Symone 13.7 Runway

Yvie Oddly at Dragcon, day 2 - shot by Marco Ovando

Ok so Dallas, Texas now has a Trans Pride Mural dedicated to Marsha P. Johnson and Sylvia Rivera and I’m living for it

i'm gay and my glasses are dirty

reblog if you’re gay and your glasses are dirty

ru and the drag race producers when they realize they won’t have to crown a POC for at least another 5 seasons bc they included monet in that joint win

I’ve only casted 2 white ppl for All stars 4, but you bet your sweet ass I’m going to crown one of them.

Well…he didn’t lie

i watch movie i have an epiphany i forget it the next day . that’s just who i am

JANELLE MONAE / Make Me Feel

(61st Grammys / 2019)

in therapy my therapist and i were talking about my own feelings of self worth in relationships. and she asked me to say qualities about myself that someone else would be attracted to, on a romantic and platonic level. so i named some things like compassionate, empathetic, etc. and she said “you named things that you can give someone. ways you can serve, rather than ways that you are” and y'all..my mind was blown that’s gonna stick with me forever like she then proceed to tell me actual innate qualities about myself that she liked and thought anyone else would like as well and i hadn’t even considered those because like she said i was focused on things i could do outwardly to attract and maintain connections rather than who i was as a person..goddamn!!! thats tea!!!

With this in mind, this also makes me think of the ways people describe us. When people say the reasons that they love/like you or describe you as a person, are they only naming ways that you serve them? Are they equating your worth with how much you do for them?

ex. “You’re such a good listener. You’re so generous, you’re so compassionate. You’re always there for me. You always hold me down. You’re reliable”

vs.

“You’re so funny! You’re very vibrant. You’re creative, passionate, and intelligent. You’re optimistic. You’re so talented at ____” , etc. I think that’s very telling.

This FUCKED relationships up too because once this hit me, I realized people can just be in love with the way you make them feel instead of who you actually are. ALWAYS pay attention to the last little “vs” but there because it IS super telling

*realizes I exist outside of my own perceptions of myself and that people probably talk about me sometimes* what the fuck