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This is a critical part of sex positivity that tends to be overlooked. Let’s celebrate empowering amazing sex and the choice to not have sex, or only have certain kinds of sex.
I like how men tell us that periods are somehow simultaneously “not that bad” and also bad enough that we shouldn’t be allowed to hold positions of power.
This is a very important and powerful text post.
Over the last few days, a number of women have come forward to accuse my husband, presidential nominee Donald Trump, of sexually assaulting them. As the candidate’s wife, I know him better than anyone, and I want to assure voters that the Donald Trump in these allegations is not the complete monster I married.
Believe me, the misogynistic, lying, pathologically self-centered Donald I know is nothing like the one these women describe.
I’ve been married to Donald Trump for more than 10 years now, and in all the times I’ve seen him treat other human beings as nothing more than objects for his own gratification, I’ve never seen him do the things he is currently being accused of.
I realize my husband has his faults. He can be impulsive, short-tempered, cruel, arrogant, bigoted, thin-skinned, manipulative, hateful, defensive, intolerant, deluded, vindictive, greedy, perverted, narcissistic, dishonest, threatening, megalomaniacal, and psychopathic. But show me an irredeemably horrible, self-obsessed person who isn’t. What I have never personally seen him do, though, in all the years I’ve listened to him say demeaning and graphically sexual things about women, is touch someone without their consent.
That is simply not the vicious, racist, dangerously unstable sociopath I wake up next to every morning.
Now, am I by Donald’s side 24 hours a day? Of course not. But based on what I’ve experienced of him as a disgusting, reprehensible egomaniac who sees only himself and denies the humanity of others, it’s hard for me to imagine him doing the things these women accuse him of. Scapegoat racial minorities? Yes. Make veiled suggestions that someone should assassinate his opponent? Sure. Degrade and humiliate women at every opportunity in his personal and professional life? Of course. But assault? I just can’t see the loathsome demon I married doing something like that.
In the coming days and weeks, the media is going to try to portray my husband as a lecherous, chauvinistic serial abuser. But what they don’t understand is that deep down inside, he’s just a prurient, sexist predator—one who doesn’t let anything get between him and the satisfaction of his immediate desires—and that’s it! Nothing more, nothing less.
I know people will say that I’m deluding myself. That I can’t read the writing on the wall. That the only way I can be psychologically comfortable continuing to live alongside such a heartless, dangerous, malignant individual is by blindly convincing myself that he could never have committed the crimes that he’s been accused of and, indeed, bragged about on tape. All I can say is that when I see him in the morning before he goes to work and at night when he returns home, Donald is simply a human horror show who has never once given a moment of thought to the hopes, dreams, struggles, or circumstances of anyone else in existence. That’s my Donald.
So before you rush to judgment, please, forget what the media is telling you for a moment, and try to see my husband the way I do: as a repugnant, repulsive cancer of a person who makes our world a crueler, more hateful place by his very existence.
That’s the real Donald Trump.
Prague on a 50 Kč coin
So this is where we are. The president is actually compelled to respond to this garbage because the GOP nominee for president has brought 9/11 and Sandy Hook truther Alex Jones into the national conversation.
THIS.
Don’t let the top of the ticket’s crazy drama distract you from the down-ballot judgments that may have significantly more impact on your day-to-day life.
This is honestly one of the reasons to vote. It’s not all about the big names, bruh
“Cat Thoughts” your cat can totally relate to (see 15 more)
Trevor unpacks Donald Trump’s “locker room talk” excuse.
me: motherhood is labour
some dood: well you know you don’t HAVE to have a mother, someone can have two FATHERS instead
me: ACTUALLY, Brent, if you’d read your feminist theory you’d know that when we say “motherhood” and specifically “motherhood is labour” we are framing motherhood as work and not as an identity linked to essentialist notions of gender, anyone can perform motherhood, the reason we use gendered language when referring to this specific type of work is that it has and continues to be disproportionately performed by women as unpaid/underpaid and undervalued “domestic labour” and this cannot be separated from patriarchal family structures under, like, patriarchy itself, looks like SOMEONE hasn’t read Sara Ruddick, maybe you should spend more time reading post-second wave feminist philosophy and less time brewing your own beer
me, emerging from the bushes: AND ANOTHER THING, Brent, a number of the more extensive studies of mlm couples co-parenting children together not only describe unique, feminine-coded labor being needed to be taken up by at least one of the parents, but describe the couples themselves being intimately aware of the dynamic and often specifically articulating that they occupy a role more similar to mother than father in some ways. So, this isn’t even an idea you have to be familiar with theory and writing to encounter, just the lives of everyone other than straight men (and probably a unique class of straight men for that matter). Just. Share your basement beer with someone who’s better conversation than Chad sometimes and you’ll learn a thing or two. Reading Ruddick would also help though.
Me, placing a hand on Brent’s shoulder: Also stop brewing beer using like, those kits that you get from the u-brew, they have high fructose corn syrup in them and it makes your beer taste like shit.
