All I Want for Christmas Is You || Mariah Carey
sometimes book less about you reading it and more about it being your companion
“i should bring a book” i say not because i plan on reading it at any point but because i need to have someone on my side in the grocery store soup aisle
Before January ends, I’m going to magically and extremely be blessed by the universe.
not gonna risk scrolling past this
⭐️
how to draw a realistic steven
draw young danny devito
@its-a-gemfact NO!!!
Tried coloring it...
I know im op but im......................
When I was training to be a battered women’s advocate, my supervisor said something that really blew my mind:
“You can always assume one thing about your clients; and that is that they are doing their best. Always assume everyone is doing their best. And if they’re having a day where their best just isn’t that great, or their best doesn’t look like your best, you have to be okay with that.”
Any now whenever anyone in my life, either a friend or a client, frustrates me, disappoints me, or pisses me off, I just tell myself They are doing their best. Their best isn’t that great today, but I have days where my best isn’t that great either.
Op I’d like to thank you for sharing this. Ever since the first time I’ve read it I’ve held it in my mind and it really has helped me to be kinder to others and to myself.
they were bout to sing a song
Why "doing something relaxing” does not help your anxiety
A lot of the time when people give advice intended to relieve anxiety, they suggest doing “relaxing” things like drawing, painting, knitting, taking a bubble bath, coloring in one of those zen coloring books, or watching glitter settle to the bottom of a jar.
This advice is always well-intentioned, and I’m not here to diss people who either give it or who benefit from it. But it has never, ever done shit for me, and this is because it goes about resolving anxiety in the completely wrong way.
THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO when suffering from anxiety is to do a “relaxing” thing that just enables your mind to dwell and obsess more on the thing that’s bothering you. You need to ESCAPE from the dwelling and the obsession in order to experience relief.
You can drive to a quiet farm, drive to the beach, drive to a park, or anywhere else, but as someone who has tried it all many, many times, trust me–it’s a waste of gas. You will just end up still sad and stressed, only with sand on your butt. You can’t physically escape your sadness. Your sadness is inside of you. To escape, you need to give your brain something to play with for a while until you can approach the issue with a healthier frame of mind.
People who have anxiety do not need more time to contemplate, because we will use it to contemplate how much we suck.
In fact, you could say that’s what anxiety is–hyper-contemplating. When we let our minds run free, they run straight into the thorn bushes. Our minds are already running, and they need to be controlled. They need to be given something to do, or they’ll destroy everything, just like an overactive husky dog ripping up all the furniture.
Therefore, I present to you:
THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN ANXIOUS
–Go on a walk
–Watch a sunset, watch fish in an aquarium, watch glitter, etc.
–Go anywhere where the main activity is sitting and watching
–Draw, color, do anything that occupies the hands and not the mind
–Do yoga, jog, go fishing, or anything that lets you mentally drift
–Do literally ANYTHING that gives you great amounts of mental space to obsess and dwell on things.
THINGS YOU SHOULD DO WHEN ANXIOUS:
–Do a crossword puzzle, Sudoku, or any other mind teaser game. Crosswords are the best.
–Write something. It doesn’t have to be a masterpiece. Write the Top 10 Best Restaurants in My City. Rank celebrities according to Best Smile. Write some dumb Legolas fanfiction and rip it up when you’re done. It’s not for publication, it’s a relief exercise that only you will see.
–Read something, watch TV, or watch a movie–as long as it’s engrossing. Don’t watch anything which you can run as background noise (like, off the top of my head, Say Yes to The Dress.) As weird as it seems, American Horror Story actually helps me a lot, because it sucks me in.
–Masturbate. Yes, I’m serious. Your mind has to concentrate on the mini-movie it’s running. It can’t run Sexy Titillating Things and All The Things That are Bothering Me at the same time. (…I hope. If it can, then…ignore this one.)
–Do math problems—literally, google “algebra problems worksheet” and solve them. If you haven’t done math since 7th grade this will really help you. I don’t mean with math, I mean with the anxiety.
–Play a game or a sport with someone that requires great mental concentration. Working with 5 people to get a ball over a net is a challenge which will require your brain to turn off the Sadness Channel.
–Play a video game, as long as it’s not something like candy crush or Tetris that’s mindless.
THINGS YOU SHOULD DO DURING PANIC ATTACKS ESPECIALLY:
–List the capitals of all the U.S. states
–List the capitals of all the European countries
–List all the shapes you can see. Or all the colors.
–List all the blonde celebrities you can think of.
–Pull up a random block of text and count all the As in it, or Es or whatever.
Now obviously, I am not a doctor. I am just an anxious person who has tried almost everything to help myself. I’ve finally realized that the stuff people recommend never works because this is a disorder that thrives on free time and free mental space. When I do the stuff I listed above, I can breathe again. And I hope it helps someone here too.
(Now this shouldn’t have to be said but if the “do nots” work for you then by all means do them. They’ve just never worked for me.)
This would’ve been great an hour ago
If your anxiety includes rapid heartbeat for no reason then it may help to exercise! It helps for me because I’m focused on whatever moves I’m doing and breathing, and it gives my heart rate a reason to be that high so that I can start the slow cooking down process and (hopefully) bring that heart rate down with it. Look up a quick cardio workout on YouTube or something and just do it in your room!
This is so, SO true.
All ‘doing something relaxing’ ever did for me was give my brain MORE free time to FREAK THE FUCK OUT.
I like how this boil down to grabbing something then tell the brains weasels to GO FETCH YOU PIECES OF SHIT
I mean.
That’s basically it tho.
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ok why does this look better than marvel movies with $100m budgets
btw the pepe symbol used to be a white supremacist/fascist icon, but a while back the creator sued and worked to make it illegal for those groups to use the meme. hong king protestors seem to be using it as a symbol for their protest now!! pls signal boost so people don’t label them as white supremacists.
Success on the Pepe reclaim
What are you clowns talking about??? This is LITERALLY a far-right protest to protect a man who murdered his girlfriend. Like I get you guys wanna make your "pepe redemption arc" memes so bad but. Consider thinking. For once.
Hey! HongKonger here. It looks like there's confusion about what the Hong Kong protests are really about, so I hope I can help clear it up.
We want justice for the murder victim too, and we're definitely not trying to protect the murderer. The thing is, the murder happened in Taiwan, outside of Hong Kong, and HK currently doesn't have any extradition agreement with Taiwan, so we can't give the man to Taiwan for legal proceedings right now.
Now, HK can certainly work out some sort of special agreements with Taiwan to make it happen for this murder case, and that's what a reasonable top HK leader should do. But no, the current Chief Executive (i.e. the top political leader), who's actually elected by mainland China but not democratically elected by the people of HK and thus doesn't really care about our opinion, decided not to work out a special arrangement for the murder case. You know what she did?
She decided to make a blanket change to the current HK extradition law, so that it allows everyone who lives or even just passing through HK to be handed over to places we currently don't have extradition deals with. Sounds good, right?
Wrong! Taiwan doesn't want to go down this route and it has explicitly stated that if that's the route HK takes, Taiwan will not request for the murderer to be handed over to Taiwan. For one, it's not the most time efficient way for HK to hand over the man to Taiwan and get justice for the murdered girlfriend.
The most important and underlying reason is: the proposed changes cover handing over people to mainland China, which we all don't trust bc of its "legal" system that frequently forces people to "confess" their "crime" without real proof of crime and the main victims are human rights activists. The proposed new extradition bill can't guarantee people turned over will be assumed innocent until proven guilty in the legal systems they're sent to, which is the foundation to protect people wrongfully charged of crime. And the HK court doesn't have enough power to overrule sending anyone to mainland China for any "crime".
Tl;dr:
HongKongers want justice for the murder victim, but not through the proposed changes to the law currently put forward by the HK government. If the proposed changes are passed, mainland China can bully the top HK political leader into handing over anyone who disagrees with mainland China to be sentenced in mainland China under any "crime" it can make up.
"You're protecting the murderer if you don't support the proposed new extradition bill" is exactly the kind of rhetoric the mainland China-appointed top HK political leader uses to try to make protestors fighting for freedom look bad.
Is that what you want for Hong Kong? To be turned into the express line for punishment in mainland China for fabricated crimes?
P.S. We identify as HongKongers / HongKongese to denote we're different from mainland Chinese. "Chinese" in our context refers to people from mainland China. Be mindful when you refer to people from Hong Kong.
I’m so glad I’ve finally found a post on my dash about why the Hong Kong protests are happening.
PLEASE SHARE THIS!
Five Demands of the Hong Kong people:
- Full withdrawal of the Extradition Bill (a.k.a. the Evil Law)
- Retraction of the characterisation of the protest as a “riot”
- Release of all the arrested protesters (especially the students and the wounded)
- Accountability for police brutality
- Resignation of Carrie Lam
There are English and Japanese Sub version too! Spread the word
this was posted four hours prior to me reblogging this! please, spread the word about the hong kong protests! this incredibly important and more and more people are harmed by police brutality as the protests continue!!
FIrst law of robotics: they can’t cum
If you’re not dating to get married, you’re dating to breakup
Or to have an experience with love and a connection that doesn’t have to be permanent in an ever changing world and constantly changing people. Jfc this is such a flawed mindset. You’re not gonna marry every person you date but that doesn’t mean you SHOULDNT DATE THEM and puts unnecessary pressure on every person to be ‘the one’, which can force toxic and unfulfilling relationships. No one listen to that post or any rhetoric like this.
Also not everyone wants to get married, and we have our valid reasons for that.