If your girlfriend ever says “if you really loved me you would/wouldn’t xxxxx”, that’s not cute, that’s manipulative.
If your girlfriend ever hits you or demoralises you and then says “sorry, it’s my time of the month” don’t believe her, that’s abusive.
If your girlfriend ever apologises the next day and says “I REALLY am sorry babe” don’t believe her, get out of there, because that’s abusive.
If your girlfriend ever pressures you into sex by insulting you or saying “you’re not gay are you” or stuff meant to hurt you personally, don’t believe her because she’s abusive.
We put so much emphasis on the fact that women are always the victims of abuse, when they’re not. Men can be the victims of abusive relationship at the hands of their wives/girlfriends, no matter what they look like.
If your girlfriend every blackmails you, hits you, verbally attacks you, guilt trips you or destroys your possessions as punishment for anything, get out of that relationship because it’s abusive and toxic, and she will no doubt play the victim when it suits her, so get out of there as quick as you can if she shows any of the signs above, because all of that is abusive.