Memoirs of a Gaysian

simba and mushu

it just occurred to me that watching sports is essentially just dudes trying to prove they’re better than other dudes with no meaningful dialogue just some other guy’s commentary on their performances. like, or course im not into that😅

smooch

all I wanted to do was watch drop dead fred tonight.

3:07 on a wellness day

I sold out a lil and moved to tech (preparing for that single mom life I want so badly). it turns out I kind of love it and because my whole heart isn’t tied up in work I’ve convinced myself serves a higher purpose — there’s just room for fresh emotional energy. so I like my new life in tech and can truly enjoy these wellness days they give us (no work allowed) and can reclaim my time and energy. there’s space again to think and be and grow. and write for me (think for me).

was sitting knees up in the sun and thinking about thoughts: I am a how and why person always — no matter the what or when or who. but I realized I value this in people too: the ability to understand their whys and how’s of their thinking too (the effort to understand and consider). because this way of thinking allows less judgement of the who and instead focuses on the why and how of the situation judge the situation not the person. if situations repeat — especially after explicit dialogue and boundaries are placed — it could be time to take the who out of the equation tho. but you’ll have the whys for that sorted based on behaviour (data). actions matter most and should hold most weight when engaging with character analysis.

emotional effort matters.

my fav tiny human

my most handsome nephew😭❤️

ah chi chi

love my chi💕🌸