size Protagonists!
The Summer of Jordi Perez by Amy Spalding
Leah on the Offbeat by Becky Albertalli
Bearly a Lady by Cassandra Khaw
The Seafarer’s Kiss by Julia Ember
Knit One, Girl Two by Shira Glassman
Final Draft by Riley Redgate
Articles
Being Queer When You're Fat, Femme and Gaysian by Mark Mariano
CLAIMING MY NON-BINARY IDENTITY by Madeleine
How I Navigate Masculinity as a Fat Queer Woman by Hannah Schneider
Proudly Black, Fat, Queer and Making a Home for Myself in Cosplay by Briana Lawrence
What it’s like being Fat, Queer, and Asexual by Michael Paramo
How Being Plus Size Affects Presenting As Non-Binary by Gina Tonic
I Am The Plus-size Transfemme You Stared At For Too Long. by Rori Porter
Mixed-Race, Non-Binary, Queer Fat Femme: How I Fail and Succeed in Finding Liberation by Cicely Blain
I’m Fat and Gay. Here’s What I’ve Learned. by Sean Bennett
What It’s Like to Be A Fat Black Queer Femme— With Cancer by Taylor Crumpt
A Brief History Of The Gay Bears And Big Boys Scene by Gay Star News
The Fat, Black, Femme, Queer Chronicles by Tina Colleen
Dissertations
"Fat is a Queer Issue, Too": Complicating Queerness and Body Size in Women's Sexual Orientation and Identity by Hannah R. Long
More Fats, More Femmes, And No Whites: A Critical Examination Of Fatphobia, Femmephobia And Racism On Grindr by Matthew Conte
Fat Activism: A Queer Autoethnography by Charlotte Cooper
Spatial Awarishness: Queer Women And The Politics Of Fat Embodiment by Adrienne C. Hill
Fat Mutha: Hip Hop’s Queer Corpulent Poetics by Mecca Jamilah Sullivan
Other
A Queer and Trans Fat Activist Timeline by Charlotte Cooper
alittlepudge-neverhurtnobody reblogged
what are your favorite feedism words? like what words or phrases make you immediately go feral.
“I'm stuffed” will send me immediately into sicko mode.
“ate too much” will do the absolute same.
any belch that is followed by a miserable “ughhhh” after being really full, or just stuffed moans in general? yeahhhhh that’ll DO IT!!!
someone acting shocked by their gluttony “I can’t believe I ate all that” despite REGULARLY eating ‘all that’
“just one more”
excellent contributions thank you so much
this is that shit that’s right up my alley. especially the burp stuff cuz man a person burping because they ate too much?? top tier.
alittlepudge-neverhurtnobody reblogged
having to shop for a new mattress and bed frame to keep up with ur weight gain is probably the hottest investment that comes with being a glutton<3