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https://www.youcaring.com/walkerfamilyzaineandrosella-1054849

So I wouldn’t normally ask since its a rough time of year for everyone but basically I’m just reaching out. My husband Zaine is not able to go back to work until he gets fully released from having his surgery (which will hopefully be January 3rd). Even with all scraped we’re almost $400 short on rent and we just got a call that if we don’t pay the electric in full by the 5th, they are shutting off the electricity. Zaine’s surgery was necessary for his health–his body was starting to break down from the chemo-based medicine they had him on. If we delayed the surgery any longer (mind you he was on this medicine everyday for a year), Zaine ran the risk of permanent damage to his body. We put everything in place with his work and had a plan. 2017 has probably been the hardest year. I thought my husband would be able to be back at work  but unfortunately they won’t let him until he has no lift restrictions. I’m disabled and struggling with day to day tasks. I get out a little bit but I spend most days recouping after simple outings and tasks. I vomit all the time. I couldn’t even keep going to school because I was hospitalized in October, for 6 days due to a bowel obstruction and then had to recover for almost a week after. I was even working at a job, but ultimately lost it because of unmanageable symptoms. I’ve been referred to a new GI that I can’t see until May, so everyday for me is just managing new symptoms and trying to survive. I’m pretty useless. We’re reaching out to Catholic community services but don’t know how much they can or will help with if anyone is able to help please let me know I’ll pay you back somehow. We’re desperate; this wasn’t a situation we foresaw at all.

https://www.youcaring.com/walkerfamilyzaineandrosella-1054849

Another one

At age 23, Tina Fey was working at a YMCA. At age 23, Oprah was fired from her first reporting job.  At age 24, Stephen King was working as a janitor and living in a trailer. 

At age 27, Vincent Van Gogh failed as a missionary and decided to go to art school.   At age 28, J.K. Rowling was a suicidal single parent living on welfare.

At age 28, Wayne Coyne ( from The Flaming Lips) was a fry cook. At age 30, Harrison Ford was a carpenter.  At age 30, Martha Stewart was a stockbroker.  At age 37, Ang Lee was a stay-at-home-dad working odd jobs. Julia Child released her first cookbook at age 39, and got her own cooking show at age 51. Vera Wang failed to make the Olympic figure skating team, didn’t get the Editor-in-Chief position at Vogue, and designed her first dress at age 40. Stan Lee didn’t release his first big comic book until he was 40. Alan Rickman gave up his graphic design career to pursue acting at age 42. Samuel L. Jackson didn’t get his first movie role until he was 46.

Morgan Freeman landed his first movie role at age 52. Kathryn Bigelow only reached international success when she made The Hurt Locker at age 57. Grandma Moses didn’t begin her painting career until age 76. Louise Bourgeois didn’t become a famous artist until she was 78. Whatever your dream is, it is not too late to achieve it. You aren’t a failure because you haven’t found fame and fortune by the age of 21. Hell, it’s okay if you don’t even know what your dream is yet. Even if you’re flipping burgers, waiting tables or answering phones today, you never know where you’ll end up tomorrow. Never tell yourself you’re too old to make it. 

Never tell yourself you missed your chance. 

Never tell yourself that you aren’t good enough. 

You can do it. Whatever it is. 

This is so worth reblogging!

Thank you!

Today’s picture for invisible illness is a personal one. This is one of about 30 notes that my friend has received since using her handicapped placard. I’m going to say this to you, have you ever seen someone get out of a car parked in a handicapped space and said to yourself “they look too young or they don’t look disabled.” I’m going to go with yes you have, because we all have at one time. I can’t remember doing it, but before I understood the difficulties of invisible illness when I was younger I probably did. Let me ask you this though, when you had that thought was it because you knew with 100% certainty that they weren’t handicapped or did you assume that because of their age and/or not seeing a cane, walker or wheelchair? All I’m asking is that we stop and think when we someone need a mobility aid, park in a handicapped space or say they are disabled that we remember this “DISABILITY HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH AGE OR APPEARNACE.” #spoonie #invisibleillness #disability #chronicillness #rheumatoidarthritis #lupus #fibromyalgia #myofascialpainsyndrome

If nothing else, this post needs to be seen around the internet more. This harassment is not okay and no one should have to deal with it on top of having an invisible illness. This is just another form of anonymous bullying to add to the internet bullying these TROLLS are capable of.

If you are healthy, please reblog. If you are sick, please reblog. If you have a disability, please reblog. If you have an invisible illness, please reblog. If you know someone with a disability, please reblog. If you are a human being, please reblog. Let’s spread the word and help those of us that may not look like it. 

Ignorance isn’t bliss, ignorance is ignorance. 

My mom had cancer that has spread to her lungs and outwardly, she looked healthy. However, she couldn’t walk very far. She had a blue tag and she got some killer looks while walking to the electric wheel chairs, just because she looked healthy. Another story: I was chewed out once for fetching one of the electric wheel chairs for her.

My best friends sister has a heart disease and she looks totally normal and everything except for the big scar on her chest and they have a handicap sign and everything, because when she walks too much, she gets very sick and I think she has trouble breathing and she starts throwing up so yes I agree with this. No, not every person with a handicap sign thing is in a wheelchair or some kind of limp. Don’t be so ignorant.

This has happens to my mother so often. She looks amazing and walks with perfect mobility. She has grand mal seizures triggered by heat and sun and we live in California. Walking through long parking lots can easily trigger this and cause her to possibly die from falling and hitting her head on a car or on the ground. For a few years she stopped parking in these spaces because of all of the harassment. She literally was socially pressured into risking her LIFE because of harassment. 

NEVER assume you know if someone has a disability. NEVER.

Dude I’m IN a chair part of the time.and get shit amd told ‘well I saw her walking last week!’ Ugh.

My thoughts upon reading the initial post were as follows: “I’m all for disabled people getting benefits, but if they don’t need a wheelchair or a cane to walk, wouldn’t it be polite to not use the handicapped space?”

But after reading what others have added I see my error. Of course there are people who cannot walk too much even though they don’t use a walking aid. Of course those people deserve to park in the handicapped space.

So, thank you for making this post and opening my eyes.

I have to walk with a cane and I get dirty looks all the time because I look too young.

i have to walk with a cane and hell, i look middle-aged, but i still get weird looks, and people frequently kick my cane as they hurry by. it’s excruciatingly painful. i would honestly rather be socked in the jaw. there’s nothing wrong with my jaw bone. my spine, on the other hand, is covered with jagged growths.

but you can’t see that from the outside, so you don’t pay attention, and you’re in a hurry, and you sideswipe me as you go by and basically icepick me in the assbone. thanks. hope you’re on time for that super important thing you’re hurrying to.

uh… i just took the opportunity to rant, that’s not actually the point i wanted to make. what i wanted to say is:

the problem is the idea that random abled people have a right to judge whether we deserve accomodations or not.

you do not. you do NOT have that right.

i could be dancing a fucking tarantella on 6-inch heels and you would STILL not have the right to judge whether or not i’m allowed to have a parking tag. that tag was issued by someone whose job it is to do that. you are not that person. my doctor, my spouse, the guy who gives me the big cortisone needle right in the sacroilliac, my daily helper, these people have input in my lifestyle, though in the end it’s up to me. but you? who the fuck even are you, pal? who died and made you the vengeful god of parking spots?

this is a You Problem, gatekeepers. unfuck yourself.

The thing about the placards is that unless you have a really really lenient doctor or you told some big lies on the paperwork or you took one from a deceased relative, they don’t give them out unless you need them. If there’s a placard, it’s because a medical professional deemed it necessary.

In college, an acquaintance ranted about how he’d seen someone park in a handicapped spot and walk to the building. I said that I knew two people, off the top of my head, with tags who looked as if they were perfectly healthy, but where not.

One of them had severe back pain and nerve damage in his legs. The other had anaphylaxis triggered by too much sunlight.

He was shocked. It had never occurred to him that such things could be. In his defense, he was 18. I’m always astounded by grown ass adults who haven’t figured this out, though.

Sometimes I feel frustrated and unhappy about not being able to fall sleep when I want to, but even just resting is good for your body and mind. ^^

hey if ur reading this and ur in a bad spot mentally or anything i hope u feel better soon and have a good day

I love you.

I love you if you aren’t high functioning

I love you if you can’t go outside in the dark

I love you if you have a hard time with hygiene

I love you if you’re divine 

I love you if you’re monstrous

I love you if you’re not real  

I love you if you think no one does

I love you if you dissociate

I love you if you tape over your laptop camera

I love you if you pick at your skin

I love you if you have disorganized speech

I love you if you have awful intrusive thoughts

I love you if you have low empathy

I love you if you feel invalid

I love you if you never stop hallucinating

I love you.

your mental health is a priority your happiness is a priority your self-care is a priority your existence is a priority

you can do it ☆

And somewhere in between eat a cookie - Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson

In case you haven’t heard this recently, our little ghost friend wants to thank you just for being you. :D Keep being the lovely person you are!