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do whatever it is u want for YOU. fuck other ppls expectations, opinions, views. its ur vision for a reason so stand on it all. worrying about what everyone else think will set u back so much. pop yo shit alone if necessary!
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Femme Fatale Guide: Habits To Become Your Best Self In 2023
Some habits, routine ideas, and mindset shifts to help make 2023 your best year yet. Hope this helps and inspires you to reach your goals for the next 12 months. Remember to work hard and take care of yourself. Once you put your mind to it, the sky is the limit! xx
- Make Your Meals Plant-Based & Produce-Focused: Center your meals around a variety of vegetables, fruits, plant proteins, potatoes, and unprocessed plant-based fats (avocado, nuts, seeds) and minimal whole grains.
- Get Creative With Stress Eating Substitutions: Discover healthy swaps for your meals and snacks to ensure what you're eating without sacrificing your goals. Some simple substitutes include mixing in cauliflower rice into your whole grain rice to add nutrients/volume while slashing the calories, using half an avocado with lemon as a salad dressing over spoonfuls of olive oil, swapping meat for lentils in a chill, soups, or stir fry, choosing frozen grapes or whipped bananas with berries over candy or ice cream for a sweet treat, etc. Remember: Spices and seasoning are your best friends.
- Be Mindful of Your Beverage Consumption: Consuming enough water is essential. However, if you get bored with water, add some herbal and black tea, black coffee, or fruit-filled water into the mix. Cinnamon, vanilla, and apple or peach teas are great options to satisfy cravings and prevent mindless snacking (not a substitute for food – eat if you're genuinely hungry). For the winter season, try using some pure cocoa powder with hot water, vanilla extract, and a tablespoon or two of plant-based milk for a healthy hot cocoa drink.
- Prioritize Long Walks: Carve out 1-2 hours of your day to get 10-12K steps in at least 5 days a week. Go outside if possible or jump on a treadmill/walking pad to get in some movement while watching TV, talking on the phone, or catching up on some emails.
- Find A Simple Resistance Workout You Love: Yoga, pilates, or an at-home weight-training or body-weight exercise you can do at home. Browse different YouTube videos for 10-30 minute workouts to try or sign up for a class in your local area to make it a more social experience (and force yourself to take accountability to show up in the first place).
- Create Short & Long "Bookend" Routines: Create a simple routine for the beginning and end of the task-filled portion of your day. For most of us, these routines would be done in the morning and evening/at night before and after work, school, or doing chores/errands. Let go of the rigid idea that these routines need to be done at certain times of the day. Set yourself up to win and tailor them to your schedule. Consider these short routines (like drinking a cup of coffee/tea, reading, meditation, journaling, a walk, or a short dancing session) your warm-up and cool-down sessions of the day. Having these rituals to look forward to will give you the energy and motivation to do what you need to get done each day.
- Practice This 10-10-10 Mindfulness Practice: Make time for at least 10 pages of reading, 10 minutes of meditation, and 10 minutes of journaling daily (This can include shadow work) either in the morning or nighttime to clear and reset your mindset for the day.
- Take An Hour To Plan Out Your Week: It's most convenient to do this power hour on a weekend (I typically reserve an hour before dinner on Sunday for weekly planning). Write out all of your main work tasks, schedule any due date reminders (for work, bills, chores, and other life necessities), must-do errands, emails and calls or appointments to make, etc.). I like using the Productivity Planner from Intelligent Change and my Reminders app/Google calendar via iCloud to sync deadlines and times to schedule messages/tasks/bills, so everything will be in front of me at the correct time throughout the week.
- Prioritize 1-3 Tasks Daily: You might need to choose one large project to work on in small chunks or select a "Big 3" for the day, depending on how complex, lengthy, and time-consuming your projects/errands or appointments are for the day. Using this method allows you to be efficient, streamline your life, and feel productive without overwhelming yourself on the regular (the fastest route to burnout).
- Make A Life Admin Schedule (and Stick To It): Choose days (and times if possible) of the week to update certain spreadsheets, batch reply to less urgent messages, clean your house, do laundry, grocery shop, etc. Scheduling these tasks ahead of time eliminates half of the battle for following through on what you need to do. Eventually, you will make these tasks into habitual routines that your brain will allow you to execute effortlessly as though you're in autopilot mode.
- Mind Your "Circle of Influence": Do an intake on the 5-10 people you speak to the most or value in your life. If you're an employee, it is probably best to not include your boss or coworkers in this consideration list, as you need to work amicably with them regardless of your personal feelings. Look how you feel during your interactions with your friends, family, intimate partner, or an adjacent love interest. Consider how they speak to you, about themselves, and the topics your conversations are focused around. See if they align with the person you want to be and your goals. Evaluate how close you want to be and what parts of your life you think would be the most beneficial for you and the relationship going into 2023.
- Set Boundaries: Understand your expectations, non-negotiables, and limits in every area of your life. Communicate these principles to others clearly, so they know when they are overstepping. Don't tolerate disrespect, but also don't expect others to be mind-readers. If someone knows that they're crossing your boundaries, it is easy to draw the line in the sand and walk away without the guilt or shame that can arise when conflicts originate from a lack of healthy communication.
- Incorporate One Creative Practice Into Your Week: Reinvigorate your mind by engaging in at least one hour of creative activity per week. Try drawing, creative writing, poetry, singing, dancing, painting, pottery, jewelry making, graphic design, photography, etc. Even taking a foreign language course or creating a Pinterest inspiration/mood board or organizing your home/closets in an aesthetically-pleasing way counts. Figure out what creative outlet(s) you find satisfying. Prioritize scheduling this practice into your schedule weekly.
- Refine Your Signature Look: Edit your wardrobe, try out a new haircut, or change up your makeup routine, nail color, or signature scent. Consider how you can close any gaps between your authentic personal style and how you present yourself on a day-to-day basis. Create an inspiration board if needed to help yourself define your unique aesthetic and gradually work towards embodying your ideal look.
- Keep A "Praise" Archive: Create a record of all of the messages you receive highlighting your achievements, milestones, recognitions, or compliments. Compile a folder that acts as your "praise" archive for every area of your life. Create a folder in your work email inbox to save all of your professional achievements, praise, and positive contributions. Do the same for your personal email. Create a folder in your photo album of screenshotted texts. Keep a running list on your "Notes" app of any compliments you receive on your conversational contributions, actions, attire, personality, smile, etc. Hyping yourself up to connect to your highest self.
- Create A "Siren" Kit: Take note of all of the clothing, scents, songs, cosmetics, phrases, people, and other aspects of your environment that empower you to feel your sexiest. Keep all of these items/songs/texts together to make it simple to set the mood before engaging in some indulgent action or revisit when you need a boost of confidence throughout your week.
- Do A Financial Audit: Create an income/expenses spreadsheet to understand your current spending behavior and budgeting plan going forward. Set up your 2023 financial goals and projections, including target amounts for income, savings, and investments.
- Give Yourself A Weekly "Treat": Find a healthy indulgence that you can strategically incorporate into your week. This "treat" can be a massage or nail appointment, permission to watch a movie or a couple episodes of a TV show, a serving of your favorite dessert or a glass of wine, etc. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Consider regular indulgence as an act of self-care not as a sign of weakness or self-destruction. Embracing pleasure does not require guilt or external permission.
Happy New Year, loves! Cheers to an abundant 2023 xx
For my people
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“The Universe tests how REAL you are by surrounding you with energies that are FAKE. Sometimes when we are desperate, we choose the fake energy over the real one because of the short term benefit we get out of it, but in the long run, you are becoming a vibrational match to a reality where you are no longer authentic. The ego ALWAYS wants the shortcut; when all someone wants is money, they will end up doing anything for it, irrespective of whether it is good or bad for others. Your highest self wants you to take the higher road; it requires you to be patient for the real opportunities instead of falling for the fake ones. When you choose, your conscience should be pure— not guilty. The Universe bestows miracles to those who always choose the authentic and real energy.”
~Dope Soul | The Higher Self
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nobody talks about how hard it is to let go of what no longer serves you. we’re human. we form attachments. we crave familiarity, even when it hurts us. and we have to let go before we can see what we’re making space for. that’s where faith steps in. that’s where god steps in.
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accepting your looks and individuality is one of the most important aspects of your life.
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self concept affs:
- “pretty girls always get what they want and I am a perfect example of that.”
- “my presence is a present.”
- “I am always the top priority, nothing and no one comes before me.”
- “I love myself unconditionally.”
- “I am important, I am deserving and I am worthy.”
- “I never seek the validation of others for fulfillment because I am already fulfilled within.”
- “I am completely secure with myself.”
- “abundance is my nature state, my success is inevitable.”
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2021
I will make myself a priority
I will love myself for who I am
I will speak my mind & share my opinion
I will set my standards high and be true to myself
I will only surround myself with people that bring positivity towards my life
I will cut off anyone who holds me back or is negative towards my goals
I will not waste my time dating for fun
I will be treated like a GODDESS or I SHALL LEAVE
2021 MANIFESTATIONS
PRETTYPRIVILEGESS
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Don’t forget the lifestyle you promised yourself.
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theselfcarelifestyle
Things to unlearn:
- Others are not your competition
- Blanket statements can be harmful, context is important
- Security in a relationship isn’t just dependent on your partner but your own internal sense of security as well
- Your boundaries have to be focused on you, not what others can and can’t do
- ‘If they really loved me, they would…’ statements
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For some of us, all we know is toxic relationships. Healthy relationships can feel confusing at the start, they make take a lot of extra communication. You might need to run potential hiccups past friends who model good relationships to see if they seem appropriate or not. You might find yourself framing disagreements from the perspective of prior trauma. You might be a little extra sensitive to negative emotions that arise in the relationship.
That’s okay. These things take time. We can continue to work on ourselves, while pursuing healthy relationships.
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make peace with what didn’t happen, what passed you by. what wasn’t there for you wasn’t meant for you.
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JARED???????
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??????? JARED 25 ??????
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im going to come out and say it: isolating is a self-destructive behavior. it might not be as obvious and immediately self-destructive as say, impulsive spending, drug use or risky behaviors, but it gradually decays relationships and can deepen your mental health issues. often, our impulse is to retreat from others and responsibilities for “self care” or to “work on ourselves” and obviously sometimes we need mental health breaks, but there’s a line you cross from “taking a break” to full on neglecting your relationships with others and your social needs that can be incredibly damaging to yourself and others over time
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Free yourself of this prison of self sabotage and no discipline, of laziness and excuses. Stop standing in your own way.
Learn to love the hard work. Learn to love stepping out of your comfort zone. Make the uncomfortable comfortable.
👑👑👑
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Face yourself before you’re forced to do it.
Expose yourself, to yourself, before the world gets to see through you.
All truths will be revealed, including yours, so get to know them before they’re thrown into your face.
You can no longer lie to yourself or to others now, you will get exposed, trust me. Things are moving very fast, follow your path, trust the Creator, and you’ll see how miracles unfold expeditiously in your life.