I need to redo my tumblybr...

Maybe this is the wrong platform to pose this question given the average tumblr user but

Is it just me or did our generation (those of is who are currently 20-30 ish) just not get the opportunity to be young in the 'standard' sense?

Like, everyone I talk to who's over 40 has all their wild stories about their teens and 20s, being young and dumb, and then I talk to my friends and coworkers and classmates, and we just... dont.

My mom tells stories of skipping school to sneak across the border and spend the day at a bar in Mexico. I was threatened with not being allowed to graduate because of senior ditch day. One of my friends had to go to his first hour class on senior ditch day because the teacher, who almost exclusively taught seniors, arranged a huge exam that day with no available makeup days, specifically to punish kids who took part in ditch day. Our wild and crazy ditch day was playing mini golf and then stopping for ice cream on our way back to one of our friends' houses to play cards against humanity.

Don't get me wrong, we had fun. But all of that, threats of not graduating, threats of failing classes over a single test, over some mini golf and ice cream?

Throughout high school and early in college, my friend group got kicked out of malls, stores, and even a parking lot just for being there wrong. Not being loud of disruptive. Not causing problems. Just being there too long, or without buying anything.

My mom graduated high school, after repeating her senior year, without a single grade above a D, and was offered a full ride scholarship to a state university to play on their women's football team. I had a 3.8 GPA, multiple extracurriculars, a summer job, and over 100 hours of volunteer work, and barely got into that same university, and then couldn't afford to go there anyway.

We've made getting into college so important and yet so difficult that kids are sacrificing their childhoods for it.

Then they become adults and it doesn't go away. Your employer/ potential employers are searching your social media and internet presence so you'd better hope no one has ever posted a picture of you at a party, or with alcohol, or wearing revealing clothes, or whatever else they've deemed unprofessional. And if you want to go out it's a 10 dollar cover and drinks are at least 8 dollars, and you need to tip if there's any kind of live entertainment, who can afford to do all that regularly?

My physical therapist, when I was 18, told me about his 21st birthday, how the last thing he remembers is people taking body shots off him. I spent my 21st birthday alone, was in bed by 10pm because I had to be at work the next morning. My boss had already told me that they knew it was my 21st, and if I called out, she'd write me up for improper use of sick leave because you're not allowed to use sick leave for a hangover. I don't know anyone whose 21st birthday was a big deal. No one went out and partied for it.

I dont really know where I'm going with all of this. I guess I just don't understand the point of it all. We spend our youth working hard to provide a future that we still can't afford. We have to be responsible and professional as teenagers. And we get nothing out of it. We can't afford life or friends or fun. At least our parents got to have fun being young and dumb, we just got groomed on kik.

So I'm not the only one noticing this. I wish I had an answer or at least something to say about it. But I dont. I'm just tired.

Edit: English only. Sorry Germans. I'm sure there's a correct way to say it but I don't know it.

10k likes is crazy … well someone call dykes on bikes and the dyke march and the dyke alliance and

honestly what pisses me off the most is this whole “tell me what to think” type of activism . where people are insecure in their politics . maybe they don’t read theory. maybe they don’t know queer history. whatever reason. so they go up to a member of a minority group who they treat as an inscrutable monolithic source of information and they go “oh my god tell me what opinions to have tell me what to think please” and when they do get that mythical never wrong opinion bestowed upon them they refuse to take any sort of criticism on it. because they’re listening to minorities . and don’t you want to uplift and listen to minorities ?. and listening to minority groups is fine and dandy and important even but you need to be able to form your own opinions . even if people disagree. yes, even if minorities disagree. even if you’re wrong sometimes . if you treat every single word of a minority group as law you will fall for everything . the origin of the word dyke is still debated afaik . but all types of dykes have used the word for decades . ohhh my god 😭

guys i’m so leftist i never form any of my own opinions or do my own research i rely on my colleagues for everything . this is great. now the burden is off me to do any actual learning or growing at all .

people in the replies of that tweet are also echoing some sort of sentiment of “why are people even so eager to say a slur it’s so weird” which is also fucking crazy . for some of us dykeness is all we have. being a dyke is my identity. it’s my gender. my sexuality. it describes my relationships to the people around me. it’s like asking people “why do you want to call yourself autistic, just say neurodivergent” like please talk to actual dykes . and then you’ll know why “some dumb offensive slur” is so important to some people . jesus.

happy pride discourse everyone!

HELP ME?

This but minority instead of woman

i'm going to cry the downstairs bathroom at my boyfriend's house is 9/11 THEMED 😭😭

9/11 themed bathroom.

1. it’s their parents’ bathroom

2. it is not a bit

3. no they did not

here before 10k

Good news everyone I have accidentally discovered the stupidest fucking conceivable way to make myself to do chores

It goes like this…..

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My car: *low gas light on*

Me: I mean, I COULD stop at the gas station on the way home… OR! I could just NOT do that and deal with it tomorrow

Me: but what if I get stuck in a time loop starting tomorrow and every day I wake up and my car is on empty that would be so annoying

Me: uggghhh FINE I will stop at the gas station.

****LATER THIS EVENING:****

My sink: *has all my bowls and tea mugs in it*

Me: okay I don't actually care about this problem for tonight I am not planning on eating soup or tea

Me: …yeah but if i do end up being stuck in a time loop starting tomorrow it is going to SUCK to have only dirty tea cups in the morning forever

Me: uuuuughhhh okay clean sink it is

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I hate this. My brain must have an extremely low opinion of me to even try it, and it worked.

But hey, I don't have to try to remember to leave 5 min early tomorrow for a gas run?

Every goddamn time

I’m getting yelled at by Helluva Boss/Hazbin Hotel fans because I’m telling them to stop assuming every single thing I make is a reference to that show

Alright, some fan tried to call this character a "fetish" because of her body type.

This is why people put this community on their DNI lists.

i think he's kinda insane

happy aromantic visibility day!

[ID: the bugs bunny "very pleasant evening" meme. It has been edited to read "I wish all aromantics a very happy aro visibility day" with very happy aro visibility day in all caps. An aro flag has been added next to Bugs Bunny. End ID]

Well, well, well, look who actually decided to bake with his boyfriend instead of setting the apartment on fire!

Bonus art below

sandy studies <3 i won't stop drawing him as a muscle bear lol

Happy "the husband lesbian is a better husband than I was" anniversary!

so i was fully prepared to rip into Tumblr for trying to pull its "queerest place on the internet" rainbow capitalism bullshit again this year... but it's actually feeling kind of disconcerting that it doesn't seem like they've actually done anything for Pride, as far as i can tell...

like, to be clear, this isn't me being like ";-; why Tumblr no Pride?"

it's more that Simpsons meme of "(chuckles) i'm in danger"

rainbow capitalism is a cheap and hollow marketing ploy, but companies suddenly not doing it this year - especially ones like Tumblr who have at least tried to make it a part of their brand - isn't a great sign, either.

it's like when there's no bugs in an area of nature. Sure, some of em can be annoying or even dangerous when present, but the lack of them is a much worse sign.

i feel that rainbow capitalism should mostly just be seen as the canary in the coal mine for lgbt safety, and currently that canary has stopped singing