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a bouquet past bloom

@dianartemiss / dianartemiss.tumblr.com

Diana's Personal Blog Will tag on request.
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I'm too old and too tired to bullshit around. This blog is sometimes nsfw and I curse frequently.

Being an anti in fandom spaces is anti-queer and anti-autonomy. Pro-ship what you want because it's fiction. I will not be censored because others refuse to be responsible for curating their own online experiences. Racists, terfs, bigots, and the like aren't going to respect your DNI pages and I'm not here for the virtue signalling that goes along with it. Respect the variety of human existence or get off my lawn.

If you're still here, cool. If any of the above upsets you, keep it to yourself.

My personal posts are tagged with "diana says" and you can reblog whatever, I don't care.

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x0401x

So I just saw a post by a random personal blog that said “don’t follow me if we never even had a conversation before” and?????? Not to be rude but literally what the fuck??????????

I’ve had people (non-pornbots) try to strike conversation out of nowhere in my DMs recently, and now I’m wondering if they were doing that because they wanted to follow me and thought they needed to interact first. I feel compelled to say, just in case, that it’s totally okay to follow this blog (or my side blog, for that matter) even if we’ve never talked before.

Also, I’m legit confused. Is this how follow culture works right now? It was worded like it’s common sense but is that really a thing?

Saw a sharp increase in my follower count after posting this. The legitimacy of it is driving me nuts so I also feel the need to say that you can follow anyone on here regardless of whether you’ve interacted with them or not. People like the above mentioned blog are exceptions. Perhaps they themselves think they aren’t and therefore will act like they aren’t, but they are, trust me.

Just follow anyone you wanna follow. The worst thing that can happen is maybe getting soft-blocked by the other person, but if they do soft-block you, then they were never that worth following in the first place.

wow. really hope this isn't actually a norm taking hold with new users! this isn't facebook, you don't need to know people before following them

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the fundamental tension between wanting to dissociate modes of dress from gender and people wanting to use modes of dress to signify their gender so they don't have to play the Pronoun Game

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jadagul

There was a trans girl I used to follow on tumblr, who I think is no longer here but might have just changed her name and I lost track

who commented on how it was easier to pass in Utah than it was in San Francisco. In Utah people were like "wearing a dress, has earrings, must be a girl, check!" Whereas in SF people would pass her on the street and say "hey man, nice dress!"

Are you people seriously implying Utah is better than California for trans women

reading comprehension website

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versegm

Frankly some of you should be hornier over weirder shit. The fear of being too genuine is the enemy of art. Be a bit of a pervert. It's good for the health. Doesn't have to be a sexual thing just own up to being a bit obsessed in some cringe shit it's fine.

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remyousa

File this under "phrases from Tumblr that didn't have to go that hard but totally did".

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felix-lupin

[Image ID: Tags reading "#you can take the boy out of the church but church has to be taken out of the boy like shrapnel #one bloody piece at a time." End ID.]

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there's no greater betrayal than finally starting to read a book you've had sitting for months on your shelf or your desk or your nightstand and then finding out it's bad. like. i gave you a fucking home.

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lordgrimwing

How Elwing Lost A Silmaril

The first letter—sealed with an eight-pointed star pressed into red wax and delivered just before dawn—left Elwing trembling in her small office, stomach rolling and the taste of bile thick on her tongue. What was she to do? What could she do? Her parents’ murderers were coming here.

The letter didn’t say as much outright. The writer (Maedhros, she’d learned his name eventually, but he would always be the red-haired orcish monster that took her home away and haunted her worst nightmares) veiled every threat behind eloquent lines of meaningless placations and enteritis for the silmaril. He asked her, granddaughter of a thief, to return it to him, eldest son of its maker and rightful heir. But she could read what he did not say: that if she did not bend to his will he would do to Sirion as he did to Menegroth. He would come with his fell army and slaughter everyone in his way.

But how could she give up the jewel? It protected them, kept the forces of darkness at bay just enough for the refugees to eke out a living on the shores. And should Eärendil, her dear, brave husband, find a path to Aman, its light might be the only thing that could stay the Valar’s Doom long enough for them to listen to him. She could not give up their hope.

The second letter—sealed in red wax and delivered as the barley fields were harvested—brought more promises of horrors unnamed falling upon the settlement. She wept after throwing it in the fire. She could not do this on her own. The city council was terrified into inaction at the thought of what lay before then, and Eärendil was still out at sea. She missed him. She missed him so terribly when the councilors looked at her with fearful eyes and asked for her decision.

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Do you think tumblr will ever learn the difference between “I’m defending this person because I agree with them wholeheartedly and I am also like this person” and “I’m defending this person because your behavior is dangerous and you need to stop”

IMO, blurring the lines between “I’m defending them because they’re right” and “I’m defending them because you’re taking this too far” is step numero uno to cutting down the very existence of fair trial and democracy–even in places where saying that might seem a little dramatic. 

Mob mentality is extremely strong in humans and it’s also extremely dangerous. Mobs don’t think things through. Mobs kill and they destroy and they can’t be reasoned with. Someone trying to calm a mob down isn’t someone defending the ~problematic party~ It’s time we re-learn that.

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roach-works

“even IF the guy did whatever you’re accusing them of, mob violence isn’t a fair or proportionate response, and you guys need to go home and mind your own fucking business” is a thing absolutely no one likes to hear but frequently needs to be said regardless

So you literally do not agree and have learned nothing

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I think if you’re going to write period fiction about girls set somewhere in the last two centuries, you should read fiction about girls written during that point in the last two centuries.

For instance, I happen to have a couple shelves full of girls’ books from the start of the 20th century, and I can tell you that–at least in America–Acceptable Young Woman Protagonists of the time tended to do things like

  • drive cars (some books are about “auto clubs,” which is an especially fun window into the time. I wish I liked my car as much as these girls do theirs)
  • fly planes (mostly in books about flying, but not only that)
  • go to women’s colleges (MOST of them do this!)
  • run their own social lives, very much including dating
  • get jobs

And that’s not even including the spy/crime book heroines, who also tend to Face Down Criminals and Solve Mysteries and Save The Nation. Which…is not and was never intended to be realistic, probably, but was clearly acceptable in books for girls.

So I really question the Historical Female Characters who absolutely must carve out their own anachronistic ways to get anything done under the Oppressive Social Norms Of Their Time. Like…Betsy of the Betsy-Tacy books was having a fairly modern high school experience and planning to go to college and become a professional writer in the 1910s, with her family and friends’ full support. Maybe just move to Minnesota, girls?

Anne of Green Gables written in 1908. A very provential small town orphan, being raised by firmly traditional farmers with extrememly strict moral codes, who are considered fogyish sticks in the mud by their peers, is sent to university without question.

She has a nice backlog of acceptable suitors available to her.

She is attractive enough.

She had a range of employment options open to her.

However they observed her to be of much higher than average intelligence and said,

“welp! Those are brains, it is within our means, those brains go to University!”

The entire provential community agrees and sends her off with the other boys and girls without question.

Also fun to rember, througout the 1800’s the Quaker universites in the US were so well know for producing female doctors that one of them graduated the frist female MD for nearly a dozen different countries. That means that girls from as far away as India, China, and Europe heard of these US Universites and traveled across the Pacific ocean to attend them.

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