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The Friendly Black Hottie.

@lookatthewords / lookatthewords.tumblr.com

Hey. I’m Colette. The ripe old age of 20-something. I write stuff and things. WritingWithColor is my diverse writing advice blog. I'm all about PoC, particularly Black + Woman of Color Issues, Writing, Diverse Beauty, Art, Self-Love, and funny ish.
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shinidamachu
Anonymous asked:

Okay so we all know by now why Inuyasha fell for Kagome — it’s fairly obvious, because she’s amazing, who wouldn’t? But why do you think Kagome fell in love with Inuyasha? At the beginning of their journey she couldn’t stand his rash and abrasive attitude and was always saying how a guy the complete opposite of him would be her type, so what made her grow from just viewing him as a friend who she would need to teach to bring out of his shell, into a viable romantic interest?

I’m sure we can all pinpoint the time when Kagome really started developing feelings was her seeing Inuyasha’s human night for the first time and when he was laying in her lap and saying how good she smelled, being honest with his true feelings for once. What was it about that moment that caused Kagome to start to see Inu in a new light? Was she attracted to his vulnerability? When she saw that combined with his always protecting her was that enough to stir her heart? What’s your take on what it was about Inuyasha that made made Kagome fall in love?

So I think it’s obvious by now why Inuyasha fell for Kagome, but what exactly was it about Inuyasha that made Kagome fall for him? How did she go from dislike to tolerance to seeing him as a friend she could teach and learn to open up to the world into a viable romantic interest? She says it herself early on, Inuyasha was the exact opposite of her type, so what exactly was it about him that attracted her to him that he couldn’t already give her at the friend level?

I'm guessing you asked @born-for-eachother this very same question a while ago? And her answer was as insightful as ever, so I'm not sure what else can I say to expand on her already brilliant take, but I'll give it my best try.

This is Kagome's reply when her friends asked what her type is. Mind you, she's only fifteen. Kagome might think that she knows what she wants, but she most definitely doesn't know yet what she needs. And that's an important distinction.

Also, please notice that Kagome's lying to herself, because there's only one person in the series that fit her criteria perfectly: Hojo. Even still, she had no romantic interest in him whatsoever despite the statement above.

And the scene's whole point wasn't to stabilish the kind of guy Kagome would fall for, but to show us that, when asked about what her type was, Inuyasha crosses her mind, even if it was in a "negative" light.

If it was the case, it would have made way more sense for her to simply describe a type and define Hojo as the yardstick against which all potential boyfriends would be measured, but instead she made the entire thing about Inuyasha, subconsciously drawing a correlation between him and romantic interest.

And of course, Inuyasha actually does have at least half of the qualities Kagome was listing. She just didn't have the opportunity to realize that at the time, since their first impression of each other was disastrous and Inuyasha was keeping his guard up. She didn't know the real him yet.

That's why she couldn’t stand his rash and abrasive attitude at the beginning of their journey. Kagome thought he was being a jerk for the sake of being a jerk and, for his part, Inuyasha was constantly proving her misconceptions right.

It takes a little time for her to figure him out, which is to be expected because, at first, he made his life's mission to push Kagome away and she have never met someone like him before, but eventually, she manages to see right through him.

His selfishness was a facade. He had to think of himself first because he learned that if he didn't, no one else would. However, he did care for others, no matter how good he was at pretending otherwise. And he might complain about it the whole time, but he always does the right thing in the end.

Especially when it comes to Kagome. There were many occasions in which he resigned himself with letting her go, be it because he feared for her own safety, be it because he knew it wasn't fair of him to ask her to stay even though the thing he wanted the most was to have her by his side. When push comes to shove, he prioritizes Kagome's well being over his own feelings every time. This is the opposite of selfish.

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There are so many ways to make moodboards, bookcovers, and icons without infringing copyright! As artists, authors, and other creatives, we need to be especially careful not to use someone else’s work and pass it off as our own. 

Please add on if you know any more sites for free images <3

adding this google docs that i’ve had saved for years (i don’t even remember where i got it from) that has a whole page of links to public domain image sites and eighteen more pages of creative resources!! i’ve gotten so much from it over the years if whoever made it happens to read this thank you so much

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also adding my google docs which has more resources.

i also recommend using etsy for patterns/backgrounds. most creators sell their wallpaper/pattern/texture packs for under $10, and some even sell HUGE sale bundles for the same amount if not less. i STRONGLY recommend it and it’s made a huge difference with coding character profiles on toyhou.se and using for art as well.

for anyone wanting more diverse and inclusive stock photos, free to use, nappy.co is there and i LOVE it.

google images isn’t always reliable as a reverse image search, but i’ve pulled off massive miracles with tineye.

also behance has some free images and various other resources for images!

final piece of advice: tumblr, pinterest and instagram CAN be a good resource if you use it and try to source correctly/follow up on sources - but also make sure to archive and checks links for off-site resources if they’re there. this is ESPECIALLY true for pinterest, since people usually pull their pins directly FROM the sources themselves. but do not rely on any of the above places (and especially we heart it) for sourcing/finding aesthetic images.

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Anonymous asked:

Have you heard of Stitch's Media Mix? She's/they're a black writer who often talks about racism and antiblackness in fandom, and it seems like stuff that'd be right up your ally.

I had not heard of them. I’ll have to check them out, thanks much! :) 

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Ms Colette, I checked back every day this last week and I did not see my question about green skin answered. Did I miss it or did you need more time to post it? I want to clarify I'm not mad or anything, I just want to make sure. And as a side note, I just want to clarify that any time I send a 'good vibes' ask to you all that I am not trying to curry favor or anything, I'm being genuine. -Zach

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Hi!  Sorry for the delay in response. There’s actually several green skin questions answered. Was this the one you’d asked? 

tw for the propaganda images

~Colette

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atlanxic

sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.

“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.

“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.

when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.

if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.

you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.

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nebet-ren

This is the most carefully-nuanced discussion of this I think I have ever seen. Thank you for writing this.

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muttnick

Men's 38-in-one night time sickness cold & flu shampoo & conditioner toothpaste and mouthwash combo (plus nourishing skin formula with hydrating aloe)

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val-ritz

be right back guys i need to run out to O'Reilly's Auto Parts and get another jug of Boy Juice to soak in, got a big day tomorrow and want to wash up, brush my teeth, take care of these sniffles, and exfoliate

Folks, this exists and it's called Dr. Bronner's castile soap.

https://wildflowerbotanicals.wordpress.com/2010/11/02/18-uses-for-dr-bronners-soaps/

Hey what the fuck

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plushefemme

not to be a hedonist but. pleasure IS the whole point, my loves. we are made for pleasure. humans have not survived out of spite or sheer grit or simply to make more humans. we live for pleasure. the pleasure of licking the last delicious crumbs off your fingers and feeling sunlight on your skin and massaging a loved one's shoulders. we're made to fill our bellies with delicious food, to nap in soft grass, to touch each other in joy and comfort.

there is no shame or guilt in our bodies doing what they were made to do. and we are made for pleasure.

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zhimaqiu

And this is tiktok we need

75% of the time if something is paywalled, fucking around in developer mode looking for a link to the real thing or finding and deleting the content blocker works like a charm

also if ur lazy like me or just straight up cant figure out how to do this without deleting 90% of the page  theres this extention called Poper Blocker which not only.. blocks popups. but also has this thing called “Remove Overlay” when u right click which works a good 99% of the time in my experience in getting rid of paywalls.

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“Imagine if people had been going ‘don’t fight hate with hate’ back when Hitler was around.”

Fam…let me tell you bout Poland.

Let me tell you about how the entire rest of Europe sat ack and watched the invasion of Poland because they thought it would be “improper” to send military aid. How they were unwilling to enforce the treaties that Germany was breaking, because that would make them “just as bad.” They sat back and wrote strongly worded letters while fascists grew in power because they didn’t want to dirty their hands. They thought reasonable discussion and politics would be enough to stop a fascist dictator from rising to power.

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dustlines

Spoiler alert: it wasn’t enough.

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closet-keys

like yes, people literally did try that argument then too. 

Everywhere there’s fascists there are fascist apologists hiding under the guise of pacifism, ready to enable their shit and demonize resistance. 

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lesserjoke

Today I learned that Kronk from The Emperor's New Groove is canonically Jewish in the spinoff series.

Here's the link to the whole challah recipe, before anyone asks: https://twitter.com/disney/status/1411022232445464585

Blocking the haters who have opened up their assholes to express the wet fart of an opinion that Jews are an unrealistic addition to a children's comic fantasy series whose major initial premise was a dude being turned into a llama ✌️

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