Hiiiii guys 💁🏼 How's my lil tumblr polyamorous community doing?

2016 UPDATE.

Hey guys! There are a few BIG CHANGES happening over here and I wanted to fill you all in. :)

As many of you may know, this polyamorous blog was started by myself, “A” and my love “J,” in order to document our adventures in non-monogamy, and through this blog we met a woman, “K,” whom we dated for awhile in a serious triad relationship. We also dated one other woman (whom has never used tumblr at all and didn’t want to be written about either) on and off four the past four years. However, it became clear that a serious life with J and I as triad is not something she is ready for or capable of having right now. It hurts, but c’est la vie! 

Now that I’ve given a concise version of our background story for you newbies, I’ll just go ahead and say it...From now this blog will only be run by myself, A. (I’m the cute ginger girl! haha) As mentioned before, J and I wen’t to counseling with Dr. Neil Cannon the polyamory/BDSM Psychologist for counseling to work on the complex issues we have encountered along the way during our almost six year marriage, and 4+ years involved in ethical-nonmonogamy and D/s dynamics. Unfortunately, despite counseling, great effort and compromise on both of our parts; J and I have chosen to separate and I have no moved two hours away from the home we once shared...

I don’t know what the future holds for J and I as a couple (or if he will be in my life at all.) This is a very painful and difficult time for us both and I ask for your understanding and respect during this time. If you ask why we are choosing to cut ties or make hurtful remarks regarding any of this, I will ignore/delete/block you. No exceptions. Thank you in advance for any support, and all understanding.

-A

PS. You may be wondering if the content of the blog will change, and the answer is: NO! ABSOLUTELY NOT. I will write and blog exclusively about ethical non monogamy (which i am now dating multiple men and women ethically at the same time!) Also, I will start using hashtags for #NSFW content that I post for you guys to filter out if needed. 

We braved the snow storm outside today to go get supplies for some of our projects! What did you guys do this weekend? Hopefully it wasn't a blizzard out wherever you are! 😁🙄

Hey everyone!!! Still here, still queer! Sorry I (we) haven't posted much as of late...but I have some free time today and wanted to hop on here with a quick update. J and I are extremely busy both with working two jobs and/or college. It's been hectic, but things are beginning to look up for the new year! I'll be graduating soon (April) and he will be making a huge career change which we will be moving to a new city/state for in November! 😅😅 until then we have to hustle and save up a fk ton of money for the big move! As far as relationships go...things are getting better between J and I. If you recall, 2015 was a struggle for us and a huge period of growth, too. We opened up our minds and hearts, and learned how complex the overlapping of polyamory and bdsm can be....we were not able to do counseling like we once planned, but have been able to get through things quite a bit on our own. Speaking of polyamory....We currently aren't dating anyone else outside of our marriage together or separately. Things with the girlfriend that we both dated didn't work out. Some times things break apart. It doesn't have to be anyone's fault. It doesn't have to be ugly. It just isn't meant to be...and that's okay. Polyamorous break ups can be just as tough and painful as monogamous break ups. The only difference for us, is that J and I are not "out" as polyamorous. Nor am I 100% "out" as bisexual so it's not as easy for us to talk it over with someone while hurting. Anyway, this is becoming much longer than anticipated. I feel like it will be easier for us to move forward and date people again once we move. Right now there is not enough time. Plus, this isn't a super poly/lgbt friendly community so we don't have much opportunity! 😅 Anyone reading this, I hope the start to your 2016 has been fabulous so far! Are you guys having much luck in your poly dating lives???💕 -A