“Allow yourself to be a beginner. One does not begin something already being an expert at it. Improvement requires time and practice. It’ll happen, just be more patient with yourself.”
— Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin
@persep--honey / persep--honey.tumblr.com
“Allow yourself to be a beginner. One does not begin something already being an expert at it. Improvement requires time and practice. It’ll happen, just be more patient with yourself.”
— Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin
0504; vienna iii
Kagome has really just been fear level 0 since the beginning of the series
“I love you deeply and distantly, waiting for time to lead me to your side.”
— Julia de Burgos, from Song of the Simple Truth: “Offering, For You Mother,” (via violentwavesofemotion)
tumblr i’m begging you please let me reblog the big tiddy coffin
i wish there wasn’t such a stigma around being proved wrong, bc it’s a part of life, no one can be right all the time. if we didn’t feel as much shame about it i think a lot of things would change a lot faster
we all need to practice saying “I hadn’t thought of it like that” “I hadn’t seen it that way before” “I must have misunderstood the first time I heard about it” “if I had known those facts I wouldn’t have thought like I did”
Can I just say I really love @feminismandhappiness‘s addition, because for those of us who grew up being valued for our intelligence, it’s really okay if admitting you were wrong is difficult, and learning to approach it in a different way can be really helpful! Here are some other ways that might be easier to digest, for those of us who have trouble with the whole “I was wrong” thing.
“Thank you for giving me more context!”
“That makes a lot more sense now.”
“I really appreciate the additional information on this subject.”
“Your perspective is really helping me understand this better.”
“I’m going to do some more research now that I realize how complex this issue really is.”
“I didn’t realize how much information was left out when I was taught about this the first time.”
“I see that my opinion was being deliberately guided in one specific direction. Thank you for helping me realize that.”
“This was way over-simplified when I first encountered it. I’m glad I’m starting to see the whole picture.”
“Now I get it!”
“You’ve given me a lot to think about, thank you!”
“I can see this is something I’ll need to look into a bit more before I jump to conclusions.”
“I am happy to have more data. Now I can draw a more accurate conclusion.”
“This is really helping me re-contextualize this issue.”
“This is much more nuanced than I realized before. I can see how the information I had access to previously has been oversimplified.”
“This really is more complicated than I originally thought. I’m glad I can take this new information into account.”
Being wrong isn’t a personal failing, but it can be difficult to realize that if you grew up being praised for being smart. Learning to accept changes of opinion as simply “new conclusions based on more thorough research” can be a really useful step in internalizing that idea.
Wow my workplace truly is a hellscape
My hobbies include reading, writing and doing neither of those things
Samwise Gamgee // The Lord of the Rings : The Return of the King It’s like in the great stories, Mr. Frodo. The ones that really mattered. Full of darkness and danger, they were. And sometimes you didn’t want to know the end. Because how could the end be happy? How could the world go back to the way it was when so much bad had happened? But in the end, it’s only a passing thing, this shadow. Even darkness must pass. A new day will come. And when the sun shines it will shine out the clearer. Those were the stories that stayed with you. That meant something, even if you were too small to understand why. But I think, Mr. Frodo, I do understand. I know now. Folk in those stories had lots of chances of turning back, only they didn’t. They kept going. Because they were holding on to something.
my kink is when people care about me and want to be in my life
Teuta Matoshi, 2020