It is more like a dance than a hug

True compassion is spacious and wise as well as resourceful. This type of compassion could be called intelligent love or intelligent affection. We know how to express our affection so that it does not destroy a person but instead helps him or her to develop. It is more like a dance than a hug. And the music behind it is that of intellect. 

– Excerpted from: “Intellect and Intuition,” in The Heart of the Buddha: Entering the Tibetan Buddhist Path by Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, page 15