As a Butterfly

Holy shit Uncle Iroh takes no prisoners when it comes to being an ally

I hope this photographer won a prize

to succeed in adult friendship you must remember the key tenets of child friendship:

successful examples from my travels:

of course these can be mixed and matched. most activities are enhanced by Snack Time if your friend targets enjoy breaking bread together.

and one begets the other. if you Play Pretend with someone for long enough they may eventually tell you about Toys they have and if you want to play too they'll probably let you. if they're nice.

life can be lonely when we live in separate boxes and worry about money all the time. this is what makes friendships hard, not growing older. but the antidote to isolation is connection, and the oldest wisdom we ever learn: share your toys. share your games. share your snacks.

Eugene gets me

HAPPY LIMINAL SPACEMAS, COUCHES

#Happy international Holiday

this is your gentle reminder to stop fighting against your adhd and instead structure your life around it

buy a pack of chapsticks and put one in the pocket of all of your coats and jackets because you always forget to bring one and chapped lips is sensory hell

leave important things where you can see them. if they go in a box or a drawer you will forget they exist

put any appointments or deadlines in your phone calendar As Soon As you get them. set a reminder for a week before, a day before, an hour before, as many as you need as often as you need them.

when that little voice in your head says "i dont need to write that down, ill remember it" that is the devil talking!!! write it down anyway!!

plan for down time. have a few hours at the end of every day to just do fun stuff like engage in your hyperfixations. even if you didnt get all of your work done that day, have the rest anyway. you probably spent the whole day beating yourself up for not doing what you Should be doing, so you still need the break.

if you never eat vegetables because its too much effort to chop and cook them, get the frozen or canned shit. it doesnt go off for ages and you just have to microwave it. theres no point buying fresh vegetables if they just keep going off and being left to rot in the bottom of your fridge

if you struggle to decide what to have for dinner every day, take the decision out of it. choose a set of meals and eat those on rotation until you get sick of them, then choose some new ones and do it again.

its not stupid if it works! our brains literally have a chemical deficiency. you are allowed to accommodate yourself. go forth and stop making your life more difficult than it has to be because "this shouldn't be this hard". it is hard, so make it easier.

one piece got me doing fucked up and evil shit like truly seeing the value of laughter and joy again

one piece got me considering twisted actions such as following my dreams

sure part of the queer experience is being othered but an even bigger and more powerful part is belonging to the othereds

someone finally put it into words. yeah. being socially alienated is upsetting but it is an entirely unique feeling to look that alienation and say “actually, no. i’m the one rejecting you. i have my own space full of the other people you alienated and it’s even better than what you have going on.”

the sense of belonging you can gain from a group of socially alienated people coming together feels so much like a rebirth that it may as well be one.

This is why it’s hard to explain to people that you’re happy being gay. Like… sure my life might be simpler and easier if I were a cishet but the way I am is incredible and vibrant in spite of being hard and complicated. Hands down wouldn’t trade

Its always they're aspec coded until we decide it's more interesting for them to be gay.

Its always here are ten gay/bi characters and one asexual OR aromantic character.

Its always here's the most stereotypical aroace character we can think of who never feels any kind of attraction ever.

I'm so sick of getting scraps and every time there is a character who is ambiguous enough for me to project my own experiences onto it gets taken away.

Its fine. I get it. We don't have the right to exist, you think we're boring or not real queer representation, whatever.

I just wish I could point to one single character and say "that's me".

Autism is a disability. Sometimes it disables me.

Genuinely feel sorry for people who are too afraid of being cringe to call themselves a furry.

Like being a furry is genuinely like my favorite thing. It's so freeing and relaxing and just feels right to let yourself be yourself and a little wolf at the same time.

While you were focused on not being cringe I was busy learning to love myself, my body, and my addiction to werewolves.

I'm so tired of living this way (← girl that will never do anything to change her way of living because breaking the routine scares her more than anything)

childhood was so crazy. my parents were kind of young. a meal seemed to last forever. i could run for ages. everyone was alive

holy SHIT

Ooo okay, I really wanted to know what the source of this was and it’s Additude magazine, a 2021 last-updated-in-2021 article here titled Why Anxiety Disorder Is So Often Misdiagnosed.

I know I vibed with this quote and saw others do so in the tags so I thought a source would be helpful.

In many ADHD people, anxiety also becomes the de-facto coping mechanism to compensate for forgetfulness, distractability, etc. It is obviously a mistake to diagnose and treat “anxiety” in a vacuum, because there is in fact nothing irrational about “I obsessively triple-check scheduled appointments and that I’ve set my alarm clock because I have missed important appointments in the past and it was disastrous”

your daily walks wrapped

you soaked up 10,985 minutes of sunshine, rain, and other weather

you walked past 4,073 individuals you would describe as the most beautiful person in the world

you bore witness to 23% more of your local area than last year—good job!

you saw 3 of the weirdest dogs you will ever see in your life

you noticed 18 people visibly, tenderly in love with each other

you smelled 243 flowering plants & shrubs

you drank 267 delicious beverages

you were kissed invisibly and imperceptibly by 117 bumble bees and butterflies

you were witness to 87,441,289 gorgeous leaves

Notice: not only do your friends actually like you, they secretly like you twice as much as they let on

An experience that made me feel much more assured in my friendships was at college, a friend and myself were talking about a third friend of ours and how cool and knowledgeable and smart she is and how we feel like we could never be that cool. The next day I was working with a professor on some paper presentations we were about to have and when I came out of the staff room I was informed that these two aforementioned friends were having the same discussion about me. And it turns out we spent a lot of time thinking about our friends who aren’t currently in the room and gushing over how cool and smart and talented they are without being able to say all of it to their face.

Your friends secretly love you a lot more than they already express, just like you love them so intensely that saying it all to their faces would sound clumsy to your own ears. It’s true though

I’ve had more than one friend say “no, listen to me for one second: you are literally and actually one of my favorite people, I enjoy your presence in my life” and if that won’t rock a foundation …

It’s so good to be loved.

“Loved” is something I take for granted, but “one of my favorite people” is like. Oh surely not. I mean there are so many other people? And I’m just. Me