How to Stop Choosing the Wrong People

I’ve chosen many men because my pain and dysfunction recognized them as sources to keep the pain alive. For example, I’ve chosen angry men because anger remains something which is unresolved in myself. Some women gravitate toward unavailable men because they were abandoned or neglected in childhood. Humans are creatures of habit — our minds seek the familiar.

Research both Codependency and Trauma Bonding. This will help you discern whether you’re choosing someone out of love and compatibility, or due to your dysfunctional past/mindset.

Heal all that is unhealed in yourself. Become aware of your unconscious needs and meet them yourself, that way you don’t seek them unconsciously from someone else.

Become whole on your own so that you don’t feel that you’re lacking. Learn to approve of yourself so that you don’t seek approval from others. This way, you won’t choose people out of desperation, but rather because they would be a healthy addition to your life. You won’t settle for toxic people anymore, you’ll drop them as soon as you figure them out.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

— Carl Jung

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Erin Hanson

Famous Last Words | Leonardo Santamaria

The biggest lie we’ve been told is ‘’you’ll find somene one day, there is somebody perfectly cut out for you, your soulmate, your other half, waiting for the perfect moment in Universe to meet you’’. But, not only it’s not true, it’s actually dangerous. It makes us think that there is something wrong with us, because everybody else is happily paired up and you’ve been alone forever. Some people settle for less than ‘perfect’ which is the reality. ‘Perfection’ as a concept is actually illusion that we like to think of as something achievable, while the whole time the Cosmos is perfect, everything is in the perfect order and it’s us humans who create disbalance in our lives with our thoughts and actions. Some people will simply stay alone till the rest of their lives, be it by choice or simply by refusing to ‘settle’, which is also fine. The truth is, we are all alone all this time anyhow. All of us will die alone the way we were all born alone and human soul has the capacity of finding peace withing its own radius. Your ‘soulmate’ is not granted, some people simply don’t find couple’s love in this lifetime that is ‘forever’ and that’s the reality. It doesn’t mean you have to be unhappy. Happiness is a choice, and it takes practice. Don’t be scared. Human Love may happen in your life but Cosmic love is with us from the moment we’re a thought in our parents’brains till the second our last breath is drawn on Earth. You can feel it. You. Are. Not. Alone.

When they miss me with the bullshit

because this gif is perfect 😭

— Rainbow Rowell

i feel attacked lmao

One time I was playing the sims and I wanted to make me and mike but I wanted to make us separately and have us meet. But when I moved into my house, I had this sexy ass neighbor. I figured I could have a fling with him and break it off and get with Mike later but then the neighbors kid got attached to me and I couldn’t just end it when I was so close to his daughter. I really cared about him too.

So the only thing I could do was have it end in tragedy. That way I wouldn’t have to break up with the guy and I could adopt his daughter to stay close to her. He passed away peacefully on fire in the kitchen. Now in previous games, when a kid is taken away by CPS, the next kid you adopt is the same kid. Welp that didn’t carry over into sims 4 so the daughter ended up being taken away and erased from the game by the great sims deity.

I’m a sentimental man, so I kept neighbor mans tombstone around. I’d occasionally chat with his ghost, but he seemed cold to me. I can’t help but thinking he was a bit mad his daughter no longer existed. But this escalated once I started seeing Mike. His ethereal visits became more frequent and more hostile, usually breaking my electronics or creating a mess. But he went overboard when he started the fire.

Being a sim the died in a fire, his ghost had certain abilities specific to his death (setting fires). He got pissed because I kissed Mike so he set my couch on fire that ended up barricading us in the bedroom. Now I couldn’t find the fire alarm in buy mode and I hadn’t had the foresight to predict my spiteful ghost died-in-a-fire ex boyfriend would be an afterlife arsonist to care about it that much so a lot of the house had burned by the time I could get the FD there.

After having almost nothing covered by insurance (thanks Obama), Mike sat me down to have a talk with me. While I couldn’t understand him, I imagine he said “What the fuck you need to deal with your crazy ass ex boyfriend ghost. This never would have happened if you weren’t a thirst little sim bitch and dated me first.”

I approached the grave. It was time to release him. He was waiting for me. He knew this was the end. That after this, there was no coming back from the afterlife. I know he tried to kill me, and he knows I got his daughter deleted, but at that moment, it was just like old times. Telling each other jokes 27 times in a row until he would have sex with me.

We had a final ghostly embrace and he was gone. I sold his tombstone for 300 bucks and bought a microwave.

I enjoyed this more than the last season of AHS

“He died peacefully on fire in the kitchen.”

i just watched a documentary on van gogh and how come nobody ever told me about this absolute banger of a painting

If boy didn’t leave with a pastry I swear to G

GUYS HE GOT HIS COOKIE, EVERYTHING IS OKAY

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my met gala look

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