usually at the beginning of a new year, we’re looking ahead... looking at new habits, new opportunities, new goals and new experiences we may be faced with. i don’t personally set resolutions, per se, but i usually think of a few things i want to accomplish, or set an intention or two for the year ahead.
as we all know, anything i had set out to do in 2020 quickly got set aside (i said i wanted to visit five new countries - little did i know i wouldn’t even leave england for two whole years)! and going into 2021, i wasn’t able to look past the first month, just needing to find somewhere to live and somewhere to work because our lease was up and my bank account was completely wiped after three months of unemployment.
this year is different. i spent the first few days doing, well, nothing and everything. getting around to a bunch of tasks i kept putting off, like organising my room and putting the countless photos, travel tickets and other whatevers i found into scrapbooks. i also consumed my weight in vegan pigs-in-blankets and aldi brand baileys 😅 and got through most of my netflix watchlist.
i spent the next few days on a sunny spanish island, swam every day and sunned myself and finally had a chance to let my body rest and reset. and then it was back to real life, work and responsibility and everything that comes with it.
on the last day of our holiday, we flew over to another island, partly to explore a bit more and partly to see an old friend i haven’t seen for five or so years. on the short plane ride over i found myself very nervous, and couldn’t figure out why - i had no reason to be nervous to see an old friend! she had arranged her busy day to take a quick beach break to see us! why was i nervous? my cousin pointed out the last time i saw her i was 18 years old, and a very very different person. and suddenly it made sense, and we were able to meet up, have a great time, and hopefully it won’t be another five years til i see her!
but on the plane home to London i thought a lot about teenage rosie and the last time i had seen my friend. i was pre-diagnosis, pre-treatment, pre-figuring out a lot of things about myself and how i function, especially socially. i was finishing off college and figuring out what to do next. i had a whole wide world ahead of me and absolutely no idea how to navigate it. some days (most days), it was a struggle just getting out of bed. some days i got out of bed and made it to college or work or wherever in a haze, with no control over my actions, like i was being controlled by someone else. i had no idea what my triggers were, or even what a trigger really was. i was in insane pain almost every day and just trying to carry on like everything was normal.
these days... it’s still hard to get out of bed. some weeks are fine and other weeks i feel superglued to the mattress. but i’ve spent the beginning of this new year (or the arbitrary time we attribute to a new year) thinking about looking back, not just forward, and reminding myself of progress made, and not just progress left to make. i’m in between treatments at the moment, and eager to move on and take the next steps in my recovery. but i’m reminded that just like the artistic process, recovery is cyclical, and waxes and wanes. my recovery is and will be ongoing. and as such it’s important to remind myself of how far i’ve come.
one thing that hasn’t changed since then is using art to decipher and translate complicated feelings. this is something i’ve always done, before i even understood what i was doing. i didn’t choose to work in the arts for a living. i’m just unable to do anything else. i’m fortunate i can make half a living off it but even if i couldn’t, i’d still be drawing, writing, singing sad little songs and collecting pill packets for no reason other than i can’t seem to throw them away. at the beginning of the year i spent a lot of time sorting through old artworks, and as part of my practice this year i’ll be revisiting works i did in the past and incorporating them into my new work. here’s a selection of a few drawings i found while clearing out my room last month.
here’s to looking forward, looking back, and making art.