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Hii I'm Julia! 18 y/o shitposter. Feminism! Message me if you want to be my memefriend! ❤
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acutelesbian

A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it. That their lover’s once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life. Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.

this fucks me up every single time

I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds I’ve written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I left out the most beautiful part of that class.

After my teacher introduced us to this theory, she asked us, “is love a feeling? Or is it a choice?” We were all a bunch of teenagers. Naturally we said it was a feeling. She said that if we clung to that belief, we’d never have a lasting relationship of any sort.

She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and we asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed. At the end, I asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice.

Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the “feeling of love” had vanished or faded and they weren’t happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation.

The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with.

The divorced ones said they chose to walk away.

Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful. I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. I’ve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I’ve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days.

I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again.

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ppl: we want characters with flaws who make mistakes!
ppl, looking at a character who has flaws and makes mistakes: wow that's problematic why do people like this character?? :/
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Looks like a cinnamon roll but could actually kill you: Lily Evans-Potter
Looks like a cinnamon roll, is actually a cinnamon roll: Remus Lupin
Looks like they could kill you, is actually a cinnamon roll: Sirius Black
The sinnamon roll: James "I was a Lily-harassing dick but I grew out of it" Potter
Looks like a cinnamon roll but COULD AND WOULD BETRAY HIS BEST FRIENDS LEAVING AN ORPHAN BEING BROUGHT UP WITH MORE ISSUES THAN THE QUIBBLER: Peter Pettigrew
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Looks like they could kill you, could actually kill you: Bellatrix Lestrange
Looks like they could kill you, is actually a cinnamon roll: Regulus Black
Looks like a cinnamon roll, could actually kill you: Narcissa Malfoy
Looks like a cinnamon roll, is a cinnamon roll: Andromeda Tonks
Will kill you with their cinnamon rolls: Sirius Black
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looks like they could kill you, could actually kill you: lily evans
looks like they could kill you, is actually a cinnamon roll: sirius black
looks like a cinnamon roll, could actually kill you: remus lupin
looks like a cinnamon roll, is actually a cinnamon roll: peter pettigrew
will kill you with their cinnamon rolls: james potter
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silverhawk

one of the most blessed pictures ive seen

look at this boy. this is a happy round boy with a small head but a gorgeous smile. im so happy looking at this baby.

more b lessed serval pics:

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cliffracer

im sorry but i had to add to this post because holy shit

<:3

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fuck it

i dont want girls sexualising mlm relationships anymore. at all

i dont want them fetishizing our relationships bc they think it’s sexy

i dont care if its a “way for them to express their sexuality”. that aint right and its messed that they can say that they want men in the porn industry to stop fetishizing wlw relationships, only to do the same bc its “fandom”

can yall please reblog this actually ??

bc like. im a boy attracted to boys. and this is making me uncomfortable and i want it to stop

and im not the only one ? a handful of people have agreed with me and im sure there are more

please dont ignore this bc you want to keep writing/drawing/reading m/m porn…. or bc im a boy and you dont care what i have to say….. especially if you disagree with the treatment of wlw in the porn industry its a double standard and this is important to me and i dont want it to be swept under the rug

Add on: you can still write, draw and read about mlm without fetishizing them. By fetishization, OP means that you only see these relationships as sexy and sinful instead of just seeing it as average everyday relationships.

Nearly every girl I’ve met within fandoms with mlm ships has only focused on the men having sex or calling them ‘my nasty gay babies’ and that’s just gross.

We’re all writers here so I thought it important that y’all see this and take note. 

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Once a boy looked very sadly at me after a little bit of conversation. ‘you’re so smart’ he said, ‘I feel like I couldn’t keep up’. And then he did that sad boy face where you’re supposed to agree to tone yourself down. So I said ‘probably’ and fucked his mate.

some top advice from a slut, here, 90% of the time when some boy looks sad and tells you you’re too ‘x’ to keep up with it’s a ploy to get you to cut bits off yourself so you can come down to his mediocre level; instead, agree with him and fuck his mate

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