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having a job is very weird bcos by and large your coworkers will be a variety of ages and you will not all be at the same stage of life. your coworker will be like, well I’m off home to spend time with my husband & child, what are you going to do with your evening? and you’re like, well, I plan on playing Rollercoaster Tycoon for as much as it as possible
This is the kind of violence that stems from the toxic thought of the 'friendzone'.
Women do not owe you sex. If they want to date men who you consider 'brutes' then you respect their choices because they don't owe you anything. And if you don't think that this exists, look at the foul comments on articles on videos of people saying 'thats what they get for ignoring him.' Violence against women is apparently understandable because women are objects. If women do not obey the men in their life they deserve to be thrown away, abused, and destroyed.
Male hegemony is disgusting. All men have this ingrained into them from the moment of their birth, due to this culture. They MUST spend their time attempting to analyze it and stop participating in those behaviors. Men are disgusting, because they have been socialized to be so. And yes. ALL men. My heart goes out to the victims whose only crime was having free will or existing on the same campus with men.
Redirecting to www.avclub.com without improving their search engine position.
Thanks Dan Savage, for defining bisexuality for us. I understand and even agree with your call for bisexual people to come out to their friends and families (IF THEY FEEL SAFE TO DO SO) The call to come out has been heavily criticized in the past as it feels like it is defining what it is to be a ‘good’ LGBT person, but those who can coming out can be very beneficial. HOWEVER, Dan Savage, people do not call you biphobic for saying bisexual people should come out. We call you biphobic for saying that gay men shouldn’t date bi men, because they are not interested in long term relationships. Because you’ve said that bisexual is a step to coming out as gay. Because you say that people HAVE to come out or they’re not being part of the movement. And because you have decided it is up to you, a gay man, to define what bisexuality is. yourfaveisproblematic fucknodansavage for more resources on Dan Savage. Dan Savage is also extremely transphobic, has refused to apologize for using “t****y” and should probably just stop.
People of Athens: If you are a male who was sexually abused as a child, or if you know someone who was, please be aware of this program being held tomorrow night. Here are the details:
This Thursday, at the Athens Community Center, WOUB and the Scripps College of Communication will sponsor a male sexual abuse discussion, which includes a screening of the movie "Boys to Men Healing." The program will consist of screening the movie and then a panel discussion with Dr. Howard Fradkin, MaleSurvivor co-founder, Advisory Board member and nationally known psychologist; and sexual abuse survivors. The event starts at 7 p.m. and is open to the public.
Ohio University student stories describing personal experiences involving sexual violence.
Just a reminder to anyone interested in sharing their stories about sexual assault and violence on campus in a safe place, It Happens Here is now live and accepting submissions
This semester EmBODY Consent will be working on a couple of projects, the first of these being our own It Happens Here magazine.
We will be publishing stories of sexual assault and gender based violence at OU. We are accepting submissions to the tumblr for now until the website for It Happens Here is up and running. If you have any stories you would like to share, feel free to send them to us, anonymous is entirely allowed. Send any questions about it to the ask box!
We'll be printing the final cut of these over in the next month! This was adapted largely from khaoskomix's guide but in a printable form so we can pass it out to people
The full text (Feel free to point out any errors or problematic phrasing)
[pg 1]An EmBODY Consent/Fuck Rape Culture Zine
Adapted from KhaosKomix
SO WE WANT TO HAVE SEX…
Take 1 for you and 1 for a partner!
I identify as:
I prefer the following identity words: (Man, woman, top, bottom, femme, butch, boi, etc)
[pg 2] Refer to my chest and genitals as:
Words that I find uncomfortable/triggering are:
Other triggers I have are:
For the following questions use the scale:
1 Absolutely not
2 Not interested
3 Maybe/Unsure
4 Interested
5 Absolutely
[pg 3] Birth Control/Family Planning
*Skip if you're in a same-sex relationship or otherwise can't get pregnant
__Doing anything sexual which poses a risk of pregnancy without a reliable form of birth control
__Doing anything sexual which poses a risk of pregnancy with a reliable form of birth control
__Using emergency contraception
__Becoming pregnant
__Creating a pregnancy with a partner
__Helping a partner through a pregnancy
__Experience a loss with pregnancy (miscarriage or abortion)
__Supporting a partner through a loss with pregnancy
__Parenting with a partner
__Parenting by myself
__Paying child support for a pregnancy I co-created
__Terminating a pregnancy (abortion)
__Choosing adoption if there was a pregnancy
[pg 4]Sexual Acts
__Masturbation
__Holding hands
__Hugging
__Kissing (cheek or face)
__Kissing (Closed mouth)
__Kissing (Open mouth)
__Being kissed or touched on the neck
__Kissing or touching partner’s neck
__Giving hickeys
__Getting hickeys
__Wresting or play fighting
__General massage, giving
__General massage, receiving
__Having my chest/breasts and or nipples touched or rubbed
__Touching or rubbing a partner’s breasts, chest, and or nipples
__Frottage (dry humping)
__Tribadism (Rubbing naked genitals together)
__Masturbating in front of a partner
__Partner masturbating in front of me
__Receiving manual sex (hands/fingers in/on penis/vagina)
__Giving manual sex (hands/fingers in/on penis/vagina)
__Receiving manual sex in/around anus
__Giving manual sex in/around anus
__Ejaculating (coming) on or in a partner’s body
[pg 5]__Having a partner ejaculate on or in my body
__Using sex toys alone (vibrators, dildos, masturbation sleeves)
__Using sex toys with a partner
__Receiving oral sex
__Giving oral sex
__Receiving anal oral sex
__Giving anal oral sex
__Vaginal intercourse (receptive partner)
__Vaginal intercourse (insertive partner)
__Anal intercourse (receptive partner)
__Anal intercourse (insertive partner)
__Involving food in sex
__Cross dressing during sex
__Partner cross dressing during sex
__Biting/scratching a partner
__Being bitten/scratched by a partner
__Wearing something that covers my eyes
__Having a partner wearing something that covers their eyes
__Having movement restricted
__Restricting the movement of a partner
__Being slapped or spanked by a partner in the context of sexual pleasure
__Slapping or spanking a partner in the context of sexual pleasure
__Pinching or having any kind of clamp used on body during sex
__Clamping or pinching a partner’s body during sex
[pg 6] Social Expectations
__Talking to friends about sex life
__Exclusive romantic relationship
__Exclusive sexual relationship
__Dating other people
__Having sex with other people
__Involving multiple people in sex
__Directing others during sex
__Being directed during sex
Is there anything else about your expectations from this relationship you would like your partner to know?
Sexual safety
__Sharing sexual history
__Using a condom
__Using a dental dam
__Using lubricant
__Getting STI Testing
__Being unable to communicate during sex
__Partner being unable to communicate during sex
__Sex after drinking/Intoxication
[pg 7]Our Bodies
__ Affectionate touching without asking first
__Sexual touching without asking first
__Public affectionate touching
__Public sexual touching
__Partial nudity in front of partner
__Full nudity in front of partner
__Having a disability, identity, or difference being made a part of sex.
__Menstrual Sex
__Shaving my own pubic hair
__My partner shaving their pubic hair.
__Extended eye contact
__Having my body stared at
__Talking about each other’s bodies
Some parts of my body are just off limits. Those are:
I am not comfortable looking at, touching, or feeling some parts of another person’s body. Those are:
[pg 8]DON’T STOP HERE
Compare your results with your partner(s)
Talk about your results.
Anything you felt was missing or want to clarify?
What sexual fantasies do you have?
As I've said, if anything strikes you as off, reply to it or send us an ask so we can fix the problems!
After serving less than a year in a juvenile detention center, Ma’lik Richmond is free.
Ma’lik Richmond, who was found “delinquent” in last March’s Steubenville rape case, has been released from an Ohio juvenile detention facility, WTRF reports.
In part of his statement, Richmond’s lawyer, Walter Madison, praised his client’s courage in the face of the unimaginable hardship (or “hardness,” as Madison put it) of being a 16-year-old convicted rapist:
The past sixteen months have been extremely challenging for Ma’Lik and his extended family. At sixteen years old, Ma’Lik and his family endured hardness beyond imagine for any adult yet alone child. He has persevered the hardness and made the most of yet another unfortunate set of circumstances in his life.
There was no mention of the 16-year-old Richmond was sent to jail for raping, nor any hardships she may have faced when, in an “unfortunate set of circumstances,” Richmond and his football teammate Trent Mays sexually assaulted her. Richmond and Mays’ victim’s lawyer, Bob Fitzsimmons, noted this in his statement:
Although everyone hopes convicted criminals are rehabilitated, it is disheartening that this convicted rapist’s press release does not make a single reference to the victim and her family - whom he and his co-defendant scarred for life. One would expect to see the defendant publicly apologize for all the pain he caused rather than make statements about himself. Rape is about victims, not defendants. Obviously, the people writing his press release have yet to learn this important lesson.
Richmond was sentenced to one year in a juvenile facility — the minimum he could have received. He began serving his time on April 1. How nice for him that he got out early.
Madison has appealed the verdict, arguing that Richmond’s brain wasn’t “fully developed” enough to know that what he was doing was wrong, and therefore he should not have to register as a sex offender.
In November, a grand jury indicted four adults — including Steubenville High School’s superintendent Michael McVey — for their role in the case (they plead not guilty last month). It’s not over yet.
Updates on the case that prompted us to begin this blog.
Damn. Spot-on.
wow that is accurate
i need to go cry for a few hours now
This is very true, but also potentially triggering. Read with caution, please.
Ohio University is going to be starting our own It Happens Here magazine.
(Middlebury has an excellent one, check it out here: http://www.ihhmidd.org/)
We'll be publishing submissions online, anonymous submissions welcomed, about people's experiences with sexual violence. If you'd like to submit your story, feel free to email me at ct197109@ohio.edu, or send me an ask. You don't have to tell me your name, just share your story.
An interesting study that looks at sexual assault statistics by orientation.
Hi and welcome to the Trans Women’s Survivor Network! We are a project dedicated to creating space where trans women and all CAMAB trans people can discuss our experiences with violence and abuse together.
There’s a huge culture of denying this space to trans...
Hi! I am a peer advocate for OUSAP and I just wanted to let you know that we here at the program love and support what you are doing! For everyone else who is a survivor or a victim of Sexual Violence, Stalking, or Domestic Violence we are here and we want to help! 740-597- SAFE (7233)
Thanks for your support. I'm publishing this to give any followers a remdinder of the OUSAP number. If you're at Ohio University and you need help, call them!
A new paper published in the academic journal American Politics Research found that policymakers are far more likely to enact “teacher quality” bills when white student achievement drops—but not when graduation rates are poor among African American students.
Whether white citizens realize it, they’re more likely to prioritize education as an important issue only when white students aren’t doing as well—while they are not at all likely to prioritize it when African American student achievement lags. The research also discovered that when white students were doing comparatively worse, ranking in the 10th percentile, states enacted two more education policy reforms than when white students were doing well, scoring in the 90th percentile. There was no such legislative action correlated to poor achievement rates by black students.
Evidence illustrating what we all already know to be true. Public apathy, erasure and disdain for black students lead to education policy that directly ignores their needs and futures. But of course, please tell me more about how the black community is in a cycle of poverty and just doesn’t value education. In reality we have students literally calling out for help to deaf #teamcolorblind ears.
http://apr.sagepub.com/content/early/2013/05/01/1532673X13482967.abstract here is the abstract to the paper. Not at all surprising
So apparently people have been interpreting this picture in a different way than what I expected. The original intent of this picture was to say that someone's arousal (In this case a person with a penis) does not mean that they have consented to sex. This was supposed to acknowledge that men are raped, to combat people saying 'how could she rape him, he clearly wanted it, he had an erection" Others have seen this as saying that just because you are aroused by someone does not give you permission to have sex with them. I agree with this. This is a good sentiment. If this is what you got out of this picture, that's fine. This was just an unexpected interpretation.
*Edited because of accidental cissexism. Sorry to anyone i offended.
