Hey!!! I'm Evan, a 29 year old white queer Australian who (unfortunately) lives in the UK.
I'm queer, aspec, gay, polyam and a trans man.
My pronouns are:
- he/him/his/himself
- xe/xem/xyr/xemself (pronounced zee/zem/zir/zemself)
- ae/aev/aev/aevself (pronounced e/eve/eve/eveself)
Please mix and match them, thanks.
I am a trauma survivor who is ND, mentally ill & chronically ill; I have AuADHD, ocd, depression, anxiety (social and general), addiction, agoraphobia, trust issues, abandonment issues, dissociative traits, cptsd & coeliac disease. I heavily use music to cope with my multiple disorders and regard my headphones and Spotify as disability aids.
Special interest(s): Tintin, Doctor Who & guinea pigs.
Current hyperfixation(s): Sanders Sides (Thomas Sanders).
I post about stuff like:
- queer issues
- social issues in general
- selfies, vents and general life updates
- a lot about the adventures of tintin (mainly the 2011 film)
- memes
- neurodivergent and mentally ill issues
- occasionally cute animals with absolute favourites of mine like cats and guinea pigs (and small mammals in general, but mainly guinea pigs)
- my fanfiction from ao3 under kivancalcite
- my favourite music (feel free to talk about music with me)
- my fictional male crushes, usually villains
- occasional media and film analysis that may devolve into passionate rants
What I don't tolerate whatsoever and will block you on sight as a result:
- the basic dni criteria (racist, misogynistic, antisemitic, homophobic, transphobic, ableist, classist, xenophobic, fatphobic attitudes)
- claiming that 'narcissistic abuse' is a real thing and believing that having a personality disorder inherently makes you a terrible person
- abuse apologism and victim blaming
- defending people like d*pp and spacey and other abusers/paedophiles/rapists
- defending the british monarchy
- being a fucking tory and/or brexiteer (let's be honest, you're usually both)
- defending justice system institutions such as the police force (acab)
- defending the military, its propaganda, and insidious recruitment techniques
- being a paedophile/map/pear, whatever the fuck you like to call yourselves
- being a terf/radfem/gender critical/transmedicalist
- being a nazi/neo-nazi/white supremacist/proud boy/anything to fucking do with fascist ideologies
- supporting putin's attack on the ukraine and the idea that we should stop supporting and funding ukraine
- supporting israel over palestine and ignoring the media silence and suppression of the atrocities against the latter
- supporting ukraine's efforts but not palestine's
- defending the capitalist system
- in turn, also defending communist regimes and shouting down survivors of them and their atrocities
- being a genocide denier
- being a pro-life/anti-choicer (from a pro-choice and pro-abortion person)
- being a proshipper and trying to justify paedophilic, racist and incestuous ships
- being into true crime that romanticises and sexualises actual murderers and serial killers and dismisses the actual victims and their families
- being someone who actively profits off of others' trauma and abuse for entertainment
I also have my trauma/mental illness/abuse blog that is more specifically about those things I have experienced and continue to experience, which is @traumacodedtransbitch, which can be far more triggering and violent just so you know.