East Asian fanartists are starting to migrate back to Tumblr because Twitter is insane, toxic, and dying, and what we're NOT going to do is let the fucking exclusionists get them, do you hear me? We are not going to let a bunch of feral idiots try to apply the most myopic version of puritanism to foreign artists we're not we're not we're not. Form an armed brigade if you have to, do you hear me. We're not going to bully the artists who may or may not even speak English because we have our precious standards of moral purity. If we see art that makes us uncomfy we're going to block the artist and tumblr savior their name so we don't have to see them again AND WE'RE GONNA MOVE THE FUCK ON.

Important note for mobile users, you don't actually need tumblrsavior to do this!

All you need to do is go to your account settings, scroll to "Filtered post content" and input their username. This will filter

I always thought this option was common knowledge, but apparently it's not..? It's especially useful since new users and artists who don't speak english are notoriously inconsistent about tagging, which normally means their posts slip between the cracks with the "filter tags" settings.

Another thing I recently realized you should do is look up the translation of various ship names in other writing systems, since they might not use the english equivalent. Also, remember that depending on character dynamic and "who tops", the order of the names in the shipname gets swapped! So you actually have to block two tags per ship. Alright happy filtering MWAH!!

#not sure how related to the post this is so I'm leaving it in the tags#but CP is a common abbreviation for the word ''couple'' over in Chinese and Japanese corners of the Internet#maybe some other languages too#point is it does not mean child porn#so we're clear#discourse

This is important enough to not only get peer reviewed but that I wish it had its own post with a thousand reblogs honestly.

Etsy is somehow being even worse, do not click etsy ads

Etsy is now forcing shop owners to be part of their ads. We can not opt out.

To anyone who buys from etsy: DO NOT EVER CLICK THEIR ADS

They are rolling out a program where if you get a sale from an ad they put out, they’re taking 12-15% of the profit(probably on top of the like, 5%ish+ they already take). Even worse, if you have clicked an Etsy ad in the last 30 days ANYONE YOU BUY FROM ON ETSY IN THAT PERIOD WILL BE BILLED THAT FEE. 

So please, if you see an ad for something you like off etsy, do not click it. Just go on etsy and search for it.

This is somehow worse than what storenvy used to pull. 

Please go directly through an artist or see if they have their own storefront (I use bigcartel) instead of purchasing off etsy. And if you must, just please, please, never click an etsy ad.

Hey I opened my etsy shop back up after years to destash some stuff and make a little extra money and so I ran smack into this myself.  DO NOT CLICK ETSY ADS to buy something.  It charges the seller a huge fee that that did not expect or agree to.  In my case it was pretty much large enough to eat all my profit.  The only way to fight against this is to increase all your prices a lot in case anyone buys your stuff after clicking on an ad, therefore driving all prices up. 

And it’s not 12-15% of the profit, it’s 12-15% of the PRICE.  There’s no way Etsy knows the cost of the actual item before profit.  So if you price your wares with 15% profit for yourself, congrats you’ve lost money on the transaction. 

Just a reminder for holiday season and in general.

a lot of young girls need to realize that keeping friendships alive gets so hard after high school/uni and that you have to actively nurture your friendships if you want them to last yes even the friendships of 2 decades….. your 20s are so disorienting and trauamtizing no one can afford to take friendships for granted… everybody worries about not finding a romantic partner lets start worrying about being friendless by the time you hit 30

hey uh. I didn’t learn this lesson. I’ve spent years and years at a time without the kind of friends that interact with you every week, or even every month. Without the kind of friends that you see often and know well. During my 20′s and into my 30′s I let my friends get to arms length and before i knew it they  were all miles away.

I’ve reconnected with some people who have shared the strongest bonds with me, which is good, it’s very good, but those few people all live in different states or countries now, they have kids or intense careers or their time is filled by lots of everyday friends, and so I go months at a time without seeing or talking to friends.

I finally had to schedule weekly phone calls with two or three just so I could maintain SOME kind of friendship.

But it has become a very lonely life.

Don’t assume you’ll always have friends, or that you can always make new friends. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that friendships don’t require purposeful effort to maintain. When you day-dream about your best possible future, don’t forget to include specifics about your friends being there, and then when you work toward those dreams, make sure some of the work is to keep those friendships active.

Up through the middle of the 20th Century, a lot of women in Western culture spent a lot of time purposefully maintaining those social bonds with their friends (and also just with people in the community).

You know how they did it? Luncheons. Tea parties. Ladies’ Aid meetings. Book clubs. Bridge clubs. Formal social calls–fifteen minutes or half-an-hour at one house, then on to the next, all afternoon. Garden parties. “The Ladies Who Lunch.” Now, some of this is class-based; but even working-class women did a scaled-down version of this, usually, in their off-hours.

Men did this too, on a smaller scale; bowling leagues, going to ball games together, playing golf, poker night. Joining something like the Rotary or the Elks or the VFW.

One of the things that got lost over the course of the late 20th Century was this knowledge that social bonds had to be maintained on purpose if they were going to last, and the skills of how to do that. Boomers looked at their parents’ lives, didn’t like them, thought it was so old-fashioned and conservative and empty, and didn’t ask if there was an underlying reason for it. (And what other forms “maintaining positive social bonds” might take in a modern context.) And so set about either dismantling or neglecting those norms and groups until today, when there are only vestiges left.

And now we look around and we’re so lonely and we don’t know why or how to change it, because from Gen Z on down, we didn’t have the examples of previous generations showing us what a purposeful social life could look like. So if you happen to be naturally good at making friends, you’re fine; and if you’re not, you’re in trouble.

But these are fixable things. We can create our own versions of things to help support our own (and other peoples’) social needs! It’s not some arcane alchemy! Here are some things you can do:

what’s your worst sin out of the seven mine is pride. i’m never going to die btw

wow why did you have to say this

hey guys quick reminder not to open discord links offering free gifts/nitro, even ones from your friends. i got this from a friend today and it looks pretty legit but it’s definitely a scam. my sister opened the link, and by the time she realized and tried to change her password, it had already locked her out. it also unfriends you from everyone in your friends list so it’s harder to quickly contact people after your hacked account sends the link to everyone you know, or to get back in touch with people if you lose your account. these are sneaky! don’t fall for em

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just a reminder that when england win domestic abuse rates go up by 26% and by 38% if they lose. im thinking of all the women no matter what happens tonight. here’s a few helplines for anybody who needs them!