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and a cat that didn't look 'appy

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LIKE there’s this whole thing in this book about how your brain grows stronger and healthier by practicing responding to stress in healthy ways, because if a stressor is predictable and you feel a sense of control over it, you habituate and stop reacting to it, but if it’s random and unpredictable you have the opposite response and become sensitized, so your reaction actually gets more and more extreme. (if you hear a loud noise at predictable intervals you’ll soon stop noticing or reacting, but if you hear it at random intervals you’ll become sensitive to it and anxious.) so one way to help people who have adverse reactions to reminders of trauma is to give them control over how they’re reminded of the trauma, because it helps the brain practice responding to stress in a safe way so you can habituate to the stress response.

which is why if someone tags something for a trigger and you still choose to look, it’s actually an act of healthy resistance against your reaction to that trigger (because it teaches your brain to habituate), but encountering something triggering in a random and unpredictable way actually increases your stress response and makes you more sensitive to the trigger. so people who are against trigger warnings because “you have to learn to cope” are actually taking away your tools for learning to cope, because encountering stressors in a way that further strips you of control over your trauma is never, ever helpful. it’s a lot of stuff i kind of knew but integrated and explained with more context and science

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meladoodle

Have you guys seen that awful scat video on the internet? 2 girls 1 cuppadeebe skeebe bop bada bop

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do you remember the first time you were called annoying? how your breath stopped short in your chest the way the light drained from your eyes, though you knew your cheeks were ablaze the way your throat tightened as you tried to form an argument that got lost on your tongue? your eyes never left the floor that day. you were 13. you’re 20 now, and i still see the light fade from your eyes when you talk about your interests for “too long,” apologies littering every other sentence, words trailing off a cliff you haven’t jumped from in 7 years. i could listen to you forever, though i know speaking for more than 3 uninterrupted minutes makes you anxious. all i want you to know is that you deserve to be heard for 3 minutes for 10 minutes for 2 hours forever. there will be people who cannot handle your grace, your beauty, your wisdom, your heart; mostly because they can’t handle their own. but you will never be and have never been “too much.”
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like this post if that you worked at Starbucks and Jared Leto came in for a coffee you’d act like you’d have no idea who he is because you think that it would really annoy him and that when you ask for his name to write on the cup he’d be like “it’s Jared Leto” and then you’d be like “I only need your first name” and then you write Jacob on the cup.

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bonerfart

How to spot a ‘fake’ gamer

  • Frequently pronounces video games as “Blideo Bames”
  • Will often say “I need help passing this level it’s really hard” then when you look at their screen it’s running Microsoft Excel 2007
  • They invite you over to their place to check out their game collection and it’s just every season of Frasier (still impressive)
  • Their Xbox One is actually a series of tissue boxes glued together with the word “NINTEMDO” painted over it
  • When you ask their favourite video game they respond by doing a series of skillful backflips, temporarily distracting you from having asked the question in the first place
  • Keeps a secret diary with “I HATE VIDEO GAMES AND I NEVER PLAY THEM” written on every page
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