Polite version of i want that twink obliterated

if i had ADHD i would simply stop being hyperactive and inattentive

i would simply um

um. so i would just

Yup that’s what it’s like

*gets penalty* “that’s bullshit” *watches replay* “.. yeah okay”

This is flawless. I can’t stop watching.

he really said 😬

WHY WOULD THEY CUT THIS?????

This is legiterally the funniest thing snl has done in decades

they cut it because of the ONE gay reference

Same energy

both of these sketches were written by julio torres - here’s his twitter

Omg 😂

I just want you all to know that my dramatic 6 year old ass would have loved all of this shit.

I’m the dramatique™ hand to face moment in the broken mirror.

Here for the sensitive masculinity and broody femininity sm love

As best I can tell, the back of the doll box’s text reads: RICHARD is a handsome, wealthy widower who cannot seem to get over the loss of his first wife … until you came along! His kids are now Your Little Step Children, who you feel conflicted about to say the least. Richard’s silences are full of sorrow; he has a void in his heart that perhaps you can fill. He just has to accept that his first wife is gone … or is she?

breakfast

lunch

dinner

dessert

cool what the FUCKING HECK does this mean tho

you had to be there

reblog with your sun/moon combo from your natal chart+ your draconic sun/moon

natal chart:virgo sun, cancer moon

draconic chart: aries sun, pisces moon

natal: libra sun, capricorn moon

draconic: gemini sun, libra moon

how the venus signs know they’re in love

aries venus: an aries venus knows they’re in love when they no longer feel like they have to chase the object of their affection. when they finally feel like time isn’t running out.

taurus venus: a taurus venus knows they’re in love when they finally feel safe trying new things. when they feel like the world is expanding and opening up new opportunities and experiences.

gemini venus: a gemini venus knows they’re in love when they can lay in silence and still feel so fulfilled. when the silence isn’t awkward. 

cancer venus: a cancer venus knows they’re in love when they find themselves much more outgoing than ever before. when the home is not the safest place anymore, but their loved one is. 

leo venus: a leo venus knows they’re in love when they realize they’ve become the biggest fan. when they no longer need to show off their loved one, cause their loved one is already standing beside them under the stage lights. 

virgo venus: a virgo venus knows they’re in love when they no longer need to fix or adjust. when they fall in love with quirks and flaws. when they finally accept that nothing is perfect.

libra venus: a libra venus knows they’re in love when they only want to give their attention to that one special person. when the rest of the world just fades away, and they’re left with their loved one (and for the first time, that feels perfectly fine).

scorpio venus: a scorpio venus knows they’re in love when they don’t have to worry. when they know their loved one will come home safe. when they feel warm and fuzzy inside, and all the hurt is gone. 

sagittarius venus: a sagittarius venus knows they’re in love when they wanna stay home. when the love they feel inside is way more exciting than any adventure. 

capricorn venus: a capricorn venus knows they’re in love when they feel unstoppable. when they feel like they want to conquer the world with their loved one. 

aquarius venus: an aquarius venus knows they’re in love when they don’t feel like running anymore. they can finally meet their love in the middle. they finally feel like it’s okay to feel something.

pisces venus: a pisces venus knows they’re in love when they no longer feel the burden of giving too much. when there is a healthy amount of give and take. when they finally feel appreciated and not stepped over. 

—based on people i’ve known and loved 

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one of the most important people in my life has venus in the 1st house and people just… have very intense reactions to them. like, they can’t just tolerate them, they either love them to death or absolutely hate them and make that hatred known. the thing about this venus is that it makes someone very desirable – they’re people persons, they love being around others and feel a strong need to communicate their ideas, beliefs, passions, and listen to other people talk as well because they’re a sucker for studying people. as in, they know there’s a lot to learn from others and they have really strong observational skills, their intelligence is criminally underrated. those who like them, fucking love them and want to constantly be around them (which can be a bit suffocating for the venus person) and even those who hate them can’t seem to be able to keep their names out of their mouths, lmfao. they do feed a lot off of validation from others (mostly due to deep-seated insecurities + fear of rejection) so they try hard to show off their talents, their personality, their skills. they can’t really exist in silence because they draw so much attention to themselves (and people often drag them into unnecessary drama), and because they feel such a strong need to help those around them. they’re also amazing storytellers, they really know how to charm people with their words. 

a friend of mine has her venus in the 2nd house and she really gives off sugar baby vibes, lmfao. older men are crazy about her and whoever meets her wants to spoil her. she gives off very innocent and sweet vibes and that adds to her appeal, although many people have tried taking advantage of that. as in, they use her compassion and empathy and ability to provide security for others, to be like a rock that’s there whenever you need her, so she’s often taken for granted. she’s very compassionate and shows that to literally everyone, which often leads to her feeling emotionally drained and needing to isolate herself to recharge + attracting emotional vampires that feed off of her difficulty in setting boundaries. she’s also often objectified - she’s very beautiful but has a very low self-esteem that incapacitates her from seeing it; she gets a lot of attention everywhere she goes, people turn their heads to look at her twice, strangers make conversation a lot of with her, and she also tends to get free stuff all the time. might i add – she used to be a literal model but stopped because it was a very toxic environment. she’s very charismatic and talented at dealing with people, she was elected the class representative and took it on herself to solve the problems of everyone in our class, wanting everyone to feel accepted, seen, and heard. 

i’ve been with someone who has his venus in the 3rd house, and people fell in love with his words. he wasn’t oblivious to it, he actually bragged a lot about how good he was with words and how he was able to sweet-talk someone into doing what he wanted. he was very communicative and valued solving all our problems through talking instead of ignoring it. people also fell in love with his intelligence, he was really thoughtful about any subject and loved having debates about it and people would get impressed with his analytical and rational mind, with his ease at making arguments and counter-arguments; with the way he had a really unique view on the world and his energy when talking. he was witty and just loved having fun in general, very open to making friends especially with powerful people. he valued a lot having new experiences and going to parties. he was also really loyal and constantly bragged about his friends, he talked about them like they were his family. compliments were literally his love language lmfao it doesn’t get more stereotypical than this, if he liked you he’d shower you with attention and praise all you do and he felt really confident when you’d compliment him back. he was like that one phrase “to know is to love” come to life because he placed a lot of importance on knowing all the details about you, having deep conversations, getting to know all your opinions and perspectives on every possible subject. 

one of my closest friends has his venus in the 4th house and, surprisingly, people fall in love with him after they fuck lmfao. i don’t know what it is about him but as soon as someone has sex with him, they become addicted and hold on to him with claws and teeth until he breaks their heart because, sadly, he’s awfully afraid of commitment. and i’ve been noticing this a lot with people with venus in the 4th house – you’d think venus in the house of family makes someone long to find their soulmate (and they do, deep down), but it’s like truthfully, they’re scared of actually finding it; so they leave after getting too serious in a relationship, perhaps due to a fear of intimacy even though they really crave stability. although, he’s very honest and values honor a lot, so he’s upfront about his intentions with someone… if he wants to fuck you only, you’ll know; if he wants to pursue a relationship with you, you’ll know. i think that’s why so many people are into him, he’s very assertive and goes for what he wants with no shame. he also is someone very reliable, especially with friends, whatever happens, you can count on him. he’s really a ride or die and is a very protective person so people feel safe around him; he’s also very family-oriented in the sense that he takes any of his connections very seriously, especially the one with his mother. he’s, like, the alpha in the wolf pack lmfao. 

two people in my friend group have venus in the 5th house, and might as well just call them genius masterminds. i swear, they have plans straight out of a movie. they can not and will not get bored because there’s always so much going on in their life. cue to harry potter saying “i don’t go looking for trouble, trouble usually finds me”. they lead very intense lives especially when it’s concerning their family and their relationships, but they still manage to make fun of the difficult stuff they go through. people fall in love with their laugh and their brilliant minds. like, these people are criminally intelligent and very much slytherins in the sense of being resourceful, cunning, with an ability to take a shitty situation to their advantage and to take advantage of every opportunity life presents them. they really give off main character vibes especially since they can’t fucking sit still for a moment, they always gotta be onto something. they’re very active and energetic and that type of energy is very addictive, they always know how to make someone have a good time around them. the problem is that some people might get too addicted to their energy and guilt-trip them into hanging out with them every day even when they don’t want to, draining their energies and making them feel like an animal caged up in a zoo there for other’s entertainment only. 

i’ve known someone who had their venus in the 6th house, and… venus in the 6th people are so fucking particular, they avoid telling you how they feel at all costs but show you in the tiniest, most indirect ways possible (like telling you good night every night, always taking time out of their busy schedules to talk with you, rearrange your hair when there’s a strand out of place) and swear they’re being obvious. it’s so funny, they make me feel like a detective trying to decipher their behavior. they can also be very territorial about whoever they like – at worst, they can be very controlling and overly possessive, at best, they’re just hot as fuck like i’m sorry please do attempt to claim me. i’ve noticed that people fall in love with their power. they exude a vibe that makes people afraid to fuck with them because they know it’ll have consequences. they’re just so commanding and act like they won’t tolerate any bullshit or no one trying to waste their time, they’re all for business. they also tend to look expensive as hell, they could be wearing something cheap out of bershka and still make it look regal and like you’d never afford it. they have really high standards so people try very hard to impress them (and fail most of the time lmfao) and get just one minute of their time. the person i knew literally had fangirls following them around in school and begging for their attention. their response? “oh, they are? i didn’t notice and quite frankly, i don’t care.” 

one of the most important milfs that went through my life had her venus in the 7th house, and people fell in love purely with her personality. no, i don’t think you understand how charming and funny she was. she was an amazing storyteller and had an infinite amount of stories about her life to tell, and it was impossible to ever get bored around her because she had so much to say. she was also very expressive in her way of speaking, and you could feel her emotions through her words. she had an awfully mischievous grin that made her look like she was always up to something and it was so funny. people would gather around her to her and pay close attention to what she would say next since she was so unpredictable. she could also be very diplomatic and persuade people to her side, whether in arguments or business matters. she placed a lot of importance on education and knowledge. another thing about her was that she was so secretive - and that’s something very few people caught on about her since she was so good at talking and told so many stories, but i did find her personality difficult to pinpoint because she would only open up about superficial matters. as in, she would tell a story of her as a teenager going to parties and shit, but whenever i’d ask her a more private matter like how she met her husband, she’d laugh and say “that one’s for me to know only.” it was very hard to get to know the real her under all the glamour and popularity. she also gave me the sense of someone sinking on their own sadness but she hid that at all costs in the name of being the sun that lights up the room. i don’t know, something in her eyes. 

my best friend has venus in the 8th house – she’s very, very selective about who she talks to and gives attention to very few people. she fears opening up and sex is a tricky subject for her because although she loves talking about sex, it’s very hard for her to trust someone enough to even consider letting them close to her. she fears betrayal, rejection. she likes keeping her circle close, which i think is a way for her to avoid having to go through the process of letting someone in. she’s also extremely loyal and very aware that few people deserve that loyalty – once she likes someone, she only sees that person and no one else. she really longs for a meaningful and intimate relationship. i feel like people fall in love with her after getting close to her, she’s a very thoughtful person with a strong personality and, once someone gets to experience her intensity, they’re addicted. no one ever says this about 8th placements but they’re fucking crackheads, they’re very lighthearted most of the time and just want to have fun and a good time, they can have the humor of a 5-year-old and people find that side of her very endearing; they fall in love with her humor and the way she’s so good-hearted even if she tries hiding that fact. she can’t help that she’s so genuine. might i add that she really has that scorpionic look, with thick dark hair and big, deep-set eyes and you can really read her every emotion on them. 

one of my friends has venus in the 9th house and she’s the funniest person ever. seriously, she’s the life of the party, always looking to crack a joke and the room doesn’t feel as lively without her. people fall in love with her unpredictability, her light-hearted nature and how she’s always looking for something to stimulate her mind, by learning and finding new places, new people to deepen her knowledge. one thing about her is that people tend to underestimate her a lot. just because she loves having fun and takes nothing seriously, they think it’s okay to try and mess with her, and then they regret that shit deeply because even if she rarely shows her serious and ruthless side… oh, it’s there and she will not hesitate (especially if you fuck with her friends). she also tends to suffer a lot in love because she’s looking for a serious relationship and to bond with someone, but people tend to objectify her and use her for her body. but she’s too elegant to let that show, she really knows how to hide her suffering under a bright smile. she’s a very supportive person and things always end up working for her because she has such a good heart (the people who do her dirty get so fucked by life later), and people tend to envy how she seems to have it all. they don’t notice how hard-working and ambitious she actually is. 

i have venus in the 10th house. people fall in love very easily with me, but it’s never actually with me because they don’t know me, they fall in love with my image. as in, people often approach me to tell me they fell in love at first sight with me just because they saw me on the bus or some shit, or they talk with me for 3 days and swear i’m the one when i haven’t revealed anything about me. men also tend to suffer from “i can fix her” when around me. it’s the effy stonem disease lmfao, they see me being pretty and fucked up and try to fix me, plus, i don’t do relationships so they always think they’re gonna be the one to “tame” me. i also give off very cold and unattainable vibes and the first thing people notice about me is how i’m hard to get so they often portray me as the forbidden fruit, someone they’re never gonna get but they still try. which makes me feel really objectified at times because it’s like…. you don’t know me, you don’t even try to know me, you just idealize me in your head and put me on a pedestal. which is why i think i have an aversion to love, most people don’t experience it; they experience infatuation and confuse it as being the same thing as love, and it’s too superficial for me. if you have your venus in the 10th house, chances are you’re very desirable and sought after but that has given you a very difficult relationship with the concept of love. 

if there’s anything about people with venus in the 11th house… they’re passionate. so passionate about anything that they believe in, and they make that very clear. they put a lot of importance on fighting for what’s right and for justice, so they get very emotionally involved in others’ problems, even if it doesn’t in any way benefit their own lives. and when i say this i don’t mean just getting involved in social causes and organizing charity events, i mean that they intuitively feel what’s wrong with the people they love and they don’t rest until there’s a solution. they’re masters at providing emotional comfort and bringing people together because they don’t believe in the differences between human beings, we’re all idiots going through the same shit called life. and that’s what people love so much about them: their tenacity, their drive, their ambition, their big dreams. their compassion for everyone’s problems, the glint in their eyes when they’re speaking about subjects ranging from animal cruelty to how wrong capitalism is lmfao, their need to feel passionate about everything. most of them have struggled with the loss of someone they loved and are now very aware of the need to live life to the fullest. these people also have a way of making someone they barely know feel like their best friend. 

i’ve known someone who had his venus in the 12th house, and he was probably the most emotionally complicated and troubled person i’ve ever known. he was very withdrawn and the quiet confident type (although he had a lot of insecurities deep, deep down) and everyone knew his name, he was constantly surrounded by friends but it’s like no one actually knew him. he stood out so much, not even in his appearance even though he was beautiful, it was his energy. he also wasn’t afraid of standing alone and he’d do it whenever he disagreed with something or to fight for his beliefs, so he was respected by everyone. anyways, to be one of the lucky few to get past his distant persona, you had to be just as thoughtful and interesting because he really didn’t waste his time with people who weren’t worth getting to know. people fell in love with his way of seeing the world, his empathy (that’s something you’d never expect from someone who had such a “harsh” exterior – he never acted without considering the consequences and he’d feel a lot of the world’s pain), his intensity, the way everything was so serious to him and there was no room for superficiality. he was a very unforgettable person, i don’t think i’ll ever be able to forget his eyes or how he seemed to fight a daily battle just to keep going. 

💜Venus in Earth signs/houses love traditional romance. To them, love letters is more romantic than text messages

💙Base on personal experience, Mutable/Water Venusians tend to be very open-minded and wouldn’t mind dating anyone regardless of gender. Can also apply to Venus-Mars aspects♥️

💜Venus-Neptune/Venus in 12H/Mutable Venus tend to daydream about romance a lot and have this imaginary s/o they have in mind

💙Earth/Fire Venusians 🤝 Playfully teasing their loved ones as a sign of love language (can be a Tsundere at times lmao)

💜9H/Sagittarius Venus always dreamed of traveling around the world with their partner and have joyrides and midnight adventures together

💙When dating a Scorpio/8H Venus, please respect their privacy and be more open with yourself. If you do, they will love you harder. Scorpios in general love it when they know everything about a person because it’s their way of knowing that trust exists in a relationship both romantically and platonically ❣️

💜Cancer/4H Venus looks for someone who they call home where they feel comfortable enough to show their crazy side to them

💙Air Venus needs to be mentally stimulated in order for them to feel contented in a relationship

💜Venus(Love) + 11H (friendships) = Your friends might fall in love with you or you are the most favorite in the group

💙Virgo Venus 🤝 Love language is correcting their loved ones mistakes so they won’t mess up and be embarrassed later at a certain thing

💜Water Venusians despise long distance relationships, they want to be with their partner and see them everyday. Also maybe it’s because they are emotionally attached to this person so without them, it feels like they are lost and hopeless

💙Fire/Air Venus 🤝 “And it’s all fun and games, Till somebody falls in love. But you already bought a ticket And there’s no turning back now.”

-Carousel, Melanie Martinez

💜Scorpio/Capricorn Venus have trust issues so they would keep asking you random questions which includes personal ones. When they are answered and know that you are trustworthy enough, they would eventually open up 💞

💙Pisces/Libra/7H Venusians can be loveholics or someone who is obsessed with the idea of love

💜Ascendant/Moon in harmonious aspects with Venus can indicate a very charming person and can attract many with their pleasant and soft nature

💙Venus in 3H/Mercury in harmonious aspects with Venus can attract anyone with their great persuasion skills

💜While Venus in 2H can allure others with their dreamy and ethereal voice. This can also apply to Neptune in harmonious aspects with Venus 💕

💙Venus in 6H loves it when their partner joins them with their made up routine or schedule(such as exercising together at 1PM or doing skincare routine as a couple)

💜Aquarius Venus can be really awkward at first when they start dating with you and can be aloof sometimes but this will soon fade away when the relationship goes further and they feel at ease already

💙Also I noticed that some Aquarius Venus meet the love of their life in public places or on the internet

💜Venus in 10H/Capricorn have the possibility of finding their lover in the workplace or in public as well

💙Gemini/Libra/Leo Venus are the most flirtatious venus signs but they don’t wanna settle in a relationship unless they are the right one for them. This can apply to Venus in 1H and Venus dominants as well🌹

💜Leo/Libra Venus 🤝 Loves dramatic romance and would act like they are in a movie when they will be in a relationship

💙Aries Venus might go well with Scorpio Venus as both are passionate signs which sparks their inner flames of romance when together

💜Aries/Leo/Earth venusians love giving gifts to their loved ones especially when their loved ones want this specific thing for a very long time. They would make their wishes come true

💙Venus in 5H expresses love creatively. They may write poems, make creative edits, or write a really long love letter for their friends as, and family

💜Cancer/Taurus Venus 🤝 wants their partner to be mature and responsible so they can baby them 🥺🥺

💙Venus in 7H may be highly aware of how partnerships work because they’ve already tried being in a relationship early before and would love to be in one as well

💜Fire/Air Venusians want a relationship that is exciting, energizing, fun, mind-stimulating, passionate, and free

💙While Earth/Water Venusians want a relationship that is stable, committed, trustworthy, and a place where they call home

💜Virgo/6H Venusians may want to adopt a pet when they are in a relationship so that when their partner is busy or away, they will have a lovely companion to be with

💙Sometimes, Fire/Water Venusians tend to question themselves if love will ever come to them someday 🥺🥺(actually, all Venus signs do🤧💖)

GIF: What Is Love? 💙 TWICE 💜

the houses

so when i first started learning about astrology, i found it super difficult to keep track of what each of the houses means. understanding the house system is a huge aspect of understanding your natal chart, so let’s discuss.

angular houses: 

ruled by the cardinal signs, these houses indicate the action you take in life - the first foot you put forward.

1st house - aries - appearance, outward personality, self expression, essential vitality, “mask”

4th house - cancer - home, family life and parents, emotional/psychological foundation, stability, subconscious patterns

7th house - libra - partnerships and relationships, marriage, business interactions, interpersonal conflict or harmony, legal matters

10th house - capricorn - career ambitions and aspirations, public life and recognition, material acquisition, success and goals

succedent houses: 

these houses are ruled by the fixed signs, speaking to what you already have, and what you desire to have - what you value.

2nd house - taurus - possessions, money, material things, material values, skills and earning abilities

5th house - leo - pleasure, entertainment, sex, creativity and creation, procreation and children, recreation

8th house - scorpio - the supernatural/occult/mystical, death and regeneration, legacies, the resources of those around you (think inheritance)

11th house - aquarius - global awareness, humanitarian ideals, group projects and goals, friendships

cadent houses: 

ruled by the mutable signs, these houses can be interpreted as the thought that occurs before action - the analyzation of your self and surroundings.

3rd house - gemini - mental activity, communication, early education, relationships with siblings and cousins 

6th house - virgo - afflictions of the body, health and nutrition, employment, work ethic, injury and illness, service

9th house - sagittarius - higher thinking, religion and philosophy, foreign cultures and customs, expansion of the mind, far travel

12th house - pisces - retreat from the world, isolation, suffering bottled up, the subconscious, karma

quadrant 1 (houses 1 - 3)

quadrant 2 (houses 4 - 6)

quadrant 3 (houses 7 - 9)

quadrant 4 (houses 10 - 12)

i’ve started replacing “i want to die” with “i feel overwhelmed” in my internal monologue, which is usually more accurate and more productive

ive been working on replacing ‘im so stupid’ with ‘im so silly’ and it has the same effect!

“I can’t do this” -> This will be a challenge for me, it’s normal to feel intimidated

“I hate this” -> This is a tough situation to handle and I’m doing my best

“I hate myself” -> I’m struggling with low self esteem right now, I need to support myself as I would a friend

“I can’t believe I forgot again” -> It’s tough to balance so many things, maybe I need to let go of some of them

“They’re not going to like me” -> I don’t have to perform for anyone, my personality is valid and loveable just as is

The list could go on and on…

Redirecting the “blame” from yourself and recognizing that you are a human suffering through normal, difficult human experiences is important. Support yourself like you’d support any of your close friends if they said these things.

maybe instead of “im so silly” it’s “im having a hard time understanding what went wrong” or “I’m struggling to process this”

In my Mercury surveys, I asked how long it takes you all to warm up to new people, and here is what I learned from the responses! I talk about the results from both the original and follow up survey where applicable. I didn’t get as many responses on the follow up survey, so I mainly use it to clarify things.

I’m also going to include the Modes and Elements, because there’s some neat similarities between them :) 

As always, if you have any questions feel free to ask!

♈︎ Aries Mercury (Cardinal, Fire)

Even with the first written survey the Aries Mercuries did not give tepid responses. They all either responded that they warm up quickly, or it takes them a long time (a few wrote that it takes them years, some seemed like they were saying it jokingly and some seemed serious)

This is likely because I did not specify what I meant by warming up. In the follow up survey I gave a a few options for how they warm up to people, and it clarified that Aries Mercuries warm up to people easily when it comes to talking to new people, but it can take them a while to open up. The one Aries Mercury that said that they have a hard time talking to new and opening up to new people had Mercury square Saturn.

I don’t know if Aries Mercuries just aren’t into elaborating or something, but I definitely got the least detailed responses from them. As you’ll see, most of the signs had a lot of people who have no problem talking to new people, but have difficulty opening up. I know we’re more complex this this, but I don’t know if we’re that good at expressing it in words!

♉︎ Taurus Mercury (Fixed, Earth)

A lot of Taurus Mercuries responded by saying that it depends. Like a lot. It was seriously like every or every other response from them. If they like the person, if they hit it off, or if the person seems cool then they can warm up pretty quickly. But if the person puts off bad vibes, if they seem weird, or if there’s just something off about them, they will warm up very slowly if at all.

There were a few that said that in general, it takes them a long time to warm up, especially when it’s on a deeper level. They’ll be friendly, but they may tend to keep people at arms length.

♊︎ Gemini Mercury (Mutable, Air)

Like Aries Mercury, they can talk to and be friendly with someone quicker than they open up personally. Like Taurus Mercury, they’re sensitive to the vibes people put off.

Where it starts to seem different is in their perceptiveness to the willingness of others’ to talk/open up. You know how there are some people who just do not pick up on when you’re not in the mood to talk? Gemini Mercuries are aware of that, and don’t care to start a conversation with someone who doesn’t want to participate. If the person wants to talk, and Gemini Mercury is interested as well, they should have no problem getting a conversation going!

♋︎ Cancer Mercury (Cardinal, Water)

I found it really interesting that one (4thHouse) said that they have a hard time getting others to warm up to them. It was only one, but I wonder if any other Cancer Mercuries can relate.

Cancer Mercuries, in general because there were some exceptions, take a bit longer to warm up. In the follow up survey there were a fair bit of Cancer Mercuries that responded that they have a hard time talking to and opening up to new people. They also expressed that they can have a hard time with fully trusting people, and that they use their intuition when interacting with new people to kind of get a feel for them. That’s similar to paying attention to vibes of course, but it’s interesting that they’re aware of it and that they chose to say intuition.

♌︎ Leo Mercury (Fixed, Fire)

Leo Mercuries mentioned groups more than the other signs. If the person in question is a member of or involved in a group that the Leo Mercury is also involved in, or if that person seems like “one of them”, then they can warm up to that person quicker. But if the Leo Mercury is the new person in a group, then it can take them a bit longer to warm up to everyone. seems to me that they have an easier time opening up to people when they feel comfortable and confident in the situation, and a harder time when they feel like they’re the odd ones out.

There were also a few that more or less expressed that they’re friendly and open at first, but if after a few weeks they feel like it’s just not a match they’ll back off. They also don’t seem to like if people are boring and not engaging, although one said that they don’t like it when people are too energetic and in your face (they had Mercury Retrograde though)

♍︎ Virgo Mercury (Mutable, Earth)

“about 1-2 drinks” thank you for that lol

They like to sit back and observe first. They try to figure a person out and get a bit of a grasp on them before they decide if they want to warm up to them. If they like the person it seems like they can warm up pretty quickly, but if they don’t they’re likely to keep them at arms length.

Like Gemini Mercury, they like for the other person to want to talk as well. They also expressed that they want the other person to but effort into the relationship. So don’t leave them on read, they’re not going to find it charming.

Of the Virgo Mercuries, the ones with Mercury in the Sixth House had the most difficulty warming up, which I found interesting.  

♎︎ Libra Mercury (Cardinal, Air)

They don’t seem to care for people who are dishonest. They find it easier to open up to people when they spend a lot of time with them/when they’re consistently around them. So situations where they have a class together or work together are ideal for them to warm up to people.

Like Taurus, many of them stressed that it really depends on the person and the vibes they put out. If someone seems off putting, they’re really not going to want to open up to them. First impressions are very important for them.

It also seemed pretty split with the Libra Mercury responses. Some said that they open up almost immediately, and some said that it takes them ages. I feel like this is probably because of their sun signs. The follow up survey supports that, but I don’t have as many responses on that one though.

♏︎ Scorpio Mercury (Fixed, Water)

“I’m still warming up to my mother” STOP omg

In general, they take a while to warm up, and even longer to open up. Some said that they kind of keep to themselves when in new social situations, and others said that they come off as warm and charismatic, but they keep things superficial for a while. There were a few who specifically noted that people don’t know that they haven’t opened up. So it’s like, they can seem very friendly and open even though they’re keeping a lot to themselves.

It takes a while to earn their trust. One said that once someone has earned their trust, it’s hard to lose it. That could very well just be specific to them, but I’m curious if that resonates with anyone else!

♐︎ Sagittarius Mercury (Mutable, Fire)

Like Leo Mercury, they mention groups a bit. They find it harder to be the new person in a group, but if a person has mutual friends then they have an easier time warming up. Like Gemini Mercury, they like when the other person seems receptive. They’ll have an easier time warming up to someone who seems open than with someone who seems cold.

When it comes to opening up to someone on a deeper level, they don’t have a problem doing so because of trust (like Scorpio) but because they can have a hard time feeling emotionally vulnerable. They may be generally friendly and easy to talk to, but they’re not going to emotionally expose themselves to just anyone.

♑︎ Capricorn Mercury (Cardinal, Earth)

I was not really expecting to read this, but in a way it makes sense. Capricorn Mercuries want the other person to go first. As in, they want them to start the conversation first, to open up and share something personal first, to prove themselves loyal first, and so on. This might seem weird, because Capricorn is a Cardinal Sign, and Cardinal Signs initiate. What it reminded me of though was the archetype of the CEO. In a negotiation, you don’t want to lay all of your cards on the table first. It’s almost like they can treat new relationships in the same way. I’m not criticizing by the way, that seems fair.

They’re generally friendly and sociable, and also mentioned the importance of feeling an emotional connection a few times, which I found interesting.

♒︎ Aquarius Mercury (Fixed, Air)

They’re generally social. They either open up quickly or after a very long time, and it depends on how they feel about the person, how much they hit it off, etc..

A few talked about adapting their behavior according to the person they’re with. Like if the person is shy, they may be a bit friendlier to help them open up and feel more comfortable. One talked about putting up a facade until they get to know the person better, and a few others said something similar.

♓︎ Pisces Mercury (Mutable, Water)

They’re friendly and like meeting and being around new people. When it comes to opening up, it depends on the person’s vibes and how they feel about them in general. A couple of Pisces Mercuries said they they like when the person shares their views, and I guess my extension general opinions? Like, having similar music tastes, fashion sense, or similar hobbies. If not similar they should mesh well with each other.

When they’re not comfortable with someone, or when they just don’t vibe well, it’ll take a while for them to warm up (if ever for some of them)