Taika Waititi, spreading the love.
YES, TAIKA WAITITI. SPEAK THE TRUTH.
Taika Waititi, spreading the love.
YES, TAIKA WAITITI. SPEAK THE TRUTH.
This is Thomas and what she lacks in a chin she more than makes up for in whiskers.
Tommy Orange, There There (via thehappyscavenger)
you couldnt pay me to leave this website
buzzfeed is on its second week of massive layoffs, including the lovely person who ran the BuzzFeed Tumblrs like BF Unsolved and weirdbuzzfeed, and who did the Dress, and a lot of their UK teams and their national news and investigative reporting on the BuzzFeed News side.
by the way, the current and now former buzzfeed employees just signed a petition asking BF to pay out their paid time off since reporters rarely take it because they’re worked to the bone, and all of them were laid off after having worked there for years.
Ballerina Enrica “Ricki” Soma with her daughter Anjelica Huston, photographed by Philippe Halsman, 1946. Source
Well, that explains a lot.
Ahoy folx,
Current yacht status………surrounded by frogmen. The situation is bleak. I mean, it’s OK. They aren’t closing in yet. The sense of lurking, regardless, is overwhelmingly piquant. So, situation-wise, as I see it, it’s just sort of progressing toward untenable? Basically, times are tough, it is what it is. Our predicament is sticky, and of growing urgency, like an ice lolly eaten on a torrid July stoop. Thus, our polycube, whose collective interest I represent in property dealings (it’s my trust money), requires a more satisfactory vessel to carry us and our fortunes securely.
I’ve done some serious soul-searching, pored over each of six issues of Superyacht World in my estate agent’s reception area, conference-called my medium and an ancestor of mine, Müezzinzade Ali Pasha, who was taken at Lepanto, and, now centuries at sea, is an unparalleled source of expertise on naval matters. Curse you John of Austria, you bastard.
This all is to say, truly, it’s a tiddlywink of a poser it is, to track down a new sea-palace apposite to our polycube’s tastes and purposes, and mine (it’s my trust, assholes). Where can I acquire a vessel which won’t displease me? Or else, which will, yet will please me, too, to a greater degree? That—well, I’d consider it, as a compromise, if necessary. This whole horrible affair is just so, so stressful. Alas! I feel, frankly, unmoored.
These are our criteria. Have you knowledge of a so-appointed vessel?
Ay? Have ye clapped eye on such a rare lady? Have ye? Have ye?
I am going to experience a total, total, total breakdown unless I find my ideal yacht soon. Help me.
So pretty.
i see a lot of quotes from Lundy Bancroft’s excellent book Why Does He Do That circulating on this website, but i’ve never really seen the last chapter quoted. So this is an excerpt from it: “Creating an Abuse-free World”.
(A note: the book is written for women who suffer intimate partner violence at the hands of men, because it is sorely needed and because that’s what the author has professional experience with. However, this insight is valuable for people of all genders, and also in situations in which the abuser is not a partner or former partner.)
“How can I help my daughter, sister, or friend who is being abused?
If you would like to make a significant difference in the life of an abused woman you care about, keep the following principle fresh in your mind: your goal is to be the complete opposite of what the abuser is.
THE ABUSER: Pressures her severely
SO YOU SHOULD: Be patient. Remember that it takes time for an abused woman to sort out her confusion and figure out how to handle her situation. It is not helpful for her to try to follow your timetable for when she should stand up to her partner, leave him, call the police, or whatever step you want her to take. You need to respect her judgement regarding when she is ready to take action - something her abuser never does.
THE ABUSER: Talks down to her
SO YOU SHOULD: Address her as an equal. Avoid all traces of condescension or superior knowledge in your voice. This caution applies just as much or more to professionals. If you speak to an abused woman as if you are smarter or wiser than she is, or as if she is going through something that could never happen to you, then you inadvertently confirm exactly what the abuser has been telling her, which is that she is beneath him. Remember, your actions speak louder than your words.
THE ABUSER: Thinks he knows what is good for her better than she does
SO YOU SHOULD: Treat her as the expert on her own life. Don’t assume that you know what she needs to do. I have sometimes given abused women suggestions that I thought were exactly right but turned out to be terrible for that particular situation. Ask her what she thinks might work and, without pressuring her, offer suggestions, respecting her explanations for why certain courses of action would not be helpful. Don’t tell her what to do.
THE ABUSER: Dominates conversations
SO YOU SHOULD: Listen more and talk less. The temptation may be great to convince her what a “jerk” he is, to analyze his motives, to give speeches covering entire chapters of this book. But talking too much inadvertently communicates to her that your thoughts are more important than hers, which is exactly how the abuser treats her. If you want her to value her own feelings and opinions, then you have to show her that you value them.
THE ABUSER: Believes he has the right to control her life
SO YOU SHOULD: Respect her right to self-determination. She is entitled to make decisions that are not exactly what you would choose, including the decision to stay with her abusive partner or to return to him after a separation. You can’t convince a woman that her life belongs to her if you are simultaneously acting like it belongs to you. Stay by her even when she makes choices that you don’t like.
THE ABUSER: Assumes he understands her children and their needs better than she does
SO YOU SHOULD: Assume that she is a competent, caring mother. Remember that there is no simple way to determine what is best for the children of an abused woman. Even if she leaves the abuser, the children’s problems are not necessarily over, and sometimes abusers actually create worse difficulties for the children postseparation than before. You cannot help her to find the best path for her children unless you have a realistic grasp of the complicated set of choices that face her.
THE ABUSER: Thinks for her
SO YOU SHOULD: Think with her. Don’t assume the role of teacher or rescuer. Instead, join forces with her as a respectful and equal team member.
Notice that being the opposite of the abuser does not simply mean saying the opposite of what he says. If he beseeches her with “Don’t leave me, don’t leave me,” and you stand on the other side badgering her with, “Leave him, leave him,” she will feel that you’re much like him; you are both pressuring her to accept your judgement of what she should do. Neither of you is asking the empowering question, “What do you want to do?”
happy halloween
Look, sometimes murders of crows will blacken the sky at your coming and ravening wolves are gonna follow in your wake, and you’re just gonna have to deal with that, and everybody else in the Costco is just gonna have to deal too
Concha. Óleo sobre tela. 120 cm x 120 cm. 2011
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Omfg this just brought up my whole mood