"you're not man enough, not feminine enough"
so gender is something we can fail?
that means gender is not genetic and absolute and unchangeable
but something we can build and perform, and fail at (the standards they set) but also redefine?
if i can fail at being a woman, does that mean i'm not a woman? so does that make me another gender?
i agonized for 15 minutes about the wording of my post and you manage to simplify it with a perfect mean girls reference
Girlboy with a he/him pin on one sleeve and a she/her pin on the other. Two people sitting on either side of her aggressively correcting each other on his pronouns
*her pronouns
*his pronouns
Once upon a time there was Netflix, and it cost $8 per month to watch pretty much any movie ever made instantly. It made sense. Everybody had Netflix and life was good.
Then there was Hulu, and it seemed weird at first to have two streaming services. But basic Hulu was free and mostly streamed TV shows so it kind of made sense. Soon they charged a small fee for the convenience of streaming TV shows without ads, which also made sense.
Life was very good. People forgot that piracy even existed.
Then a few years later they added about 200 other streaming services, each one costing more than the last, and each stripping away "exclusive" content from the other services, and now there are UNSKIPPABLE COMMERCIALS and the fucking planet is on fire
nothing pisses me off more than when i see a fic on ao3 talking about reach. "this ship isn't here but i added them for reach" "this fandom tag isn't necessary but i'm adding it for reach" "reposting for reach" STOP IT!!!! this is not tiktok this is not twitter this is an ARCHIVE this is not how it works!!!
i will not deal!!!! that is not how any of this works!!!!
if you see people doing this shit, report it. its against the terms of service.
genuinely. copy the link to the fic or series, and then scroll down to the bottom of the page:
click on policy questions & abuse reports which takes you to this page:
if you scroll down, youll be able to report the fic right there but you can also check for yourself that its against ToS
all you need to do is explain that theyre deliberately mistagging things which is just not a thing on ao3 because its an archive.
by posting your fic there, ao3, has the right to manually recategorise tags. its in the ToS:
you cant deliberately mistag stuff on ao3; it is an archive. you cant tag for reach, and this is likely gonna get pat tag wranglers because they deal mostly with form not content of tags and if theyre tagging for reach, its gonna be the more popular tags.
so report the fuck out of them for it. most likely, their fic will just have tags adjusted and their account will be fine.
and if they keep doing it and get suspended for it, its their own damn fault.
also thats not even getting into the fact that mistagging fics is kinda antithetical to their goal of reaching more people because youre not reaching the people who want to read your fic?
It's always, "aces can still have sex" but never, "allos can go without sex"
Kinda makes it feel like aces *have* to be the ones to compromise in allo/ace relationships
Ways to show a home in a show or movie belongs to a Jewish character that isn't just lazily having a menorah in the shot for 0.02 seconds:
-Mezuzah on the doorpost/s
-Hamsas hanging on the wall
-Shabbat candles on a shelf somewhere
-Basket or drawer full of endless monogrammed and logo-ed Kippot from past weddings, B' Mitzvahs, and holiday parties.
-A calendar with both Hebrew and Gregorian dates on the wall
-A collection of Jewish books
-Various Jewish ritual items scattered around
I love the tension of “you can’t possibly want to be with someone like me” in queer stories, and the unbearable tension that results from someone saying “yes I very much do”
think a lot of straight stories get their tension from “is he safe? is he trustworthy?” versus like. hardly daring to believe that something this good could be happening to you of all people, as stigmatized as you are. and once you believe it you have to keep believing it, and dismantle every internal defense that keeps haranguing on that of course this isn’t happening to you because you’ve imagined the whole thing from top to bottom. the internal horror movie that goes on every time a queer person allows themselves to acknowledge something powerfully good in their lives and how much they stand to lose if it gets taken away from them.
it’s just different.
Inshallah he will be stirred into a fine fry
A delicious meal
Eight years ago I was so deeply invested in the American presidential election, I listen to multiple weekly podcasts, I was on twitter, I checked the polling updates, read the articles, watched the news, I could tell you the political happenings of every week of 2016, and we were on the road for a large portion of it so we had to work for it. We watched one of the presidential debates in a Las Vegas Panera before heading back to our campsite. I did something similar for the 2020 election because jesus christ what a fucking Historical Year. Now it’s 2024, and gearing up for the grind once more is such a dismal feeling. I don’t want to have to have an opinion on Nicky Haley’s viability as republican candidate. I don’t want to follow another twelve Trump trials. I don’t want to watch everyone even slightly left of center once again devour each other as we polarize about it’s a bigger war crime to vote for Biden or not vote for Biden. Everything is going to get so unpleasant and it’s so important and the stakes are so high and it’s gonna suck the whole time. I’m trying to think of one funny thing that could plausibly happen that would fill me with joy and not terror for the future of America and also the world, and so far I’ve only come up with Jeb Bush giving a presidential campaign another go.
AND DESTIELS NOT EVEN GOING TO BECOME CANON!!!
ok but are you willing to date a trans woman even if she never wants to have sex? will you still love her if she's ace or has sensory issues or has dysphoria or just doesn't want to ever have sex for any reason? do you still see her as a full human being worthy of respect, kindness, care, and love even knowing she will never have sex with you?
I don't think it's healthy to frame it like this. Some people want sex in a relationship and some people don't. Ostracizing people that want sex in their relationship isn't helpful.
if your trans girlfriend comes out as ace and you need sex in a relationship that she doesn't feel comfortable doing with you, then you should either work something out so that you can get your sexual needs filled elsewhere or stop dating her. this applies to all relationships of course but so many trans women are valued exclusively for their willingness to be sex objects and I'm fucking sick of it. can you imagine what it's like to be one of the most fetishized minorities in the world while being ace? do you have any idea how much it fucks with trans women's self-esteem when people lose interest in them and stop even pretending to care about them because they don't want to have sex? do you know how many of them stay with partners who coerce them into sex that they don't want so that they can at least feel like someone cares about them? you'll have to forgive me if my sympathies lie with my fellow ace trans women instead of the people who treat them as sex toys they can dispose of when they're deemed no longer useful.
being on my period makes me feel like a wounded forest animal trying to find a warm dark small place to die
just blocked a bunch of terfs, and as op may well be aware already, they’ve been rbing the unedited version of this post. on the brighter side, you can now hover over several radfem blogs and see some variation of this
Yeppp. That’s why I had to add the banner. Blocking them is like whack-a-mole.
…..ok
my bf found the image so i can explain it now
my mom would write bible verses on like anything when i was younger so this happened
OH THATS REALLY FUNNY
I don't know who needs to hear this, but
YOU DO NOT NEED TO START A NEW HOBBY!
STEP AWAY FROM THE TEXTILES!
YOU DON'T NEED MORE YARN!
THAT FABRIC IS NOT CALLING TO YOU! LEAVE IT ALONE!
boy it's me the textiles speaking to you inside your head. you need the yarn. you need thread. your soul hungers to participate in the act of creation. you must feed it. you must buy so many beads.
looking for fics about your favorite character on ao3 be like:
dont care
dont care
dont care
what the actual fuck
dont care
ooh that sounds- what the fuck
unfinished
don't care
the best fic ive ever read in my life. this absolutely ruined me and ill never be the same ever again
dont care
my partner doesn’t use pet names nearly as much as i do, which is very funny because i will crack my gay little knuckles and say some shit like “good morning my sun and moon, my loveliest boy, my baby my sweetheart my darling dearest” and he will reply “hello adrian”
They need to invent more fake celebrities like Hatsune Miku and Gorillaz and the Muppets because it's genuinely the most sustainable way to maintain a parasocial relationship with the entertainer class.
Kermit the Frog can never get canceled because Kermit the Frog has no agency or personhood beyond what he is imbued with by the collective labor of puppeteers, voice actors, singers, and writers. He is, along with these other examples, effectively a celebrity by gestalt. He has transcended the inherit instability of the celebrity class through diffusion of responsibility for his personhood. He is a god.