Transgender Teen Survival Guide

Asked by Anonymous

Jay says:

What your son most likely means is one of two types of packer - there are others, but those are for “adult purposes” and not what he’s likely asking his mother for!

So there’s a soft packer - the most common options being the Mr Limpy, Masho, or even just socks, but you can understand how they would differ. Soft packers are like prosthetic penises made from “cyberskin” which is a sort of very soft, squishy silicone. 

He also might mean an STP, or stand to pee device - popular ones include the EZP, the Mr Fenis, and the terribly named SheWee (which is really for cis women going camping). These are basically devices that… let you stand and pee. Ones like the EZP and Mr Fenis are penis-shaped, for trans men, while stuff like the SheWee is for cis women who want convenience.

As to where to get one, FtM Packers is an online store dedicated to packers. They have a fair variety of brands available. The sections you’d be interested in is Silicone packers, budget packers, and STP packers - prosthetics are FAR more expensive, complicated, detailed, and often have a sexual component. Each category also lists brands that they don’t sell, but that can be looked up and purchased elsewhere - like the EZP.

Unfortunately there doesn’t tend to be real life stores that stock packers due to the limited retail market for them.

Some general tips for packers is that cyberskin shouldnt be flat against your own skin - it will horde bacteria. Use cornstarch (NOT talcum powder / talc) to stop your packer from getting sticky, and wash it after every wear (ie if you wear it all day, wash it before wearing it the next day).

Other than that, let your son see what’s on offer, or ask if he already has something in mind.