INFJ

First of all, congrats! Finding a cool person who likes you back is amazing! If an INFJ flirts with you they might be serious about it, so it seems like she is definitely interested. But yeah, since she is introverted you might want to give her enough space. If she is an INFJ she will probably have picked up on subtle hints and if she even went ahead to say so, I would say go for it tho! Don't be pushy of course but you might want to just ask her out, spend an evening just the two of you.

I wish you the best of luck!

– Hana

It's probably very similar to dating in general.

– Hana

I am going to go ahead and boldly say no, absolutely not.

(Also, there is no such thing as "being more ____" than someone else.)

– Hana

I do not think this is necessarily tied to a specific type – every type can have humour and be serious at the same time.

– Hana

To be quite frank, a typical INFJ thing would be to be completely sure of their type due to their future oriented Ni. But on the other hand, it is entirely possible that you are an INFJ and simply feel doubt for a variety of reasons. My recommendation is to just keep reading about cognitive functions and analyze your behaviour to find your true type – it takes time.

– Hana

I created it specifically for this blog, so it’s not really available.

– Hana

Let me tell you: what you are experiencing is absolutely normal and human and common. Many people of all types enjoy having a tidy desk but at the same time don't always feel like doing stuff that isn't fun. Being a J type does not mean you are very organised and tidy – it means your strongest extraverted function is a function that makes decisions, it's the function you show the world.

– Hana

Thanks first of all, I’m glad you enjoy it! You can definitely check out the love tag to find more info about the topic.

To be honest, I feel like if you aren’t happy in your relationship then you might consider taking a break. If you are feeling depressed, sad and angry instead of loved, supported and happy then your relationship is definitely not working out.

Let’s also hear some input from other INFJs.

– Hana

I agree and find the terminology misleading for people who aren’t very educated on the system. The same goes for the Thinking and Feeling – it makes it seem for some people like Feeling types aren’t capable of logic etc.

You have to remember that in the context of cognitive function theory the term “judging” simply means that your strongest extraverted function is a judging function – a function that makes decisions. And similarly, “perceiving” simply means that the strongest extraverted function is perceiving – a function that takes in information.

This is why many people do not like the usage of the letters at all. The letters simply tell us which functions are used, and the dimensions of judging/perceiving and thinking/feeling are not to be interpreted in the usual meaning.

– Hana

That’s just a normal human thing. When you feel uncomfortable, misunderstood and vulnerable around other people you might regret opening up. But I assure you that other people do not think about it as much as you do.

– Hana

I am neither living in the US nor too familiar with the US higher education system and definitely cannot recommend colleges.

– Hana

I am definitely guilty of giving a lot without expecting anything in return. I just love making people happy. But yeah, it is a bit conflicting for us because we don’t hang out too much around other people. However, I think that’s a good thing since we end up focusing our energy on people close to use, and try to make those important people happy!

– Hana

It might be related to your Fe function that makes you feel bad when there is injustice and things aren’t harmonious. I definitely can relate!

– Hana

An INFJ with strong Ti will be more balanced and be able to distance themselves from other people’s emotions, and make decisions based on their own logic and values. At the same time, an INTJ with strong Fi will be more in tune with their own emotions and consider their inner morals more when making decisions.

Often it is said that INFJs and INTJs can seem very similar outwardly when their secondary emotion isn’t as obvious as their dominant Ni. In the end it comes down to whether you make judgements that contribute to harmony between people or that create order between things.

– Hana

From my own experience I’ve learnt that talking to people is a skill that can be learnt! Many people don’t believe me that I am introverted because I’m not shy or quiet when talking to them. I find the easiest way is to ask questions! People love talking about themselves, and it’s easy to keep a conversation going by being genuinely curious. And from talking to extraverts I’ve noticed that they often do not feel as awkward as us about subtle social nuances. So just try to go for it!

– Hana

I feel like there might be some correlation, since T types often put more importance on things and data while F types gravitate towards people; so F types might be more inclined to be democratic, if we are thinking of US politics. I’ve found a lengthy article about it here.

Let’s hear about the political views of our followers as well! (For those who do not live in the US feel free to talk about your views in terms other than democrat/republican.)

– Hana

Feeling bad about school is such a common thing, mostly because most education systems suck. Being an introvert you might feel especially overwhelmed by the people surrounding you and the constant stimulation. I too get stressed out about deadlines a lot.

Can any followers also relate?

– Hana