tronlerfravan

Wow, I really hadn’t considered that the blog might have had such an influence on some people, even now years later. Thank you for that.

I think about this blog every once in a while too, and maybe once or twice a year I come back here to see if anyone has asked anything new. I don’t usually answer anything though.

Running this blog molded me into someone else too, which is probably why I’m drawn back here occasionally. I’m not sure who I’d be without it either. The blog more so than the fandom was my obsession, almost my entire life, for well over a year. It’s more or less like a public diary from when I was 18/19, which is even cringier than it sounds sometimes. I would probably be less anxious without those experiences, but maybe I would have gotten over my arrogance sooner. Knowing it’s nostalgic for people other than myself is why I keep it up at all.

Huh, I don’t really keep up with either of them anymore so I didn’t know he did that. We knew all along anyway, so it doesn’t really matter.

More importantly, I think you’ve more or less summed up how the whole experience was for me as well. Very melancholic and very embarrassing but mainly just a really fun time. I hope everyone who used to frequent this blog is well too, and staying safe.

lmao @ past me

Not sure. One of the benefits of leaving was that instead of focusing my energy on my casual Twitter friends and acquaintances, I started focusing on the actual human beings around me, and I’ve really liked that change. Not that the people I follow on Twitter aren’t absolutely lovely humans worth talking to, but I can’t go out to lunch with them, or go to their birthday party, or properly hang out with them at all. I neglected the people I could do those things with to interact with people who can’t ever be fully present in my life, no matter how wonderful they are. And I don’t know if I can trust myself not to revert back to that yet if I return to Twitter, so for now, no.

If I'm in a waiting room or something and all I have is my phone, puzzle apps are my go-to. I stick to apps without those lives that refill in 20 minutes or whatever, because those get really addictive. But puzzle apps are great because they help me pass the time without leaving me needing to play them constantly. And when I'm home, I do the things I did anyway when I wasn't on social media, just more often. I'll read a book, or meet up with friends, or play Sims, or watch a movie or youtube videos (lately I've been really into educational topical videos like CGP Grey's), or anything really. I’ve learned that it’s always better to mix it up, because doing too much of any one thing can make me start to wish I was doing it whenever I’m doing something else. You don’t want to replace your Twitter dependency with a Candy Crush dependency or a Buzzfeed dependency, because that’s not really helping your greater problem.

If you're looking for specific ideas because you're out of them, here are a few to get started with:

To be honest, I’m not doing anything particularly fascinating or ground-breaking instead of being on social media, and a lot of the things I do in my free time aren’t constructive. But if you’re really addicted to social media, it starts to consume your thoughts a lot, or at least it did for me. So spending my time on whatever useless thing I feel like doing that day has been great and stress-free, and most importantly, the lack of that dependency has made me a lot more mentally present when I’m spending time with friends and family.

I’m not interested in what they’re up to at this point, but they’re a part of my past and I’ll always have a bit of nostalgia towards them. The thing is, they’ve both changed quite a lot. Connor’s a lot more poetic and sentimental now, and Troye’s a lot more distant and bit by bit he’s becoming more like a regular celebrity.And that’s absolutely fine. There’s nothing wrong with the people they’ve become, and I’m glad they’re happy. But I’m a very unsentimental person, and I’ve never been particularly interested in keeping up with actual celebrities, so I don’t really relate to them at all anymore. That being said, I’d definitely check out any future album of Troye’s, because I still think his music is quite good.

I’ve missed you guys too! This has been really good for me, but I still miss talking to you all and being in this huge community with people from all over the world.

I don’t really know. When I originally stopped, it was more of a test to see how long I could go, but then the days turned to weeks and the weeks turned to months. I was tired of being dependent on Twitter and Tumblr, so I just left. I could still keep that up and might, I’m used to rarely being online now. But this morning I just felt like it might be fun to check in.

yep. hi?

I mean, it depends on the question, but if it's not something that requires an essay of an answer then it has as much chance of getting answered as any other ask.

I literally love how Tumblr creates such positive spaces and communities, you're all way too nice and supportive, thank youuuuu. (also I'm still looking for humor blogs to follow and maybe a few Harry Potter blogs so feel free to send me recommendations)

Thank you! It took forever to find a url I loved that wasn't taken, so I'm glad you like it. And "all fandoms" is a reallyyyyy broad category and I don't think I'll ever be able to say I'm not in at least one or two on the side. But in terms of YouTube fandoms, right now I'm in a place where I still enjoy them but don't want to actively take part in them. So yeah. You might see some Harry Potter or very occasional Doctor Who or something on here, but mostly it'll just be generally funny or interesting things.

No, but tronlerfravan is.

1100/10. I honestly loved it so much, it was so authentically Harry Potter and it had that same amazing humor from the books that usually never made it to the screen for the films. It's just so good, I can't wait to see the next ones.

If you choose one of the most anti-LGBTQ+ politicians in America as your running mate, your interest in protecting LGBTQ+ people can't be anything more than an afterthought. And if you also pledge to sign the First Amendment Defense Act into effect, which intends to "protect religious freedom" by making LGBTQ+ discrimination on religious grounds fully legal, your interest in protecting LGBTQ+ people is clearly just words, because your actions have shown otherwise.