eveeyones got it wrong your mid 20s arent for going to the club or partying or picking up new crafts. your 20s are for discovering how much more autistic you are than you thought you were in high school
staying close w people long distance really is about the mundane stuff. i get texts like "made quesadillas" "spilled mop water all over the floor :(" "lady on the bus has not one not two but three tiny dogs in her purse" andits like wow. i love you more than words can express
Stock associate got distracted
*shakes bag of treats* where is the Sam Drake fandom? I know there's gotta be more than three of us out there.
I am here!
Ghoast
Look what I found
don't give up
got told at lunch "you feel like Tumblr Incarnate" and i had to tell them i've been here for 13 years and counting. i was here three years before dashcon happened. i saw the mishapocalypse. i survived the gigapause. i've been here longer than the shoelaces post. i've been here since it was hipsters versus fandom and i played both sides extensively by overdoing the sepia filters on everything and making my own flashing galaxy gif edits for my fandom posts. i'm every tumblr. it's all in me
Oh ancient one what wisdom do you hold?
- 99% of callout posts are bullshit and just petty personal drama someone is escalating to get even on a grudge. do not engage with these, do not freelance as a cop
- DNIs do not work. accept this. internalize that people you don't like will see your posts and engage with them. this is unavoidable and the sooner you make peace with it the freer your mind will be. block the freaks and don't sweat the small stuff
- building a tight knit circle of fellow weirdos who vibe with your particular quirks and taste is infinitely more rewarding and sustainable than chasing the biggest numbers
- don't respond to bad-faith arguments or bad takes; just block people, blacklist tags, filter post content, and move on. don't feed the trolls (or the bigots)
- don't hate-follow
- don't tag your hate (ex. if you're posting about how much you hate a ship, don't tag it as that ship, etc.)
- don't feel obligated to keep following someone who posts stuff that upsets/depresses/angers/bores you just because you know them really well, or because you're mutuals, or because you used to like what they post. following is nothing personal and neither is unfollowing
- op doesn't know you; avoid parasocial relationships
- don't pick fights or reblog posts just to disagree/argue
- spread joy and positivity in your circles
- disable anonymous asks
This is some of the best social media advice (and advice for being a human among humans generally) I've ever seen.
All of this. For people asking how I've survived here for over 12 years...
reblog to be eaten by this thing
due to inflation you must answer my riddles five
due to budget cuts i will grant you two wishes
due to recent layoffs there is only one of me and I lie 50% of the time
i used to be so good at writing strong, thoroughly-researched, thoroughly-edited essays.
as a kid in hs, my teacher literally came up to me, holding my 40 page essay on the intersection of the European witch hunts and capitalism/exploitation/gender roles (it was supposed to be 7 pages...whoops) and went like "this is literally a master's-degree level thesis. what are you doing?? you could literally use this as your final dissertation in a master's program, what the fuck."
NOW??? NOW?? you'd think I'd be oh so skilled. but alas. i can barely piece together two ideas. adhd skill-regression is so so real. im SOBBING
The skill can come back and it often does. It is not unusual for it skill recedes during stressful and painful times. Maybe you just need more stability/safety/kind people around you.
I have been through something similar a few times in my life with writing, yoga, studying...
Admittedly, my life is always financially and socially precarious, so my notion of stability currently just means "enough money to pay the rent and food for the next few months."
It is hard to hold onto anything when you have to fight for survival all the time, either materially or emotionally.
Wow, uh. Okay, I'm gonna need a minute to process "It is hard to hold onto anything when you have to fight for survival all the time...". You're genuinely rewiring my brain is we speak.
Thank you, this means a lot to hear. <3
Thank you as well. We have to help each other in this hellscape whenever we can.
i love the strange reality of being a human person with a human brain. one time someone said something to me in a foreign language (japanese, which i do not speak) and i automatically responded in a different foreign language (spanish, which i do not speak well) and then we both said "what?" in english, an experience made more surreal by the fact that everyone around us was speaking loudly in canadian french (as this occurred in Quebec)
brain: ah yes a Foreign Language! i have One of Those!
official linguistics post
NOT. ONE. WORD. ANY OF YOU.
My brain loves foreign languages, especially when I'm in France, in which case it decides that all nouns are German, or in Germany, in which case it hands me obscure and long-forgotten French words.
the queen who jumped on it and took it down
Same little girl who gets the close- up when the dragon first approaches. Her shield is upside down, her sword is bent and nearly broken, and she looks terrified and near tears... and she charges.
Has the energy as this
I GOT A FUCKING RAISE THE POTATO WORKED WTF
This potato works. Every. Fucking. Time.
Then bring me luck
the day after I posted this last time I was notified that I was selected for a really cool mentorship gig and got an unrelated glowing review at work
Reblogging because I really need some good luck
Even if this isn't lucky, potatoes are awesome
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For you. For all of us.