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The wolfkiller, Lestat
I started reading the vampire lestat, wanted to draw something for it
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Asked my friends "so is this just shoot em up minecraft" while they're playing fallout.
"You need to add a couple words there. Uhhh nuclear war and 50s. Yeah. That's pretty much it."
"Future 50s radioactive shoot em up minecraft. Yeah. Send it. That's the game."
This game does not sound real.
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Asked my friends "so is this just shoot em up minecraft" while they're playing fallout.
"You need to add a couple words there. Uhhh nuclear war and 50s. Yeah. That's pretty much it."
"Future 50s radioactive shoot em up minecraft. Yeah. Send it. That's the game."
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Asked my friends "so is this just shoot em up minecraft" while they're playing fallout.
"You need to add a couple words there. Uhhh nuclear war and 50s. Yeah. That's pretty much it."
"Radioactive shoot em up minecraft set in the 50s"
This will flop or I'll be murdered by transwomen.
I am fully amenable to both of these options.
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Asked my friends "so is this just shoot em up minecraft" while they're playing fallout.
"You need to add a couple words there. Uhhh nuclear war and 50s. Yeah. That's pretty much it."
"Radioactive shoot em up minecraft set in the 50s"
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Asked my friends "so is this just shoot em up minecraft" while they're playing fallout.
"You need to add a couple words there. Uhhh nuclear war and 50s. Yeah. That's pretty much it."
Asked my friends "so is this just shoot em up minecraft" while they're playing fallout.
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The Hunter's Funeral Procession
He's flirting with me, I have to kill him.
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Saw this on FB and was amused.
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incomplete list of fun stories about my dad:
- at uni he and half a dozen of his friends stole a half-ton stone statue of a lion from another college, got it on a barge, and hoisted it up under London Bridge where it was found hanging the next morning
- my mother and I once lost him at Trafalgar Square and he told us later he was just sitting on top of the plinth of Nelson's Column waiting for us. we never found out how a 55-year-old professor who barely ever went outside scaled a 6 metre bronze relief of the Battle of the Nile or why he thought we would look for him up there
- he worked for the UN for a while and ended up in Prague on a research trip in the '60s. within three hours of landing he'd ditched his government handler and found his way to an underground anti-Soviet resistance speakeasy
- he was raised Catholic. when the Vatican came out against the birth control pill he formally left the church but only after screaming "all you care about is controlling women" at his priest in public and sending the Pope a personal hate letter
- when I emailed him to tell him I had started seeing a nonbinary person he wrote back with a six-paragraph rant about how much understanding of the wondrous variety of human experience had been denied to his generation
- he got invited to an event at Buckingham Palace back in the '80s and responded with a letter addressed directly to the Duke of Edinburgh saying he might try and make it if he didn't have anything to do at work or anything he wanted to watch on TV that day
- one time I was on a bus with him and he saw someone he thought was doing a cosplay but he was very wrong and basically went up to a stranger who was out having a perfectly normal time and complimented her on looking like a robot assassin
- he started a formal debating society in his nursing home without any of the staff knowing about it
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I have thoughts about the whole feminist anti-interrupting thing. Like I agree, men do talk over people and it is disrespectful, but I also think there are cultures, specifically Jews, where talking over each other is actually a sign of being engaged in the conversation. It’s something I really struggle with in the south, because up in New York, even non-Jews participated in this cooperative conversation style, but down here, whenever I do it by accident, the whole convo stops and it gets called out and it’s a whole thing. Idk idk I feel like there’s different types of interruptive like there’s constructive interrupting where you add on to whatever is being said - helpful interrupting, and then there’s like interrupting where you just start saying something unrelated because you were done listening. I have ADHD so I’ve def done the latter too by accident, but I’m talking about being more accepting of the former.
I think a lot of the social mores leftists enforce around communication tend to be very white. Like Jews are not the only group of people that have distinct communication styles. Like the enforcement of turn-based communication, not raising your voice (not just in anger but also in humor or excitement), etc. it’s always interesting that the most pushback I get about how I communicate come from white people (mostly women actually, white men just give me patronizing looks because they don’t feel like they can call me out in same way). Like I’ve been teaching these workshops, and a few of them have been primarily black people, and I’ve noticed black people will also engage in cooperative interrupting (and I love it!). This isn’t a developed thought and I welcome feedback. Idk I think there should be space in leftist organizing for more diverse communication styles.
Here’s a source:
As a linguist: overlapping talk is not the same thing as an interruption!
An interruption is specifically intended to stop another person from speaking so you can take over. Other reasons that talk might overlap:
- close latching -- how much time should I give between when you stop talking and when I start? Very close latching can feature a lot of overlaps.
- participatory listening -- how do I signal to you that I’m engaged with what you’re saying and paying attention? Do I make any noise at all, or do I limit myself to minimal “backchannel” noises (mm-hmm, ah, yeah), or do I fully verbalize my reactions as you’re going? Maybe even chime in along with you, if I anticipate what you’re about to say, to show how well we’re vibing?
- support request -- this can shade into interruption as a form of sealioning, but if someone interjects a request like “I didn’t catch that” or “What’s that mean?” it’s not really an interruption, because they’re not trying to end/take my turn away, they’re inviting me to keep going with clarification/adaptation.
- asides -- if there’s more than two people involved in a conversation, a certain amount of cross-talk is probably inevitable.
The norms around these kinds of overlaps vary -- by context (we all use more audible backchannel on the phone; an interview is not a sermon is not a casual chat), by culture, and yes, by gender, which is why it’s a feminist issue. But gender doesn’t exist in a vaccuum! Some reasons overlaps might be mis-interpreted as interruptions when they’re not intended to be:
- norms about turn latching: someone who’s not used to close-latching conversation might feel interrupted or stepped on when talking to someone who is. The converse is that someone who’s expecting close-latching might feel the absence of it as awkward silence, withdrawal, coldness, etc.
- norms about backchannel: if you’re not expecting me to provide running commentary on your story or finish your sentences (or if I’m doing it wrong) then you might feel interrupted. But if you’re expecting that level of feedback you might feel ignored.
- neurodivergence: If I have auditory processing problems, I might take longer to respond to you than you’re expecting. If I have impulse control problems, I might blurt something out as soon as I think of it, but I don’t necessarily want you to stop. If I have trouble with nonverbal or paralinguistic cues, I might not latch my turns the way you expect, or my backchannel might be timed in a way you don’t expect.
- Non-native speakers of a language may need more time to process speech; may speak more slowly and with pauses in different places than native speakers; may not pick up the same cues about turn-latching and backchannel, resulting in a timing difference; may need to make more requests for support.
Norms around conversation tend to be super white/Western/male/NT; even among linguists, the way we talk about analyzing talk usually presupposes discrete turns, with one person who “has the floor” and everyone else listening. It even gets coded into our technology -- I thing the account’s gone private, but someone recently tweeted, “For the sake of my wife’s family, Zoom needs to incorporate an ‘ashkenazi jewish’ checkbox” because the platform is programmed to try to identify a “main speaker” and auto-mute everyone else. Most of the progress on this front in linguistics has been pushed by Black women and Jewish women, or else we’d probably still be acting like Robert’s Rules represent the natural expression of human instincts.
And it’s very White Feminism to recognize how conversations styles have disparate impacts across gender lines without also recognizing other axes along which conversation styles vary, once that empower us as well as oppress us. Just because I feel interrupted doesn’t mean I am interrupted, and it definitely doesn’t mean I have the right to scream “EVERYBODY SHUT UP!!” until I’m the only one talking.
I don’t ... have a great way to end this? Just that it’s good to recognize competing needs in communication, and have some humility and intentionality about whose needs gets prioritized and how.
Another thing; as someone who expects overlap because of my cultural upbringing, when someone doesn't overlap me I just start looping and repeating myself because I'm waiting for them to interrupt and they're "politely" waiting for me to finish speaking.
Okay nobody ever put that into words but the looping is exactly what I do in therapy - I should tell my therapist about this so I don’t need to say the same thing over and over again lol
This is fascinating to me. I love the recognition of competing needs in communication. One of the layers that I have noticed is what I think of as conversational pacing. Enthusiastic discuussion and cross-talking can absolutely work for everyone if the conversational pace allows for it. This is often the difference between an interactive discussion and someone “sea lioning” relentlessly. Another layer to this is reading body language;; tone of voice. Having one or more people in the room (either via Zoom or in person), who feel comfortable saying things like, “Wait - I think Sarah had something to add there.” is much more productive than the “EVERYBODY SHUT UP” model.
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I have two writing modes rn and one is vellicaz filth/pain while the other is bloodweave au wholesome/PAIN.
It's a victory to write again. It's such a victory.
Especially with an EXCELLENT writing partner with brilliant ideas, organizational skills, and a complementary writing style.
Slaps @beaubambabey this bitch can fit so much Helping Me Feel Like Myself Again and Incredible Writer in him
RIGHT BACK ATCHA
*inflicts more ship pain on you*
Joke's on you, bitch, I'm into that.
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“Drawing techniques for the structure and appearance of the fingers when the hand is extended”
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Community Label: Mature: Sexual Themes
the pale bait
Community Label: Mature
Sexual themes