"I Would Love to Dress Like That"
You totally can!
- Most expressive fashion isn't about what you wear, it's how you wear it. I guarantee you can pull it off.
- No matter what you wear, if you act like it's fine and you're supposed to be wearing it, nobody will second guess it.
- Most people really aren't analyzing your outfits; they're busy worrying about themselves. Anyone with an opinion usually minds their business.
- Start small. Try getting one or two "statement" pieces and pair them with more simple, neutral clothes. Plaid pants with a solid top. Funky patterned shirt over some jeans. That long rockabilly skirt with a cute sweater.
- If you feel good in it, it's a good outfit. The end result is to look good, not follow a bunch of so-called fashion "rules." (Unless it's like business formal or something. Then maybe be careful.)
- You're trying to dress like you. You don't have to like or wear everything from your favorite genres or commit to only one style. Again, nobody is putting you under a microscope!
- Don't be afraid to mix patterns. Play around with what you have and experiment in your mirror. There are also lots of online tips on how to make good combos.
- Advice from my mom: Get all the way dressed up, then take one thing off, and you're good to go.
- Give yourself a rule of thumb. Mine is that before I go out, I ask the question "If I were to die today and this became my ghost outfit forever, would I be okay with that?" then make sure the answer is yes. Find a litmus test that works for you!
Looks like the terfs found this so to be clear: THIS AIN'T FOR Y'ALL. Y'all are actually a big part of the problem for having such nasty opinions about what other people are supposed to look like and be, fuck you very much.
This is about niche subculture aesthetics but also genderqueer/nonbinary expression, GNC outfits, outfits that trans people love but don't feel like they can "pull off," dressing as a fat or disabled person, and embracing outfits that capture the expression of YOU whether that look is conventional to other people or not.