the gender of the stars

can we get a shoutout to trans girls who don't wear makeup

i don't need to just keep practicing I don't need to just learn to contour or whatever the fuck else I'm 100% happy being bare-faced and the only times i ever felt compelled to do makeup was for other people's benefit!

watch the mfs with zero reading comprehension get ahold of this and act like I'm personally attacking them for wearing makeup

adding on trans girls who don’t shave their face or armpits or legs, or have short hair, or do any of the things that are seen as “saying Fuck You to the patriarchy” when cis women do it but for Some Reason when trans women do it they’re “not trying hard enough to pass.” do whatever you want with your meat suit and related adornments forever.

one of the weirdest experiences ive had being trans and out so far was when i went to the doctors about hrt and she walked me through the consent form (the one that tells you youre doing irreversible damage to your body and you're a freak) with a pen in her hand like crossing shit out and being like "this isn't true, this is actually completely false, this is totally an exaggeration" and it was stuff like "research on hrt is limited poor and speculative" or "hrt can increase risks of disease" or "testosterone makes you more violent and angry" like idk having it written in a way intended to make you feel like you're making a big mistake is one thing but the fact that the form has like literally proven false info in it and the doctor had to verbally be like sorry this isnt even true its just on there because society hates trans people. is wild

Since the silly transphobic polls are happening atm and just asked if men can get pregnant, here's a local story I really love to remind you that yes, men do give birth, and they deserve the best of care. It's happening no matter what a few loud twitter transphobes are saying, we are out there thriving and creating wonderful families. A vast majority of the responses were extremely positive too <3

Text is 2 tweets by Leicester's Hospitals 😷 (@/Leic_hospital) that read:

When Jacob learned he was pregnant, he knew he wanted to give birth at home. He forged a close relationship with Christina from our Home Birthing team and says: "She was phenomenal during my pregnancy and labour. I felt understood and cared for - the birth was empowering."

Christina, who will be Jacob's named midwife again for his second pregnancy, says: "Whoever the birthing parent may be, it's important to individualise their care, listen to them without judgement and take time to make them feel comfortable." #UHLPride

another deranged drawing from my demented mind

above all else a trans woman is a person. above all else a trans women is a woman who goes to the same grocery store as you and buys fruits in the same grocery cart as you and goes home and eats her dinner the same as you. above all else a trans woman is a woman who dresses like you do and talks the same way you do. above all else a trans woman is a woman who wants to be cared about the same way you want to be cared about and a trans woman is a woman who makes friends the same way you make friends. above all else you should care about trans women because they are people. treat her as such.

btw since this is getting notes i want to remind everyone that the way to treat trans people, especially trans women and transfeminine people, is to embrace them as your equals. you cannot help people by separating them from yourself. the way to treat trans women is not to say "i just can't be normal about them, they're all so attractive!". don't do that. don't measure trans women by their attractiveness. don't stereotype them. just recognize them as your neighbors. trans women are people who work at convenience stores and do their laundry at the laundromat and brighten up when they wear clothes they like and sing along to the music they love.

above everything else they are just normal people and you need to remember that. you need to fight for them and listen to them and appreciate them for who they are because they are people. and they deserve to have wonderful average lives just the same as you. ok

@our-transgender-experiences

i don't care if a trans woman hasnt "done the work". i dont care if she doesnt shave. i dont care if she has short hair. i dont care if she has broad shoulders. i dont care if she has a flat chest. i dont care if she has flat hips. i dont care if she has a deep voice. i dont care if she wears "mens" clothing. she's a woman because she says she is. she doesn't have to "do the work". she doesnt have to do anything, actually. she's a woman regardless of how she looks, acts or sounds. she's a woman because she is one.

Had to unfollow this one person on here cause they just would not stop making posts about how transfems on e getting periods is just made up symptoms and like, I don't have definitive proof I only have my and others experience but like how do you, as someone who is not on e, who has access to the same amount of studies looking into this with decent sample sizes as I do (none), feel so confident to say it's all just placebo and made up ? What makes you so confident ? Cause I gotta say after almost two years of nearly right on the dot once a month suddenly feeling nausea all week, taking the most unbelievable shits, feeling all my organs cramp, and having mood swings out the ass which always just so happens to line up with when the two people with uteruses in my house also get their periods, I feel like I have more data to work off of than you do

LOSING IT

I think about this shit constantly.

Anyone else remember when we were like, decades ahead of this kind of thinking, and advocating for co-ed sports, because we all understood that two people undergoing the same training at the same intensity for the same amount of time would achieve roughly the same result regardless of agab?

I don't know what young trans person needs to hear this but:

If you are in any type of relationship where the other person insists on degendering you in ways you don't want or outright misgendering you, or makes demands about what they are comfortable with in your transition (e.g. "don't bind, that makes me uncomfortable!"), they do not deserve you accepting that - especially if it is a romantic or intimate relationship.

Young or newly-out/newly-discovered trans people often feel unlovable, or unworthy of being treated with respect. It's a very common experience when you discover your transness, and it can stem from a variety of factors - dysphoria, self-esteem issues, wanting to transition but not being able to, transphobia, popular narrative that caricatures trans people as unlovable. However, this doesn't mean that you are unlovable or unworthy of care. You deserve to be treated well. You deserve to live well and be surrounded by people who feel the same.

Your comfort, safety, and belonging are not too much to ask for.

All the gridded moths/butterflies in one place and labeled in image. If you use them for anything please give design credit (and also @ me because I would like to see). Intended for personal use only. I was putting which flags each insect was in the tags previously. Here they all are in the image and down here in the text for clarity. First image: Bisexual, Pansexual, Trans Asexual, Nonbinary, Androgyne Lesbian, Intersex, Neutrois Agender, Genderfluid, Gay (mlm) Second image: Demiboy, Gendervoid, Pangender Deminonbinary, Demifluid, Cassgender Demigirl, Achillean Diamoric, Sapphic Third image: Aromantic, Polyamorous, Omnisexual Genderqueer, Demisexual, Demiromantic Polysexual, Aroace, Maverique Bigender, Abrosexual, Xenogender Fourth Image: Basic Rainbow Pride Progress Pride Intersex Progress Pride

also what is with people tossing out support for nonbinary people when the nonbinary person is a celebrity. as soon as demi lovato changed their pronouns from they/them to they/she everyone, including supposed allies of the community, IMMEDIATELY dropped the “they” part of “they/she” and started referring to them as a woman again. then when “unholy” by sam smith and kim petras won a grammy people talked about how kim petras (just her) made trans history by being the first trans person to win a grammy. and yes this is something to be celebrated, but is sam smith not also trans by virtue of being nonbinary? did they not also make history? or do you not see them as nonbinary because they’re amab and not feminine enough to cross the man threshold for you? and yes nonbinary celebrities are not going to see you referring to them as if they were cis but your trans acquaintances sure as fuck are

If you're a trans POC please stay alive!!

Even if it seems like the whole world is against you, I promise there are people out there who care about you. One day there will be a world where we can live freely.

if you're transgender you have to live.

please. I love you.

21 of 22 anti-LGBTQ+ bills dead in the Florida Legislature!!!

!!!! And here's a source!

Thanks so much for posting about this, OP

More from the article:

"At 2:27 p.m. on Friday, March 8, the Florida Legislature adjourned sine die. With this adjournment, 21 of 22 anti-LGBTQ+ bills were effectively killed, leaving an anti-diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) in education bill as the lone piece of legislation to pass this session. This session featured some of the most severe bills ever proposed against transgender individuals, all of these bills are now officially dead. LGBTQ+ activists in the state now have the rest of 2024 to regroup, with hopes that the November general election will yield results against a legislature that has spent two years targeting transgender individuals in every aspect of life.

The bills that have failed include H599, a bill that would have expanded "Don't Say Gay" policies to the workplace. It proposed banning government employees and any business with government contracts from sharing pronouns. Furthermore, it aimed to prohibit all nonprofits in the state from requiring education and training on LGBTQ+ issues—a significant issue for LGBTQ+ nonprofits, which would have been unable to operate within the state. That bill is now dead.

Another bill that died is H1639, a measure that would have mandated transgender individuals to have driver's license sex markers matching their sex assigned at birth. It also aimed to penalize insurance providers offering gender-affirming care coverage and would have required health insurance plans to cover conversion therapy for transgender individuals. Although this bill did not pass, the Florida Department of Highway Safety and Motor Vehicles has reinterpreted certain provisions that already exist, effectively banning changes to driver's license gender markers in the state and threatening individuals with accurate markers with charges of criminal fraud. However, challenging an administrative action is simpler than challenging a law enacted by the legislature, and such actions can also be reversed by future administrations.

Further bills that made headlines which died include:

...This is the first time in three years where the bills targeting LGBTQ+ people, and trans people in particular, seem to be losing steam, according to local organizers.

“The momentum is undeniably shifting against extremism,” Nadine Smith of Equality Florida said in a press release, “Extremist groups are collapsing amidst multiple scandals. Parents are mobilizing on behalf of their kids and to stop the dismantling of public education. We will build on this momentum and redouble our commitment to the fight. Together, we can put power back in the hands of the people.”"

-via Erin in the Morning, March 8, 2024

you too can piss off both the catholic church and cisfeminists at the same time by saying this one simple phrase: joan of arc is part of trans history

#op pls keep talking! & @palestrangermoon

you've let in the vampire thank you. also most of this comes from leslie feinberg's transgender warriors which has a whole chapter on jeanne d'arc & which everyone should read imo!

so when i say "trans history" i do not mean that "trans" is a Real Thing that exists. we made up being "trans" and we cannot say that anyone in history is Objectively Trans, like its a fact we can prove. but we can say that people in history shared common experiences with trans and genderqueer people of today, and by linking them to our modern construct of transness we get a fuller picture of the human experience with gender diversity. also, and i cannot emphasize this enough: women afab can be trans. men amab can be trans.

but also, jeanne d'arc isn't just trans history because she crossdressed. the story often gets framed as her wearing men's clothes to fight in war, but its deeper than that! both from a secular trans sense and from a religious standpoint (which makes her an important figure for trans christians). & this gets compounded with the impetus in art to make sure jeanne d'arc looks appropriately feminine. which can be compared to the ways that, before fe/male impersonation had a queer connotation, male impersonators had to make sure that, even in drag, they always looked visibly cisfeminine.

on one level, regardless of gender, jeanne d'arc was oppressed by transphobia. she was the target of blatanly transphobic attacks for her gender expression. she was called a hommasse, a slur for masculine women, her crossdressing "contrary to Divine laws" and "abominable before God". while she was also a military threat, her trial was about her crossdressing- that was the crime that she was charged with after they failed to find evidence she was a pagan.

specifically, her claim that her wearing men's clothing and cutting her hair was a God-given command. and yes, part of that command was also going to war, but it does not seem like it was just "you have to wear men's clothing so you can fight." To Jeanne, crossdressing was its own command. She said she would rather die than stop, unless God told her to, and that "were [she] still so dressed and with the king and those of his party, it would be one of the greatest blessings for the kingdom of France."

Its claimed that she repented at first and was sentenced to life in prison as long as she started wearing women's clothing again, and that she later "relapsed" and started wearing men's clothing. some TERFs have argued that she had to wear men's clothing to avoid getting raped- but she was well known to be assigned female. The clothes she wore would not matter, given that she was famous enough that actual monarchs wanted her dead. And Jeanne said that she chose to start wearing men's clothing again which was compared to "a dog returning to its own vomit." And it was this that allowed them to burn her alive as punishment.

So on a second level, this is a lot more complicated than a normal cis woman wearing men's clothes to a specific end. Jeanne viewed her masculine gender expression as vital to her soul. It was used as the justification for killing her, so she quite literally chose to die rather than present as cisfeminine.

And on a third level, she didn't refuse to present cisfeminine to make a bold statement about the right of women to wear pants or go to war. She did it because it was God's command. And if Catholic canon matters to you at all, she is a canonized saint. The Church has given her a big ol blue checkmark in the sky. If Jeanne believed that crossdressing was its own command, and not just a means to an end, then she believed that genderqueerness is a holy command given by God. Which opens up a wonderful new trans-centric theology! It creates space within Catholicism (and anyone else who cares about Catholic saints) to view transness as a special role which comes from Divine blessing. And frankly, this cultural impact alone makes her part of trans history the same way plenty of cishet women are part of gay history because of their cultural impact on gay people.

And the best part is, we can say all of this and also see her as part of women's history! Because women's history, too, does not have to be exclusively about woman-born or woman-identified women. It can be about a larger cultural experience. And Jeanne d'Arc suffered because of transphobia which is always fundamentally misogynistic. I would argue it even makes sense to say her death involved transmisogyny in a very literal sense. The thing about transfeminism is that it can free us from the need to view personal identification with the role of "woman" as vital to feminism. Being a woman, in whatever sense, is certainly not unrelated to feminism, but one can be a feminist and have any kind of personal or communal relatonship with womanhood. Anyone can be inspired by the story of Jeanne d'Arc and her bold defiance of both misogyny and transphoba, no matter how she may have personally understood her gender.

funny how that terf didn't respond to this version where I explicitly lay out how transphobia is fundamentally misogynistic and talk about how there is no evidence Jeanne was crossdressing solely out of social need