How tf is hating Harper controversial? I hated her and wished Abby and Riley ended up together or even Abby staying tf away from Harper and her toxic, gross, weird family forever
KFVDJDBJSDBJSBS apparently the discourse over on twitter is that if you dislike harper you’re privileged and hate all closeted people??
i’ve been in more than one relationship where my partner was closeted and i had to meet their loved ones as their “friend” at first and i never had an issue with that; you can’t push someone when they aren’t ready, you can’t decide when the right moment is for them, and if you actively decide to be in a relationship with them you do have to be willing to support them in that decision.
HOWEVER. the key to a relationship like that is communication!!! you’re essentially asking your partner to hide a huge part of themselves until you’re ready. that’s a big sacrifice. so y'all both need to be open and honest about both of your boundaries and your expectations for one another to make it work. NOT lie to them and tell them for six months that your parents know and took it well, making them feel comfortable to the point they feel ready to propose to you, invite them home for christmas, and then tell them ON THE CAR RIDE THERE when it’s TOO LATE FOR THEM TO VOICE THEIR DISCOMFORT OR CONCERNS that actually you lied the entire time and you have to act like friends for the weekend. you trapped them and you aren’t giving them any choice in the matter or any time to even process.
also, being closeted is NOT a free pass to treat everyone around you like shit? it wasn’t a free pass to use abby’s parents as the reason for inviting her, withtout asking abby’s permission, so she had to hear about how she was an orphan all weekend when she explicitly said that’s why christmas is uncomfortable for her. it wasn’t a free pass to barely even defend abby when she KNEW she didn’t take that necklace, but let her get punished for it anyway. it wasn’t a free pass to not even treat your “”“friend”“” like a friend and abandon/ignore her for the whole trip, then turn it around on her and say she’s suffocating you when abby dares to get annoyed about it. it wasn’t an excuse to hang all over your ex boyfriend in front of your partner and not deny his advances because you were too afraid of how it would look. it wasn’t an excuse to then act accusatory towards abby when she went to hang out with the only person in the whole town who she was allowed to be herself around because you couldn’t make time for her. it also wasn’t an excuse to destroy something your sister worked hard on and completely pretend like she isn’t a relevant human being (justice for jane)!
you can absolutely require support from your partner when you’re in the closet, but you can’t throw them around like a ragdoll in every possible way and then blame it on that. that IS toxic. abby and riley 4ever.
/end rant