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forget “what kind of bender would you be?” instead tell me: if you were the avatar, which element would you struggle the most with?

gnight i love you (my future self my past self and my current self)

reblolgos for bigger sample size :))

*"stress dream" = dreams you get when under large amounts of stress or anxiety irl, that may or may not relate to your current situation irl.

we've all gone through friendless periods in our lives. don't fall into the trap of thinking there's something intrinsically wrong with you - that is a) untrue and b) a belief that will make your isolation grow and cause feelings of worthlessness that will prevent you from accepting people into your life because you feel like you're not deserving of their friendship

How I sleep knowing I am not responsible for the version of me in people’s heads

So long as I give people the benefit of the doubt, always act with grace, mind my own business, put effort into clarifying miscommunication, breathe my way through negative feelings, try the best I can, move w accordance to my values, and consider people’s emotions, I know I have nothing to worry about. I have never wronged anyone bc I am so firm on not being that person. And I will continue to be firm on it and that will ground me and I’ll always be okay

My favorite part about being sapphic is when the things I love about other women become things I love about myself. One day I was tracing another woman’s stretch marks in a dim bedroom light. And then, seemingly by accident, I was doing it to myself in my bathroom mirror. I loved the feeling of a full hand of flesh when I grabbed a woman’s hips, and then mine didn’t need to be so skinny anymore. I looked at a woman’s lower stomach pudge and thought it was so soft and cute, then never wanted a flat stomach again. Loving women can be so healing when you come from a world that doesn’t.

wow. there is no one who can love you the way you want and need to be loved except yourself. there is no one who can undo and replace the painful upbringing you received from your parents or your God but yourself. nobody is ever going to be able to provide the level of care, understanding, and due diligence required to help you heal. nobody. nobody else can fix you and help you. you are the only person who can fully love yourself, know yourself, understand yourself. it’s you. it has to be you. nobody else can ever give you that or be that for you

someone correcting me on something i said to be silly on purpose and now theyre treating me like im stupid

IM PLAYING! IM PLAYING!!!! WHY ARENT YOU PLAYING WITH ME WHY ARE YOU PUTTING AWAY OUR TOYS

"You're so mean to me!" Uh huh. Take your pants off and bend over the bed.

One of the most dangerous things in the world is not being able to say no to people because you don't want to upset them or dissapoint them. This will completely ruin your life in every way possible, at work, in your private life, your sex life and your friendships. It's a way of removing your own consent in your own decisions and go against your wishes, it is always a crime against yourself. Let yourself have a say. Upsetting people is better than traumatizing yourself.

How I sleep knowing I am not responsible for the version of me in people’s heads

reject rizz. stare them down with big doe eyes and off-putting allure as god intended

Don't get sucked into the "if they really cared I wouldn't have to say something" spiral. No matter how close you are with someone, it's unfair to expect them to know things you haven't actually communicated.

I wish I was hot so bad that it takes up most of my brain power most days