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Ukiah's Heart

@ukiahsheart / ukiahsheart.tumblr.com

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pilgrimkitty

I want to delve into a dangerous topic. I want to talk about abortion and eugenics.

Even when abortion was illegal, it was sometimes performed legally in hospitals if the pregnant person was at risk of death, or if they were disabled. People with Down Syndrome sometimes found themselves forced into hospitals to have their pregnancies terminated, often against their will. Then abortion was legalized and I will say, flat-out that this was a good thing.

I believe in free, unlimited access to legal, safe abortion. Whether you believe life begins at conception or at birth, you still have no say over somebody else’s bodily autonomy. It is abhorrent to force somebody to carry a pregnancy to term if they don’t want it. Especially considering what a toll pregnancy has on a body. Also, legislating abortion only increases the number of unsafe, back alley abortions, with more and more people becoming injured or dying by coat hangers and knitting needles. Abortion needs to be safe and legal and accessible, full stop.

Over the last few decades there has been a rise in availability of pre-natal testing. Sonograms and amniocentesis leads to pregnant people finding out sooner and more frequently if their fetus has an impairment or a genetic disorder. Since genetic testing has become more available, the number of abortions due to “defect” are on the rise. Fetuses that are screened and found to have Down Syndrome or spina bifida are being aborted more and more, with promises from doctors and nurses that the parents can always “try again.”

Over the past few decades more and more money is going into genetic autism research, in the effort to create a test to reveal whether or not a fetus will become an autistic person.

Aborting a fetus simply because of impairment or disease is eugenics.

Pro-choice advocates often say things like “forcing a woman to carry a disabled fetus to term is abuse,” with emphasis placed on the idea that disabled children are burdens on their parents and society. They talk about “quality of life” of both the parents and the potential child, but usually weighted more to the parents. This is all ableist rhetoric. To be entirely honest, all children are “burdens” in that they need to be taken care of and protected and housed and fed and clothed without being able to contribute to society. But we don’t usually tell parents that all their healthy, able-bodied kids are burdens, do we? We call children “gifts” and “treasures.”

Anti-choice advocates often say things like “Disabled children are a gift from God! They’re a blessing!” But this is ableist rhetoric too. It dehumanizes disabled children, turns them into objects and life lessons. Disabled children are human beings just like everyone else, with gifts and faults.

When a pregnant person is told by the doctors that their fetus is disabled or has a genetic disorder, they hear a lot of ableist rhetoric. They’re told by doctors that their future child will have no quality of life. That they’ll be a burden. That they’ll suffer. That their life is basically worthless. Doctors often urge and wheedle and even bully pregnant patients into terminating disabled fetuses. They are told that even if they follow through with the pregnancy but give the baby up for adoption–because they can’t afford to take care of a special needs child–the child will likely not be adopted because “nobody wants a broken child.”

So where do we draw the line? Do we make it illegal to terminate a disabled fetus? No. That sets us down a slippery slope and then it’s only a short trip from “some fetuses can’t be terminated” to “no abortion for anyone,” which leads us right back to back-alley knitting needle abortions.

Do we limit access to pregnancy screenings? Maybe. In India, when more and more couples were aborting fetuses determined to be female due to institutionalized sexism and misogyny, they made it illegal, as of 1994, to find out the sex of your child during pregnancy. But that could also lead us down a slippery slope. After all, parents are entitled to be prepared for what’s coming next right? And especially in regards to genetic diseases like Tay-Sach’s, where the child will be in excruciating pain and suffering, and then die by age four, isn’t it sometimes kinder to know? I’m not sure, this is an ethical discussion that I’m not sure I’m qualified to make a definitive ruling on.

Here’s what I think should happen. I think that when a pregnant person discovers their child has an impairment or genetic disorder, they need to be immediately educated. They should be given research into the condition, and introduced to living adults who have the condition in question. Not just parents who believe their disabled child is a burden, but living adults who can tell their own stories about growing up with the condition in question, and give voice to their own quality of life. Pregnant people should be encouraged to make informed, educated decisions, not just jump at their doctors suggestions uninformed.

Also, we need increased access to support systems and services. It should be a lot easier than it is to take care of a “special needs” child and raise them to be an independent adult.

We need to destroy the systemic ableism that tells us disabled people are burdens, disabled people are pitiable, disabled people suffer, disabled people can never be healthy and happy and live long successful lives. We also need to destroy the idea that quality of life is determined by accomplishment and productivity.

Also, please remember that doctors are not the be-all, end-all definitive voice of what is. A doctor’s opinion is an educated OPINION. Feel encouraged to get a second opinion and to do your own research.

Our enemy is not disability. Our enemy is not abortion. Our enemy is ignorance and oppression and a society that benefits from racist, sexist, ableist exploitation and oppression.

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girlspoons

new blog for disabled/mentally ill women

hi! as a disabled, mentally ill woman and a feminist i’m often saddened by the lack of resources geared towards us and the frequency with which we’re forgotten in feminist and general activist spaces.

this blog aims to combat this somewhat by creating a safe space for disabled and/or mentally ill women to access information, share their experiences and ask for support.

i will be making and reblogging posts geared towards and inclusive of our experiences in the hopes that they make someone’s day easier.

disability and mental illness are not the only marginalizations i face and i know how hurtful it can be to have one part of your identity invalidated in a space catering to another part. this blog will aim to be intersectional and welcoming to disabled and mentally ill women of colour, lbpq+ women, trans women or women otherwise marginalized on an axis other than disability/mental illness.

i’m also not interested in infighting between disabled women and mentally ill women or invisible and visible disabilities and mental illnesses.

this space will aim to be solely about bringing some much needed positivity and validation into our lives.

i would appreciate a signal boost of this post so this blog can reach its intended audience! i will fill up the queue in the next couple of days and posting will begin starting tomorrow.

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ukiahsheart

SIGNAL BOOST

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I’m desperate and tired. I have not left my home alone in over a year. I just want some freedom. Please share and hopefully help.

I really have been depressed because I cannot do anything on my own anymore. Maybe we can get a van.

Yes I’ve tried these before with Gofundme which I’ve discovered isn’t a super good group so I’m trying with You Caring. Please consider donating and helping. We have $37 from a previous trial with fundraising set aside for our van.

So please help us out

Thank You to everyone who has donated and shared!

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I almost forgot what today is, three years since Ramona’s due date. I’ll never stop missing you, love.

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ukiahsheart

So sorry for your loss. I still miss my son everyday, but his birthday and death date hurt most. Loss, no matter when it happens are never easy. My love is with you and your daughter today. 

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“I’m writing a book about Basil The Bat Lord, who is a human that enters into a tryout for becoming a king. And he’s either going to be the king of the Bat Kingdom, the Spider Kingdom, or the Snake Kingdom. And there’s one more kingdom too, I forget. Oh yeah, The Moth Kingdom. But then Wilda the Witch gets the Spider Kingdom to start attacking all the other kingdoms. And Basil gets the Moth Kingdom to help defeat Wilda. But I’m not going to tell you how Wilda is defeated because then people won’t be as excited about my book.”

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awoodenpen

I’d read that book.

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ukiahsheart

I’d read the whole series, because that kid ain’t gonna stop at just one book yo! 

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Just watched last weeks episode of supernatural. Now I’m not Deaf/HOH so I can’t accurately speak on representation. However I would just like to say it was nice to see a character with a disability in a role other than the “victim.” Actually she was kind of the hero in the end when Sam and Dean were loosing their shit. 

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justrollinon

They need to bring her back for sure, I don’t think they will but they should. Make her a proper Woman of Letters and introduce her to the bunker, that would be cool 

That is exactly what I hope happens!! But I’ve learned never to get my hopes up for TV shows. Especially Supernatural

Well if they do another season, which I don’t know if it’s likely after 11 already then it’s possible, and I also thought to myself if the writers want to redeem themselves in the fans eyes for killing Charlie then this is the way to do it 

I don’t know if I can ever forgive killing Charlie (or Kevin Tran for that matter). But it would cushion the blow to have a badass disabled hunter become at least a somewhat regular feature of the show. I did hear a rumor that the producer of supernatural said that so long as Jensen and Jared are willing to be Sam and Dean the show has potential to go on for many more seasons 

Well that’s good to hear, but yeah I it would be amazing to have a badass deaf character on the show who is actually played by an actor who is actually deaf 

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ukiahsheart

At the very end I said to myself “I want the old lady and the HOH person to have their own god-damned show” because their 20 minutes of screen time was more compelling than the rest of the series and let’s be honest, don’t you really want to see two people that the world tells us should not be kicking butt kick all of the butt and take their names? 

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veinitas

hey i know october is generally a lighthearted and fun month please remember as we move into colder, damper months that a lot of people dont have and cant AFFORD clothing that will help keep them warm and dry. please donate thick socks, thin thermals/sweaters/shirts for layering, and waterproof outerwear to local homeless shelters if you can!!

socks are really important they are the least donated item!

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onewordtest

how exhausted am I? I was making this thing from 10 am this morning nonstop until 11 pm tonight. If that answers the question. 

so it goes: Past - goes through history from schizoid personality disorder, through Asperger, T-4, Kanner, Bettelhiem, Rimland (& threw Schopler in there), Lovaas (a.k.a. - the devil), and Lorna Wing. 
after Lorna Wing it explains what “the spectrum” really means, not what people so often think it means 
present - mostly the development of the autism community/culture, rights & ND movement (Temple Grandin mention, Jim Sinclair, ANI, Autreat, ASAN, coining of the term neurodiversity, etc.) 
has side flyers of Nick Walker’s explanation of Neurodiversity & ASAN’s “Myths about Autism”
then a “Crash Course in Autistic Culture”, which I designed myself, may upload separately at some point. talks about terminology, technology and things (stim toys, communications badges), our holidays (autistic pride day, etc.), and what autistic space means 
future - has some very nice bits of what hopefully the future of neurodiversity will mean for coming up generations of autistic kids. ASAN’s flyer about why you shouldn’t donate to A$. and the last bit is a quick intro to my hopes to start a DCC on my campus. 
table at the event will be bigger than my coffee table, will have a bunch of books out, a sign up sheet for support/interest in the DCC. brochures about the DCC that I made. Nick Walker’s definition of autism on a page. flyers on why NOT to support Autism $peaks for people to take with them. I was gonna have my tangle out, in addition to my communication badge, but I lost my tangle (which is a tragedy, need to get a knew one asap) & a magnet I have that says “it’s a stimmy day”  

so I’m still not 100% if Alpha Xi Delta will be there representing Autism $peaks, but I’m pretty sure they will be. hopefully my table will attract a lot of people and some educating will go on. 

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