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formerly jason-gracious

@thaliaramirez-arellano-blog / thaliaramirez-arellano-blog.tumblr.com

hey guys, i'm maddie (cisfem, she/her, pansexual), infp, cancer sun/libra moon, i'm 18 years old, and i started this blog for percy jackson but i'm not quite sure what it turned into. :] welcome! gorgeous icon is by the wonderful noorrasoul!
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you know what’s really genuinely unsettling? the degree to which men fucking do not want to sympathize with/be interested in women.

male audiences will happily watch a dozen superhero shows, but then something like Agent Carter or Supergirl turn up and they’re panned from the first trailer and have to struggle for ratings. male audiences will watch countless installments of a franchise as long as it’s about men doing man things but the second a character like Rey or Furiosa or god forbid four entire female Ghostbusters steps up and takes a position of prominence it’s “pandering sjw bullshit”.

it’s not pandering. men just aggressively don’t want to have to be invested in a woman’s narrative and it’s really gross.

anyway re: everyone telling me to “Stop making this a gender thing” or some variation on that

this isn’t like… an opinion I’m pulling out of my ass here? this starts where earlier than tv shows and hollywood blockbusters, when all the kids in a class are reading Harry Potter or Percy Jackson or Eragon o Lord of the Rings or Maze Runner or whatever the hip book is right now. the books like that, the ones that become popular reading, are overwhelmingly about male leads, because male is still considered the default. 

there’s a split in YA literature, between books that are “for everyone” and “for girls”, and that’s honestly the entire issue in a tiny little box right there. stories about men are supposed to be accessible for everyone, but stories about girls are seen as 1.) inherently for women and 2.) something that only women will care about.

men grow up in a society that doesn’t make them go out of their way to get into the heads of women and empathize with then. historically it’s been very easy for men to not engage with female-led media if they don’t want to, whereas (like someone else commented on this post) girls and women have had very little choice in the past because everything was about men. we didn’t even question it.

and now the women are arriving in mainstream media in ways that say they’re important and they matter and

small (or sometimes not so small) but loud-enough-to-be-acknowledged groups of men lose. their. shit.

because they think there’s something inherently Not For Them about a woman’s story, and they never learned how to deal with it.

(also once again, because  LOT of ya’ll don’t seem to get this here: I’m trying to talk about knee-jerk reactions to female-centered works - often before they even come out. not whether or not you personally thought [x show or movie] was good. ya feel?)

all of this

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Growing up my parents made me believe that someone turning a light on in the car while I’m driving was going to be a much bigger issue in my life than it actually is.

Did we all have the same childhood ?!

Apparently

I’m glad this wasn’t just a weird thing my parents did but apparently a weird thing a lot of parents do

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Outlaw conversion therapy. Put its practitioners in prison. Along with the parents who sent their kids there. They are all guilty of abuse, hate crimes, and the murder of anyone who’s taken their lives as a result.

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 ok but 

  • “you just moved in to the neighborhood and i’m trying to be a “good neighbor” so i’m helping you unpack and making small talk like would you like to take a coffee with me lat—wHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU CARRYING ROCKS IN THIS BOX” au
  • “i came here to have my hair cut but you’re ranting about how beautiful my hair is and now i’m regretting my decision what have you done” au 
  • “you’re the member of this band and you’re promoting your new album and you just came to me to hand me an example but i’m not really a fan of your music but god fucking damn it you’re so hot maybe i can buy one just to try” au
  • “i’m a writer and i’ve been trying to find inspiration but my ways to find it are very very weird and you’re convinced i’m trying to summon satan i swear i’m just trying to find inspiration” au
  • “i run this bakery and you come every single day to buy pies and cakes and i’m getting concerned over your health seriously dude eating this much it’s not healthy” au
  • “i accidentally quoted my favorite book out loud while answering something and it turns out you’re a fan too and now we’re in this huge dork conversation god help me i’m so nerd” au 
  • “your horrible car is in my parking lot like i know it doesn’t have a name but it’s my parking lot i’ve grown attached to it so why don’t you move your horrible car and get your ugly f—oh my god you’re hot HELLO THERE” au
  • “i cannot believe you defeated me on a pokemon battle like your team is so lame are you seriously still using politoed in your team like dude that’s so gen 5 so WHY DID YOU DEFEAT ME FIGHT ME AGAIN” au
  • “i came inside this store to buy this new album and there’s only onecopy left and YOU’RE TAKING IT HANDS OFF MY NEW ALBUM” au
  • “i’ve heard you talking to your friend about my favorite character and you’re talking about this Harry Potter AU but you sorted them in the wrong house i cannot stand this bullshit” au 
  • “you were sitting beside me when we were watching big hero 6 and you saw me cry like a baby don’t tell anyone about this it would ruin my reputation” au 
  • “i’m new in this town and i got lost in the supermarket and you’re the kind person who’s guiding me but please don’t call my mother i’m a grown-up” au 
  • “MY FRIENDS TOLD ME TO FLIRT WITH YOU BECAUSE I THOUGHT YOU WERE PRETTY BUT YOU FLIRTED BACK AND NOW I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO OH MY GOD MY HANDS ARE SWEATING” au 
  • “you’re the captain of our school’s (sport) team and i have a crush on you (but who doesn’t actually) and i’ve been assisting your games like every single one and all of sudden you started to talk to me oh my god what do i do what do i say— “hey do you like potatoes?” —oh my god kill me now” au 
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sixpenceee

lmao the security question behind one of my accounts was “who’s you’re favorite person in history?” I completely forgot but then remembered my personality and typed “me”. needless to say, I got access. 

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queendread

Like it literally doesn’t matter if Trump can’t do any of the impossible, illegal things he’s promised. It doesn’t matter, because as soon as a platform built on hate is validated in this way, culture changes. Britain the morning after the Brexit vote was a different place. It wasn’t just the measurable rise in hate crimes and plummeting economy, it was people feeling free to say all the ugliest things they’d ever thought because they knew at least half the country was behind them.

In the coming days and months, please stay safe. Please never stop fighting for a better world. This won’t be forever.

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