Body-positive feminist fangirl (and 98.5% lesbian) on level 33 of life. “That’s my preferred moment of being in the world, being ridiculous.” "I pride myself on being tragically uncool." "I look quite sad, lonely, and a little bit disturbed, but I promise I'm having a great time." - Kate McKinnon.
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Idk how it happened but I have a date tomorrow night (like she explicitly said its a date) and I’m all jittery because its 21 hours from now and its like Calm Down Ya Useless Lesbian but I can’t calm down because I’m a useless lesbian
I have a date on Sunday with an extremely cute girl and we’ve already had amazing conversations about feminism and body-positivity and omg she’s so out of my league HOW IS THIS HAPPENING I HAVE A DATE??
I get that everyone ships Kat and Adena because of duh of course but I am so proud of this show for showing how messy relationships can be. I don’t really know what to expect from them and I like that because it’s realistic. In the words of @blythebrooklyn “give me a god I can relate to”. Give me queer women (Kat hasn’t realized if she’s lesbian or bi/pan, which again I respect the show so much for showing her journey of confusion and discovery) I can relate to. Yeah, Disney endings for lesbians are great (and we never see them so I completely understand viewers CRAVING that by the time they see Kadena) but The Bold Type is not about Disney endings. It’s about how challenging and confusing and unexpected life can be, and how you are still strong enough to handle all of it.
So yeah, I felt all the feels at every stage of the Kadena relationship. And it hurt when Adena said she was going back to Coco. But that doesn’t mean I need to see them together forever. The first girl you kiss is not always your first girlfriend. You being ready for a relationship doesn’t always mean your crush is too. You don’t have to stay in love with the first girl you fall in love with. And young queer women deserve to know that. We deserve accurate representation of how messy relationships can be. We deserve queer female characters we can relate to.
- I came out 6 months ago and it’s still hard for me to say the word “lesbian” out loud. When I do come out to someone I use the word “gay” but like I know my aversion to the word is just internalized lesbophobia and misogyny and I don’t want that to affect my word choice? I’m a lesbian and i want to feel 150% comfortable saying the word “lesbian”.
- When I see a sexual lesbian scene (OITNB or The L Word) I instantly feel a cold fist in my stomach and a compulsion to avert my eyes. I still feel guilty about finding any of that stuff attractive.
- A couple of months ago I saw a Tumblr post talking about a new movie about a 9 year old lesbian who has a crush on her friend and my first thought was “Ew, why would they make a movie that sexualizes kids like that?” and then I realized that my knee-jerk reaction was way off. Like there’s nothing wrong or hypersexual about a 9 year old girl holding another 9 year old girl’s hand. But I had spent so many years hiding that part of myself, and buying into the idea that lesbianism is innately bad and dirty and shameful that to see it be the center of a movie freaked me out. But then I thought about it and felt bad for 9 year old lesbian me who had to deal with those feelings of repulsion about herself and couldn’t even admit she was having them… And it made me realize how important movies like that really are…
Representation is so important. The first time I saw a woman show a physical desire to be with another woman was when I was 13 and watching tv with my family and an advertisement for a well-known pervy (geared towards male audiences) DVD franchise came on and of course it featured female college students making out. My dad got so upset he called the tv station to complain. Meanwhile I had a lot of feelings but couldn’t acknowledge any of them… And it made me wish that with all the TV and movies I saw I could have seen just a few gay couples… 9 year old girls holding hands, a 15 year old getting kissed by her girlfriend for the first time, college girlfriends coming up with cute ways to help each other study… just some positive characters I could have looked at and realized “Oh. They’re cute and sweet together. There’s nothing wrong with that. That’s normal. I’m normal.”
Sometimes I get really cranky that the movie took the easy way out of Abby and Erin’s estrangement by just throwing a ghost at them. Like thanks assholes, thanks. You really make writing these estrangement AUs SOOOO MUCH easier now, thank you.
- Abby gets fired and in desperately looking for work unknowingly ends up at the
university Erin happens to teach at…
- There’s like a science fair
convention TEDtalk thing for professors and they run into each other and
Holtzmann being the best friend of ever knows how much Abby secretly
misses Erin so she encourages her to talk to her…
- They run into each other in a totally random place like the grocery store or park or something… they can do that thing where they’re each trying so hard to be civil and controlled but next thing they know they’re having a fullblown argument talking about how hurt they felt when the other person did xyz…
First I want to say that I love Wonder Woman, the fight scenes are epic, and I want to see Gal Gadot and Patty Jenkins do so much more cool shit. This is just a ramble that i realized/thought about while watching Wonder Woman for the 3rd time…
Why did WW get so much love while Ghostbusters (2016) get so much hate? I love both movies, but the public perception of them seems so vastly different. And personally, why did WW keep feeling…. disappointing each time I saw it? I mean the fight scenes are epic as fuck and I want to watch them again and again, but the other hour and a half of movie just felt… meh?
And after the umpteenth time the camera zooms in on Gal’s gorgeous doe-eyed face as she once again doesn’t understand something from the World Of Men, I realized that her character feels like a variation of the “Born Sexy Yesterday” trope. She’s a physically empowered BSY, which allows her to do the saving instead of be saved. But most of the movie is her not understanding basic shit about the World Of Men. And every time she doesn’t understand something, she doesn’t just learn and move on and kick more ass… the camera zooms in on her innocent and puzzled expression… dragging the moment out… And every time this happens, I relate less to her character and my enjoyment of the film starts to crumble.
And I get that Diana’s clueless optimism is part of the character’s shtick. I’m not saying that WW should have been done differently, or should have gotten any less praise than it did. But it makes me sad that GB, which featured characters I related to so much more, got so trashed.
GB shows female scientists knowing shit and being excited as fuck about knowing shit. Patty, Holtz, Abby, and Erin never have doe-eyes about anything. Sure, they learn a lot throughout the movie, but in a “we’re figuring out how to make the proton packs more portable” way instead of a “what’s this? ice cream?” kind of way… And everything they learn is through discovery, not a man explaining how things work…
I feel like this goes to a huge problem with female characters in media, where you can have women who are knowledgeable and you can have women who are happy but they can never be the same person. In general, women who know their shit are presented as Miranda Priestlys, bitter, deeply hurt by their pasts, often the villains. Women who are happy spend the majority of the film/show being endearingly clueless. But I can’t relate to either of those tropes. I’m a woman who knows shit and is really excited and happy about knowing shit. I relate to Patty excitedly telling the group all about New York history. I relate to Abby’s adrenalized joy as she tests out the proton pack prototype and ends up flying through the air. I relate to Erin’s simultaneous hesitancy and passion for her work. And I will always aspire to be half as cool as Holtzmann blasting ghosts with her new toys while being illuminated by a muthafuckin rainbow.
I just want to see more knowledgeable and happy female characters, and I want to see those pieces of media as accepted and supported as Wonder Woman (2017). I want to see a whole movie take place on Themyscira, where Diana doesn’t have to be shocked by little things like ice cream she can just kick some ass and have some fun. I want to see girls passionate about learning and women passionate about teaching and doing experiments and excelling in their fields. I want to see women teaching other women, and not just in the first 15 minutes of a 2 hour movie. I want that to BE the movie…
My parents live in this town and the city legally can’t tear the tree down to build or anything because the tree has its own legal rights and they can’t do anything about it.
I love this story because this guy in the early 1800’s had so many great childhood memories of this tree and wanted to make sure it was protected no matter what. So he deeded the ownership of the tree to itself and everyone just went with it.
Then in 1942 this intense windstorm came and knocked the tree over. And people were bummed. But someone had saved an acorn from the original tree, so they planted that and now Son of the Tree That Owns Itself is over 50 feet tall.
And since this new tree is technically the offspring of the original tree it’s considered to have legally inherited the plot of land it’s inhabiting.
Two generations of trees owning land is amazing and if you don’t think this is the coolest thing get right out of my face.
The story of the original tree took place between 1820-1832. In Georgia, women couldn’t own land until 1868. A fucking tree owned itself before women could own their own homes.
probably THE silliest thing i do on a regular basis is get distracted while watching a youtube video, open up some other website in a new tab and dick around on it for a while, eventually remember the viddeo and switch back to its tab, feel dread (??) at having to continue slogging through the video i chose (??) to put on, and then realize i have free will and can simply and basically immediately put on literally any other godforsaken stimulant
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