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when you tell a man how he has hurt you and his response is “oh I’m such a piece of shit I’m a terrible person omg omg” and mentions/does nothing at all w/re: to your pain (and then you’re the one reassuring and comforting him of course you are, again)

This is a abuser tactic. If a man does this, he is a toxic person and a manipulator who needs to be avoided forever.

no no no no no

Tumblr, you have a serious problem where you call all unhealthy interpersonal behavior “inherently abusive”.

I know many kind and caring people who do this. These are people who have guilt and anxiety issues; realizing that they’ve hurt someone they care about can send them into a panicky spiral of self-flagellation.

I sometimes do this. Occasionally when I learn that I’ve hurt someone, I go into a state of sick guilt that I’ve written about before:

I’m completely aware that this is unhelpful and unhealthy behavior. And it would be completely reasonable for someone to say, “Look, your behavior makes it hard for me to tell you when you’ve hurt me. This is a deal-breaker; I can’t be close to someone when I feel uncomfortable telling them that they’ve violated my boundaries, or when I have to comfort them every time I tell them they’ve harmed me.”

This would be perfectly valid, and I would never try to stop anyone who wanted to leave me for this reason. That would be abusive.

But I really resent being told that since I sometimes have guilt spirals, I’m inherently a “toxic person and a manipulator who needs to be avoided forever.”

Everyone has the right to set their own boundaries. “I won’t date or be friends with anyone who goes into a guilt spiral when I tell them that they’ve hurt me” is a perfectly valid boundary. It’s also perfectly valid to not have that boundary. I personally do not find it stressful to interact with people who go into guilt spirals; I’m okay with comforting and reassuring them and helping them work through their guilt, and waiting until they’ve calmed down to have a more productive discussion. Because my boundaries and preferences allow it, I often have positive and healthy relationships with people who work this way.

So I’m concerned about how Tumblr discusses things like this. I’m concerned that people like misandry-mermaid, who have so many followers, would casually call everyone with an anxiety disorder “toxic people and manipulators”. I’m concerned that Tumblr creates a narrative where every behavior is either Completely Valid And Above Criticism or Inherently Abusive And Evil.

Tumblr, do you realize how many anxious, kind people will read posts like this and conclude that they’re horrible toxic abusers?

And by constantly emphasizing this narrative of “horrible toxic abusers”, do you realize that you’re making it harder for people to set their own boundaries in all cases where they don’t think their partner is a horrible toxic abuser? Do you realize that you’re making it harder for the girl who knows her boyfriend loves and cares about her, but who still can’t healthily be in a relationship with him because of his anxiety issues?

Please be careful when you create narratives. Someone doesn’t have to be evil or abusive for you to have a boundary that precludes engaging with them. And the only behavior that’s inherently abusive is refusing to respect the boundaries that other people set.

Reblogging for extended commentary.

Same, reblogging for extended commentary

The added commentary is really important.  It is entirely possible for a behaviour to be unhealthy or counterproductive without being malicious or abusive.  (Hell, there are a lot of behaviours that can be used in abusive ways that aren’t even necessarily inherently unhealthy in themselves.)  And it’s still okay not to want to be in a relationship with someone who behaves like that, if that is your own personal boundary.  A behaviour doesn’t have to be abusive, or deliberate, for it to be an acceptable reason to leave.

I do have to agree with the commentary. My boyfriend and I both have anxiety issues and whenever we hurt one another/fuck up in some way we do tend to go on guilt spirals. I know my boyfriend isn’t an abuser, he doesn’t abuse or manipulate me and the last thing he’d want to do is hurt me. These are unhealthy behaviours that people with anxiety/guilt issues can have and it would crush them even more for them to be labelled a “manipulative abuser” when they’re far from it. A lot of people who do this aren’t abusive! Please do not generalise in these situations! -Nika

Watching We Are Number One performed live honestly made up for the entirety of 2016. Literally the best thing I’ve seen all year. Click here to go to his GoFundMe page. Donate if you can! 

Dab.

2016 has officially been redeemed

angsty Lil Hunter and Rogue warm up doodles to get used to drawing LH again

Bird Costume Tutorial Masterpost

Here are a collection of tutorials explaining how I made my Kenku Costume. If you have more questions please check my Kenku Costume FAQ!

This costume is my Dungeons and Dragons character, Rue, who is a Kenku (bird person.) The Kenku are a monster race that became playable in 5th edition.

The photos in this post were taken by D. Davalos (flickr, twitter, instagram) at PAX West 2016.

decided to end an incredibly terrible day with something positive, like… #squadgoals

• Use the hand you write with.

• Make a fist with your thumb outside, not tucked inside. If it’s tucked inside your fist, when you punch someone, you might break your thumb. The thumb goes across your fingers, not on the side.

• Don’t be like in the movies—don’t aim for the face. Face punches don’t usually stop people, and you can miss when they duck their head or break your hand on their jaw. If you want to get away quickly, or end a fight, aim for the chest, or the ribs. If you really want to do some damage, e.g., you’re being attacked, aim for the throat, which will make it hard for your attacker to breathe for a hot minute.

• When you punch, you want to aim and hit with your first two knuckles. Not the flats of your fingers, and not your ring or pinky knuckles, which can break more easily. You can use your weight, if you’re on your feet, to add wallop, and spring into a punch with your feet and torso.

Useful information, esp. if you haven’t taken self defense.

I reblogged this once before to add this and I’ll do it again…

keep your wrist straight.

You can also risk breaking your wrist if you allow it to bend.  I actually can’t believe this isn’t in there.

Other good pointers:

see that meaty portion highlighted in red? There’s a lot of muscle and fat right there which makes it excellent for striking. Hold your hand as shown and aim for the nose or chin (though I’ve been told in extreme circumstances, doing this to the nose can be fatal but I’ve never really heard if this is true or not) and just aim upwards

Originally in (most) martial arts, you hit the solar plexus because it supposedly contained an important chakra. Now we know that it actually also contains like a bunch of necessary organs that are exposed just below your ribs and is also (roughly) where your diaphragm lives so getting punched there is not pleasant.

-Also, remember that a guy’s junk is not an off-button. Don’t think that you can rely on a swift kick to the balls to immediately incapacitate him in an emergency. Adrenaline and anger can keep somebody going for a long time even through extreme pain, and if you expect to end a fight with a single groin-attack you might be caught off-guard when he doesn’t drop. Certainly go for it if you get the chance, but keep hitting him until the fight is over.

-Draw blood if you can, especially if you can draw it from the face or the eyes. Blood in the eyes is not just a good way to impair your attacker’s vision, it’s also a really good way to freak them out and let them know that they might be getting more than they bargained for by picking a fight with you.

-Elbows and knees are really powerful weapons. Elbows are very sharp and very strong and if you are in close-range they are often more effective than trying to throw a punch. 

-Yelling and shouting makes you scary. 

Nothing much to add to this, it’s pretty much all there. So. Reblog. Oh, also, it’s really easy to break a nose - go for the eyes too. All it takes to avoid a shot to the throat is tucking your chin. Also, that part about the ear - don’t punch. An open hand over the ear hurts a lot.

Tumblr teaching me how to fuck a bitch up

Also if you fuck up their face it’ll be easier for police to identify the attacker.

If someone gets you from behind and you cant punch them, go for the underside of the upper-arm. A bad pinch there is legit so painful because that skin is super sensitive. Also this cant be stressed enough, if the attacker is a guy then fucking rip his junk off.

When throwing a punch:

If you use your elbow in a fight, don’t use the point, you’ll destroy your elbow. Instead, use the part on your triceps that’s right next to the point of the elbow. It’s much more powerful and you won’t be hurt too much.

If you’re attacked from behind, ramming the back of your skull into theirs will fuck them up.

If you get the chance to, grab the attacker’s index and middle finger and pull back as hard as you can towards the back of their hand. Hurts like a bitch.

The knees are powerful af, but they can also be seriously messed up if you hit them incorrectly. So, if you’re kicking someone, the knees is also an option, but ONLY if you use the ball/bottom of your foot, anything else will hurt you more.

In the chance that you’re attacked from behind and lifted into the air, flail as much as you can, especially your legs. Do not stop until your feet are on the ground.

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