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The Wizard House

@vaspider / vaspider.tumblr.com

I PUBLISH ALL ASKS. Please block "harassment tag" to avoid the terrible shit people sometimes send me. Send all NerdyKeppie questions to help @ nerdykeppie.com He/They. Jewish middle-aged non-binary butch lesbian. Find my writing in Scion 2e, Changeling: The Lost, Vampire: The Requiem, & others. NerdyKeppie.com - Quality Queerwear Become a Patron, get queer writing for $1 wish list
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Intro Post, updated February 21, 2024

I post all asks under the name they were submitted under, and I answer at my whim and not upon demand. I will never honor a request to answer an ask privately or anonymously. Anon is never turned on. These are hard self-care boundaries. Please block the tag "harassment tag" if you don't want to be subjected to some of the horrible shit I get sent sometimes.

If you like what I do, please consider hiring me, buying something from my company, NerdyKeppie, buying me a coffee, becoming a Patron or tossing some money in my PayPal tip jar. I am a disabled, queer, Jewish non-binary butch, and those sources plus freelance writing are my entire income.

If asking me to boost a post for you, ask at most once per week, and please don't make that the only way you interact with me, or follow me just to send an ask that I boost your posts. I notice, and I'll end up just blocking you if you make me feel used.

I will not debate my identity with anyone. I am a transmasculine non-binary butch lesbian, a cripple, a dyke, and lots of other things, too. You don't get a vote in that, and if any of those words are words you can't stand to have someone use around you in reference to himself, go ahead and block me. I won't censor my identity for your comfort; it took a lot of hard work over many years to become proud of who I am.

No, I am not an anti or an anti-anti. Leave me alone.

Do the work to root out TERF/2nd-wave "man bad woman good" philosophies from your head. Do the work to root out the gendered behavior you were taught. I am not here to raise other people's children.

ACAB includes gender/sexuality cops. You aren't the mayor of Dyketown, fuck off.

I do not consent to responsibility for other people's children. My daughter is an adult. I raised my kid. I'm not raising you or any other kids. By continuing to interact with me, you acknowledge that you chose to do that.

No, I won't DM you.

Curate your own online experiences. If you don't like seeing what I write, then add 'vaspider' to your "filtered content" list and don't bother me about it. Tumblr is a 17+ environment and I am not responsible for you seeing things you don't like. Adults having adult conversations do not need to be filtered for children. This is your notification.

I’ve been Out for over 30 years. I don't tolerate lectures from strangers, especially people half my age, about history I lived through.

Anyone who tries to turn you on your fellow trans people is a fucking Fed.

No, I won't answer your question about Israel.

The only "feminine" term I accept is Mom, which is a job title to me. Some people call me Mama Spider, and that's fine by me.

My icon has lore, apparently.

I post all asks and anon is never turned on.

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omg you’re so right men are not dangerous to women at all so i guess i can totally go out alone at night all by myself and if i get raped by a man it will surely mean nothing and i should keep trusting men and think there is nothing wrong with them 😍😍😍

Trusting every strange man in the dark β‰  understanding that men aren’t ontologically evil, OR necessarily your personal oppressors, which is what I am saying. Women have literally killed or gotten killed men (especially men of color) that THEY have privilege over on some axes due their fear. So yeah, there is a way to fear men too much. This is how you get radical feminism. This is how you get TERFism. It feeds hate groups like MRAs to be genuinely hated for the way they were born. And it’s not how you progress actual intersectional feminism. To do that, you have to heal your relationship with men. I’ve been raped by men. I’ve been abused by men. But I understand that, while the societal conditions men are raised under (patriarchy, rape culture) contributed, it happened because they’re personally terrible people, not because they were born male. Acting like it is can lead you to dismiss the fact that women can pose just as much of a danger if they’re similarly terrible people. So, I’m working on healing my relationship with men. When you’re ready, you should too. I promise you it feels better than being uneasy for the rest of your life.

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doberbutts

tbh I lived as a girl and a woman because I was forced to for two decades and I also frequently walked home at night from college at like 3am and was frequently out in the woods by myself and even walked by bars and even 😱 spoke to strange men I didn't know 😱 and you know what?

The men and boys who bothered me were people who knew me. Kids from school. Teachers, church-goers, family members. Boyfriends.

Not a single stranger. I think that one should take whatever precautions they feel are necessary, including self defense courses and learning how to handle a weapon of their choice. That's what I did when I started walking home alone in the dark. But I think it's better to have a serious talk about actual assault statistics, because you are far more likely to be cornered by someone you know and trust than by a stranger lurking in the bushes.

Not to mention the focus on the stranger in the bushes is in part informed directly by racist, ableist, and xenophobic fears, maybe it is time to be realistic about who is actually dangerous to you instead of blaming a faceless stranger for something your dad is statistically more likely to enact upon you.

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there is no heterosexual explanation for this.

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r0rschach

What happens!!?? I want this romance…. so cute

Ummm im here for vintage lesbians

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weirddyke

i’m sure someone probably commented on this post already but this is calamity jane, they eventually move into a tiny cabin together and sing a song about how β€œa woman’s touch” can fix anything. i watched this movie daily when i was about 7 and now i’m a dyke

my butch lesbian professor who is well into her sixties had told me that this was her first real exposure to the concept that a woman could not only be attracted to other women, but be butch while doing it. she said this movie propelled her into her sexuality with a sense of pride and remains a cornerstone of her coming-out journey. in short, representation matters and always has.Β 

Reblogging for Calamity Jane, actual lesbian disaster.

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That's the goal: eliminate humans to save Gaia.

what's really great about this chart is if you look closely enough you can actually see where and how the tweet is lying to you.

like ooooohhhh you got me, the CO2 levels were higher back in the fucking miocene than they are now, who gives a shit, meanwhile since industrialization emerged carbon rates have been skyrocketing and are higher than they've been in several million years. not to mention given the scale of this chart you're not going to see how dramatic and sudden this change has really been since it's barely visible on the chart:

maybe consider that when you try to flatten the data down to a straight trend line from the fucking cambrian, some important nuance may be lost.

also obviously the claim that "all life evolved" in the prior epochs where CO2 was much higher is just nonsense- plenty of life has evolved in the last several million years, most notably, you know, humans, so we should maybe consider that humans are adapted to that climate and won't fare particularly well if we return the CO2/temperature to the levels they were back when dinosaurs walked the earth. yeah, the CO2 levels and temperate have changed wildly throughout earth's history, but these changes are usually related to massive extinction events, so it's probably a good idea to avoid that. you're worried that humanity is going to be sacrificed to protect gaia but what is actually more likely to happen is humanity will be sacrificed to protect short-term corporate profits. and you're helping them do it, great job.

at any rate, to turn the tweets (wrong) "all life evolved when CO2 was much higher" argument back around, all human agriculture was developed when CO2 levels were much lower (and also CO2 levels are rising rapidly) so the notion that there's any realistic risk of CO2 levels dropping too low for agriculture to be viable is completely ludicrous.

Hello, climate change lecturer here. The tweet is absolutely laughably wrong.

I shall simplify, but: life originally evolved under higher CO2 levels because the sun at that time was younger and cooler than it is now. Higher atmospheric CO2 meant the planet didn't freeze, thus allowing self-replicating proteins to turn into single celled organisms without dying the moment night fell.

However, life (mostly bacteria) then evolved this neat trick called photosynthesis where it takes CO2 and uses sunlight energy to convert it into usable sugars. That caused a slow build up of oxygen until the more modern atmosphere evolved, and that's a good thing, because that allowed oxygen-breathing life to evolve - and that push and pull between photosynthesisers and oxygen breathers is how complex life then evolved and turned into the planet-wide ecosystems you see today.

Also, the sun is now bigger and hotter than it was. An oxygen-rich atmosphere avoids us burning the moment morning comes.

Basically, the arcanely stupid man in the tweet has done the equivalent of going 'Wait, life evolved in water?? Then we should DROWN ALL THE LANDS AND RETURN TO THE OCEANS SO LIFE CAN KEEP EVOLVING'. For those interested in learning more about this viewpoint, I recommend PokΓ©mon Sapphire.

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vaspider

Are we gonna ignore the ecofascism in OP's comments orrrrrr?

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sangrefae

chilchuck short kings anthem fancam bc i had to

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vaspider

If you immediately went "okay but where's the whole song" (like I did):

A+ OP, 10s across the board

(To be clear, I haven't watched this yet bc my partners have never been in the mood for it when I am. I'm stuck in bed today tho so maybe I'll actually do the thing.)

Update: this video convinced me to put the show on finally.

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tim-official

the current trend of "tumblr users embarrassing themselves by proudly announcing why they don't listen to any music made by black people" is really astounding.

i cannot help but think this is a direct result of liberal White Guilt and how people have interpreted "anti-racism" as form of cultural self-segregation - the kind of person who thinks trying to cook chicken curry is cultural appropriation, or sends white people anon hate for wearing a kimono (yes, this kind of discourse happened). like, "oh, no, i could never participate in this culture, i'd get my evil white hands all over it! it would be more Progressive if I only did White things."

if you're a poc you've seen this, i'm sure - this deer-in-the-headlights stare you can get from white people when you play music / show art / share a story / anything that is Racially Coded, this total refusal to actually engage with it out of fear that it is in some way Wrong for them to have any opinion on it. because they read somewhere that it's bad to use AAVE but the only lesson they actually learned from that is "gotcha, white people are not allowed to interact with other cultures as punishment for my White Crimes. this helps to fill up the gaping pit of my white guilt and makes me one of the Good People." this transforms their discomfort around non-white cultures (black culture, especially, i should add) into a kind of virtue

anyway if you are white and reading this. go listen to some fucking haliu mergia. ethiopian jazz. will knock your dick right off. go listen to rap or reggae or bollywood and have a genuine reaction to it - like, an actual, from-the-heart reaction. you are allowed to not like some of it. but you will definitely like at least a little. yes, you can compare it to lemon demon (or whatever) if that helps you get into it and that's your only point of reference. maybe don't say that part out loud. but don't, like, separate yourself from it, like you are seeing it in a museum and the only polite thing to do is go "ahh, huh, very interesting, so much culture here."

I did not write this nearly scolding enough.

I am disappointed that so many people reblogging this seem to have gotten the milquetoast message "appreciation is not appropriation! promote artists of color!" instead of what I'm actually trying to communicate, which is "a lot of people who call themselves well-meaning liberals are actually deeply uncomfortable around people of color and other cultures in general, so they frame their avoidance as a kind of respect so they can keep their own self-image consistent." I am not saying "aw, they mean well."

could've written it better but oh well! too late

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omgthatdress

Gwendoline Christie is the witch that lives in your garden who grants wishes and curses your enemies and only asks for a little of your blood in payment.

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