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1. Be courageous and brave …
2. Be the kind of person who perseveres …
3. Be warm and open …
4. Be genuine and real …
5. Be trusting and trustworthy …
6. Be understanding and kind …
7. Be gentle and patient …
8. Be loving and forgiving.
Signs of being addicted to approval include:
1. You are very aware of the expectations of others. They also affect how you feel about yourself.
2. You are constantly worried about how others view you/ what they are thinking about you.
3. You choose NOT to do things that others don’t approve of for fear of judgment and rejection.
4. You DO things you don’t want to do as you fear others making fun of you, putting you down, or talking about it.
5. You feel anxious and upset if you think you have upset or irritated someone – and desperately try to make things right.
6. You think the views and opinions of others are more informed and valuable than yours.
7. You agree when others criticise and put you down. Then you start to attack and feel ashamed of yourself.
8. You reject yourself if other people reject you, and basically believed that at core you are flawed.
1. See it as something that is temporary. Even though it hurts now, it doesn’t mean it’s permanent. You’ll find other people who will treat you well. Be gentle on yourself and recognise that it will pass.
2. Learn to enjoy your own company. See it as a time to reflect on your life, and really think through what you want for yourself.
3. Spend time looking after animals. Pets are accepting, reliable and loyal. They’ll never hurt your feelings, and they’re good company.
4. Treat other people you meet really well. Usually, that results in a friendly response. That will help you to feel better - at least for a while.
5. Hang out with those who like the same things as you. If you’ve taken up a hobby or you like watching sport, speak to people you meet at these events. Even though you don’t know them, they are still some company.
6. Don’t let this bad experience hold you back. Keep reaching out to others. Have the courage to take risks. Eventually you’ll find a loyal friend who treats you well.
1. Hanging out with people who don’t appreciate you, or who suck all the energy out of your life.
2. Running from your problems and hiding from the truth
3. Acting as a door mat and putting yourself last.
4. Longing for the past and the way things used to be.
5. Beating yourself up for the stupid things you did
6. Looking to others to make you feel happy, or believing that “stuff” will bring you happiness.
7. Rejecting new relationships because you were hurt, or becuase you were disappointed in the past.
8. Being jealous of other people. It’s not a competition – set some goals, and go for them.
9. Holding grudges. Forgive, let it go – and then move on with your life.
10. Trying to be perfect. It’s not realistic so don’t waste your time.
1. Simplify – your time, your stuff, your social life.
2. Live in the moment.
3. Practice gratitude.
4. Take control of the thoughts that pull you back into the past.
5. Stop the anxious thoughts about “what next”, and of your future.
6. Practice getting comfortable with saying “no”.
7. Don’t worry about others, and what they think of you.
8. Do your best, relax, and forget perfectionism.
