Find your light

Baby aces, please read this as I am seeing these terms swapped out and misused a lot lately.

Sex-negative, sex-neutral, sex-positive. These words are about your cultural perception of sex. What value do you assign to sex in a general sense? Is it something that is dirtybadwrong and should never be talked about or is it a potentially positive experience between two consenting adults? Should we teach kids comprehensive sex ed? What are your attitudes about kink?

Sex-repulsed/ sex-averse, sex-indifferent, sex-favorable. These words are about your personal perception of sex. Does thinking of yourself actually having sex make you feel completely grossed out or just give you an overwhelming sense of "meh"? Would you enjoy it or be willing to do it under certain circumstances or is it just icky and off the table forever?

You can be sex-repulsed and still be sex-positive. Most aces I know are sex-positive!

I've seen the aphobia rising again on tumblr and, obviously, fuck those people forever. Thinking about them is not worth the time or effort. But I do worry this growing trend I see of aces proudly proclaiming they are sex-negative when they probably mean sex-repulsed is contributing to confusion in people who would otherwise be allies. Because that first set of words is common outside of the ace community. If you tell somebody who is active in queer and leftist spaces, but knows next to nothing about asexuality, that you're "sex-negative," they are probably going to jump to very wrong and unfavorable conclusions because sex-negative attitudes are inherently anti-queer.

Edit: I put the link to AVEN's section on these terms in the replies.

all software should be open source wtf. u expect me to run this on my own computer without knowing what its doing???

car manufacturers dont weld the hoods shut to keep ppl from copying their engines. books arent written with a military-grade cipher to avoid plagiarism. and we dont let food have "secret formulas" anymore bc too often one of the "secret ingredients" was fucking lead

when ur distributing a product to the public u forfeit the right to hide whats inside it, u dont get to hand out a black box and expect ppl to just trust u when u totally swear it doesnt have a microphone inside

sometimes being out of the loop is self preservation

some brotherly bonding with Jason (he's going to cut connections with all of them) (he won't)

Damian: Baba. I’ve acquired an enemy at the academy. He’s been ripping my drawings, teasing me about my lineage, and smearing your honor. I understand murder can’t happen. How shall I proceed?

Bruce: [Has a flashback of Thomas driving to his bully’s house, spiked brass knuckles on his hands, petting his head and smiling dangerously, ‘I’ll be right back, chum!’]

Bruce: …I’ll talk to his parents.

Damian: Todd?

Jason: Finally, an excuse to tackle a 10 year old.

Jason: A family that slays together, stays together

Bruce: You mean fashion, right?

Jason: ...

Bruce: You mean fashion, right?

𝖠𝗋𝗍 𝖻𝗒 𝖠𝗇𝗇𝖺-𝖫𝖺𝗎𝗋𝖺 𝖲𝗎𝗅𝗅𝗂𝗏𝖺𝗇 | 𝖨𝖦: 𝖺𝗇𝗇𝖺𝗅𝖺𝗎𝗋𝖺_𝖺𝗋𝗍

What i made instead of writing.....

Hugh Jackman as Wolverine in X-Men First Class (#mood)

I am sorry, this is my favourite YouTube comment. You know, since Shane was all "fuck the rich".

Edit: I forgot to add where I got this from! The watcherSnark reddit

Just a few of the comments from YouTube that amused me.

reverse gaslighting where i pretend to know exactly what you are talking about

academic conferences

Work meetings

Interviews

Auditory processing disorder

conversations with my cats who are yelling

Me letting that little kid with their hyper fixation tell me every single fact they know about it

Goncharov (1973)

Being in a public facing job and dealing with the general population.

tags from coloredcompulsion:

“Could you be the chosen one?”

“I am very much the guy who’s here.”

@onewingedsparrow YES xD

Thinking about the newer bats (Duke, Cass, Steph, Tim) speculating on Jason's age because he looks like a recently divorced 30 y/o but he's younger than Dick, and he acts like a 50 year old man (he still has a Nokia, out of the loop on Internet and pop culture, primarily listens to dad rock), and after they've exhausted all their guesses Dick breezes in, informs them he's like 24, and then leaves.

The bats then have to come to terms with the fact that Jason NINETEEN when he took over the criminal underground.

@panakina

No literally he took over the Iceberg Lounge before he himself could legally drink. He probably learned how to drive from either Talia Al Ghul herself or like the world's best driving instructor or something. He was training with the best assassins in the world fresh out of the pit. It was implied he was still learning how to fight/retained muscle memory while he was catatonic. He was the subject of a century old prophecy that he would take over after Ducra, may or may not have been alive since the fucking earth existed, as the head of the ancient magic fighting society when he was like 17. He kisses the physical embodiment of shadows older than the sun. He's fucking insane and he's damn good at it and no one even cares.

And he’s 22!

i wasnt kidding when i said jason is a comical character. like even in a literal sense he is the definition of a comic book character, there is very little he cant do and doesn't do, and even then he is full capable of LEARNING how to. he is a jack of all trades and good at what he does. to suggest he's anything other than hypercompetent, intelligent, and highly skilled is a disservice