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The Art of living naturally
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Constantly analyze yourself. Figure out why certain things upset you. Question your own motives. Understand your behavior. This creates a pathway for change. Acknowledging why you do the things you do is the first step in shifting out of toxic patterns.
my aesthetic lately is that scene in the crown where margaret has a drunken fit in her room and smashes a bunch of stuff.. only it’s just me skulking angrily around my apartment to old jazz music
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I don’t like the way people treat me when I get dressed up and go out vs. the way they would treat me when I would do the same, but when I was heavier. it’s very noticeable and profoundly uncomfortable.
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thanks for giving me representation, netflix
*and a degree in journalism
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© Leopoldo Pomés
Revista Grua, 1957
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My husband is a good man, and a good feminist ally. I could tell, as I walked him through it, that he was trying to grasp what I was getting at. But he didn’t. He said he’d try to do more cleaning around the house to help me out. He restated that all I ever needed to do was ask him for help, but therein lies the problem. I don’t want to micromanage housework. I want a partner with equal initiative.
However, it’s not as easy as telling him that. My husband, despite his good nature and admirable intentions, still responds to criticism in a very patriarchal way. Forcing him to see emotional labor for the work it is feels like a personal attack on his character. If I were to point out random emotional labor duties I carry out—reminding him of his family’s birthdays, carrying in my head the entire school handbook and dietary guidelines for lunches, updating the calendar to include everyone’s schedules, asking his mother to babysit the kids when we go out, keeping track of what food and household items we are running low on, tidying everyone’s strewn about belongings, the unending hell that is laundry—he would take it as me saying, “Look at everything I’m doing that you’re not. You’re a bad person for ignoring me and not pulling your weight.”
Bearing the brunt of all this emotional labor in a household is frustrating. It’s the word I hear most commonly when talking to friends about the subject of all the behind-the-scenes work they do. It’s frustrating to be saddled with all of these responsibilities, no one to acknowledge the work you are doing, and no way to change it without a major confrontation.
“What bothers me the most about having any conversation around emotional labor is being seen as a nag,” says Kelly Burch, a freelance journalist who works primarily from home. “My partner feels irritated and defensive by the fact that I’m always pointing out what he’s not doing. It shuts him down. I understand why it would be frustrating from his perspective, but I haven’t figured out another way to make him aware of all the emotional and mental energy I’m spending to keep the house running.
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Let’s take a drive through the sprawl Through these towns they built to change Then you said the emotions are dead It’s no wonder that you feel so estranged
The cops shone their lights On the reflectors of our bikes Said “Do you kids know what time it is?” Well, sir, it’s the first time I felt like something is mine Like I have something to give
The last defender of the sprawl Said “Well, where do you kids live?” Well, sir, if you only knew what the answer’s worth I’ve been searching every corner of the earth
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the only appropriate response, really
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Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can’t cry it away, or eat it away, or starve it away, or punch it away, or even therapy it away. It’s just there and you have to survive it. You have to endure it. You have to live through it, and love it, and move on and be better for it … across the bridge that was built by your own desire to heal.
Cheryl Strayed (via purplebuddhaquotes)
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Off the A82, Scottish Trip 2017 by Janpram
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Pet Peeves: Men Who Are Uncomfortable With Their Sexuality
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How did she do that with her eyes that’s fucking neat
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I worked for Paulette Jordan for a few months. She’s genuinely a once in a generation sort of leader that could transform Idaho politics and the state as a whole. If you or someone you know is from Idaho, think about getting involved in her campaign, and if you’re not from Idaho, think about looking her up and giving her a few dollars. It goes a long way in a small state and she’s the type of person who could go a long way with some support.