letting go of a cultivated tenderness

@sincerelywrong / sincerelywrong.tumblr.com

bob || they/them || I identify as tired || this is literally just for screaming and interacting with friends anymore I'm sorry if you followed years ago for fandom things I just no longer have that energy.
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COMMISSIONS OPEN

As many of you know I have been out of work due to issues walking and standing. I’ve finally officially quit my job due to difficulty I’ve had being able to consistently go to physical therapy. These commissions are currently my only form of income. Please consider helping out an artist of color in need. My wife and I are both students.

Commission Pricing:

  • FULL BODY SHADING $45
  • HALF BODY SHADING $40
  • FULL BODY FLAT COLOR $30
  • HALF BODY FLAT COLOR $25
  • FULL BODY BLACK&WHITE $20
  • HALF BODY BLACK&WHITE $15

These prices include UP TO TWO CHARACTERS. After two characters, it will be an extra $15 for each character. Each commission comes with a simple colorful background. Simple backgrounds like a bed, a simple room, a simple outside scene, are also free. Complex backgrounds like cities, detailed rooms, etc. are $20 additional.

I will not draw gore, loli, noncon, mecha. I have the right to refuse any commission at any stage, will full refund.

Timeline is 2-4 weeks from sketch to completion, depending on the queue.

EMAIL: andsarahbellesaid@gmail.com or DM me on TWITTER at clytemenestras

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I simply wish, to have automatic posting set up through channels, but since tumblr doesn’t let you change a secondary blog into a primary by any means, I cannot do this, unless I sacrifice my 2000+ subscribers on the blog I’m trying to set up with that..

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Hey my cat and my mother in law’s cat both need dental surgery!!! Blossom just recently underwent emergency surgery and we were blessed enough to be able to pay for that out of pocket but this is something that requires a little more money and planning.

You would be helping blossom but ALSO sweet “white cat” who belongs to my mother in law. They’re both older cats who have dental issues and need help to continue having a long, pain free life.

Here are both the bills. The top is for Blossom and the bottom two are for White Cat

donations have more or less stopped. please share this. if everyone who sees this shares it and gives the minimum donation we could get our cats teeth taken care of. it’s not comfortable for them and i want to make their lives less painful ):

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lend your local lesbian a hand

I hate to do this, but I’m no longer employed due to COVID-19, as I was a teacher. I’m immunocompromised, so I cannot safely go back into the job I was trained for, and I’ve not been able to draw unemployment, either. 

While I am looking for employment currently, circumstances have arisen leaving me in desperate need: I can no longer afford the apartment I’m in. I’m putting out advertisements for anyone to sublease from me, but the rent is spiking up to $900. I’ve got $1,000 in my bank account, but I’ve still got to make car payments and buy food. My family is largely unemployed, though my mother is starting a new job in the coming week, so they cannot offer me much help. 

Please, if you can offer any assistance, I would be indebted to you.

My Venmo is wes-bing

My CashApp is $WesBing

My PayPal is wes.bingg@gmail.com

If you are not comfortable giving donations, I’d be happy to take commission work as well - my artwork can be found under my ‘my art’ tag, and I’ll post some examples below.

B/W Sketch: $10

Flat Color Sketch: $25

‘Painted’ Sketch: $50

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Hi I’m never here but I figured I’d share with y’all that I have a top surgery consult scheduled for September! For anyone who was invested in my gender journey lol

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vendetta06

being gay is like.... we’re friends.... but are we flirting?.... now we’re fake flirting.... or is this serious flirting?.... we’re really good friends..... you tell me I’m pretty and I call you attractive.... but we’re just being nice, right?.... and I’m down to kiss.... if you want....

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Hey my cat and my mother in law’s cat both need dental surgery!!! Blossom just recently underwent emergency surgery and we were blessed enough to be able to pay for that out of pocket but this is something that requires a little more money and planning.

You would be helping blossom but ALSO sweet “white cat” who belongs to my mother in law. They’re both older cats who have dental issues and need help to continue having a long, pain free life.

Here are both the bills. The top is for Blossom and the bottom two are for White Cat

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crvwly

super jazzed that i'm starting my new job on friday (6/19) !!!! HOWEVER, i will not get paid for at least two weeks after starting, and i am running dangerously low on gas and my bank account is empty (and i have therapy tomorrow which is going to put it in the negatives)

that being said, if you're able to send a few bucks my way for gas and food for the next two weeks, i would appreciate it beyond belief !!!

cashapp is $geminiasis

OR paypal.me/gemsheps

much appreciated my friends ❤

hey all, i hate to keep asking for financial help but if anyone is able to toss a few dollars to my cashapp $geminiasis or my paypal.me/gemsheps, i'm out of two of my medications and the cost will be at least $20 and i only have $10 left after necessary expenses 🖤 i can't wait for my first paycheck lmfao

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junabug

Help a trans woman GET BACK ON HORMONE THERAPY this pride month!!!

My name is Juna and I started transitioning nearly a decade ago. That photo on the left was taken 4 years ago, shortly after I had to stop taking E. Can you tell how happy I was? That same happiness isn’t there in the picture on the right.. from this afternoon. I can’t tell you how horrible it is to be in the wrong body, and watch things finallty start to change for the better… …and then to have it snatched out of your fingertips by capitalism and a thoughtless pharmaceutical industry.  I’ve set up a GOFUNDME though I’ve got very little hopes that it’ll go anywhere..so I also have paypal and cashapp (below) also set up to recieve donations. The goal on gofundme is a very lofty 5000$ which would pay for hormones for 2-3 years and would help me meet rent which I am regularly 2-300$ short on. But in reality, about 900$ would be enough to replace my almost-totally-gone wardrobe, get back on hormones for a few months, and replace my makeup (that my mom used almost all of while I was living stealth, but i forgive her) If you have clothing or makeup youd like to donate, just inbox me! I really appreciate that too! Gofundme paypal.me/justjuna cash.me/$junabugs

(If possible, use paypal or cashapp simply because I dont 100% trust gofundme ive heard bad things about them!)

Please. Please. PLEASE reblog this. A reblog can be EXTREMELY helpful, please put this infront of as many eyes as possible!

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Commissions Are Open!

I am opening commissions back up at their normal pricing! I have four different types of commission styles available with varying prices depending on what you want. All commission prices include UP TO 2 characters/figures/people. Please read all the way through for any additional pricing.

  • LINELESS SHADING: $65 for full body, $55 for half body.
  • FULL COLOR SHADING: $45 for full body, $40 for half body.
  • FLAT COLOR/NO SHADING: $30 for full body, $25 for half body.
  • BLACK & WHITE: $20 for full body, $15 for half body.
  • SIMPLE BACKGROUND: additional $5 to $10
  • COMPLEX BACKGROUND: additional $15 to $20

If you’re interested in commissioning me, please send me an email at andsarahbellesaid@gmail.com ! Include “commission” somewhere in the subject line, please! The turns round time is anywhere from 2-4 weeks, depending on the complexity of the commission, the style, and how long the queue is.

Thank you!

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I don't get seasonal depression, I just get slightly sleepier and more irritable and mopey when I don’t get any sunlight, but when I said this to my doctor she was like “you should still get a lightbox” and I did and now I have way more energy.  The moral of the story is, if you spend time thinking to yourself “well I don’t actually have [diagnosable problem], I have [milder version that I can just ignore]”, you could instead of just ignoring it get the accommodation for the problem and see if it improves your life. I do not expect to remember this next time I “don’t actually have the real problem”, but maybe eventually I will learn.

We treat accommodations like something that you can only have if you’re really really desperately suffering and cannot function at all without them, but that’s… really really not the case. Or at least it shouldn’t be.

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comp-lady

Not to uuuhhh highjack this post, but I have some experience with this. Not only does it corroborate the above but I have found that even you don’t have any need for whatever accommodation that also shouldn’t bar you from getting one if you just…

want it

see years ago my grandmother was diagnosed with cancer, and as happens with progressing cancer her mobility was drastically reduced. To help combat this and allow her to retain independence at home Papa (my grandfather) got a shower chair. This is about as self-descriptive as it can get, it is a chair made of metal and plastic that sits in your shower or bathtub. I’m sure those with physical disabilities are already quite familiar with them, for those of you that aren’t just google it.

Eventually my grandmother passed. A couple years after my dad had to stay at Papa’s house for a couple weeks, for his own medical reasons. While there he discovered that Papa had kept the chair. And while Papa was old he was hardly infirm, he didn’t use a cane or have any severe mobility issues. Certainly none that would have affected his ability to stand in the shower. The conversation went more or less as such:

Dad: Why they hell did you keep the shower chair, dad? You don’t need it

Papa: Kevin, you wait until you use it. Then you’ll know why I kept it.

My dad was disbelieving tbh, to him chairs in showers when you don’t need them was a thing that like. Lazy rich people had. wtf could be so great about being able to sit in the shower? Why would an able-bodied person even need to? it’s a fucking shower? wash urself and then get out. Then he used the chair, and according to him it was like he’d had a proper religious revelation. Shortly after his return home (tbh the amount of time it took for him to take a shower sans chair) my dad went out and bought a shower chair.

The ensuing conversation with my mother went as such:

Mom: Kevin why did you buy that? We don’t need it!

Dad: Just use it once, this will change your life.

And it did. After using the chair for the first time my mom straight up wanted to know why they had never thought to get a chair for the shower before. Ever since we have had a chair in the shower.

It has proven itself invaluable.

  • Exhausted but covered in grime from yardwork so you HAVE to wash before doing anything else? shower chair
  • Don’t have the spoons to stand in the shower? shower chair
  • Leg/hip/back injury slowly getting worse over time making standing for long periods a difficult matter? shower chair
  • Home from work and just want to shower but your feet are killing you? shower chair
  • can’t keep your balance when masturbating in the shower? shower chair
  • want to write fic in ur head without your feet starting to hurt because you maybe spent a little too long standing there in spray? shower chair
  • disassociating? shower chair
  • gotta shave your legs? shower chair
  • crying because you’ve now realized how much easier being able to sit down and prop up a leg makes shaving while in the shower? shower chair

I have no current mobility issues, and yet if I had to move house tomorrow a shower chair of my own would be one of the first things I purchase for my own home.

It’s so easy to fall into the trap of “this could make my life easier but do I really need it?” And y’know what maybe you don’t need it. Maybe you don’t need that accommodation, but maybe it would make your life easier anyway. When it comes to things that you keep in your home for personal use does it really matter? Besides there is always the very real chance that buying it now, when you don't’ need it but can afford it, will save your ass down the line when you suddenly do desperately need it.

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melredcap

I would also like to point out: if able-bodied people start using things that were originally designed as disability accommodations, they become normalised. They become acceptable. And then all of a sudden they’re widely available, they usually become cheaper, and disabled people don’t get shit for needing them.

Buy the damn shower chair. Get a JarKey so you don’t need gorilla strength to open the pickled onions. Install soft-touch taps. Revel in your newly comfortable life while also making the world a slightly more disability-friendly place.

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biglawbear

*banging fist on table* CURB CUTTER EFFECT

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