What’s going to make you happy right now? Is it some cake? Is it a nap? Is it calling your mom? Is it going on a drive and blasting music? Is it taking a bath? Is it reading a book?

Check in with yourself because you deserve that happiness, whatever it is.

I use this with my hospice patients a lot. Because “is there anything I can do to help?” rarely gets a response. But, “I’ll be here till 6:30 and would like to do one thing to make your room more comfortable before I head out” frequently does get an answer. Often something they deem “too small to bug anyone with” like closing the blinds so there’s no reflection on the tv, or repositioning their socks because the heels have wandered into the front and are uncomfortable, or they want ice cream before dinner today, or getting an extra blanket.

I also use this on myself. What’s one thing I could do to make my environment more comfortable right now? Does it cure my mental illness? Hell no! Does it make me feel more in control of my feelings and the world around me? You betcha!

I’m going to try to apply this to my current situation, since right now things feel very out of control. Thanks!

This goes out to all the survivors out there who weren’t believed, or haven’t said something in fear of not being believed.

I see you. You’re valid. And I believe you.

Hey y'all. Healing is possible. It's hard and it takes years. There are things you may not be able to fully heal and there are things you will let go of quickly. It's okay. There is no timeline for healing.

You do not deserve pain. You do not exist to suffer. I know in your darkest times it is so easy to feel that you deserve this agony but you do not. Your life will get better, and you will receive the love and kindess you deserve.  

by coolurbanhippie

Remember to respect your energy levels, so you don’t drain yourself dry. Go slowly if you need to, and take care of yourself. 🌸

it’s okay if your memory is bad even if:

• you can’t remember peoples birthdays

• you can’t remember to eat or drink or go to the bathroom

• you can’t remember something someone asked you to do

• you can’t remember things that people think are essential

• you can’t remember to do household tasks

• you can’t remember plans you’ve made

you are not a bad person.

if you’re having any sort of trouble with black & white thinking & convincing yourself that you’re inherently a “bad person” to everyone who is and has been in your life, i hope you remember to take a few deep breaths before jumping onto the self-hate train. there isn’t a single person in this world who hasn’t done or said the wrong thing, who hasn’t harmed someone in a way or made a mistake. you can’t automatically judge yourself for your wrongdoings. you’re much more than them.

Health =/= Worth

You are still just as valuable even if you aren’t, or never will be, ‘healthy’!

So often, I see healing painted as this always “beautiful” and “magical” thing. And it’s valid if that’s what helps you cope with needing to heal. But I think it’s important to acknowledge that while there are beautiful, possibly even magical aspects to healing, it is not always like that. Healing can, at times (even a majority of the time) be exhausting, ugly, and draining. And it’s important to know that because it’s okay. It’s okay if your healing is not beautiful.

You went through something awful, and it’s okay for your healing to reflect that. 

You got through the days you worried most about, you got through the weeks you were anxious about, and you got through the months you felt at your worst. Take a moment to be proud of yourself for that, and maybe even reward yourself. I believe in you for going through and doing well in the moments you still have ahead of you.

it’s okay to miss them without wanting them back in your life. it’s okay to remember and long for those good memories you made with them. it’s okay to feel sad when you re-realise that there’s a reason they’re no longer in your life. it’s okay. just because you miss them or miss moments you had with them, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you want or need them back in your life. you are simply reminiscing on the past and that’s normal.