I really lost the love of my life while we’re both still alive.
“There are some people who could hear you speak a thousand words, and still not understand you. And there are others who will understand — without you even speaking a word.”
— Yasmin Mogahed
some things i’ve learned about adulthood that no one warns you about
- you will in fact continue to have acne past the age of twenty
- you will eventually hit a point where you start to feel icky inside if you go too long without eating some sort of vegetables
- depending on your current level of athleticism/physical activity as well as the kind of activities you did as a kid/teenager, your joints may start acting whack in your twenties, despite what everyone says about that not happening until middle age
- eventually you will reach a point where you wonder how you were able to stay up until 3am nearly every night and be perfectly fine the next day (and this moment will come much younger than you expect)
- it is much harder to meet new people after you’re done with school than sitcoms would have you believe
- don’t let society tell you shit: it is perfectly acceptable to live with your parents after you graduate, there’s no need to be broke and miserable just so you can have some misguided attempt at independence straight out of school
- aging in general will catch up to you much sooner than you think. you’ll notice your first grey hairs ~25. crows feet appear when you smile ~30. aging is a slow and gradual process that’s happening throughout your life, including your 20’s. it’s not like an Old switch flips when you turn 40, any more than a Puberty switch flipped when you turned 13.
- same thing with not being Cool anymore. you’ll be vibing one day and suddenly media is saying your favorite style of jeans or hairstyle “date” you. (on the up side, you probably won’t care about that kind of thing anymore.)
- taking care of your body and your home is Relentless. nobody will make you do chores or eat your veggies. it can wear at you if you let it. setting and keeping good habits lessens the strain.
- measuring success is harder as an adult. in school you get graded most days, sports are measured in points. feedback at work regarding performance will be largely arbitrary. nobody can tell you if you’re on the right track to raise children into well-adjusted adults (though there’s plenty of conflicting advise out there). are you happy? how happy?
- outside of some obscene luck, you probably won’t build the life you want at the speed you want. that’s normal.
- you don’t have to stop liking “kid” stuff when you grow up. if you can still like ice cream or sports, you can also still like disney or nerf guns.
- you’re gonna have a favorite burner on your stove.
people born in 2000 should be like 12-14 now. but they’re not. that’s how fucked up our world is now
The older this post gets the funnier it becomes
My cousin born in 2000 is a licensed psychologist.
that’s how fucked up our world is now
Not every day has to “count.” Some days, your purpose is to make it to the next one. That counts too.
shhhhh not right now, i’m fantasizing about financial stability
being known is being loved
"i know your pizza order" "you have freckles on your ears" "you make this face when you're tired" "you order green tea on a good day black on a bad day" "you always make that face before you try something" "the tips of your ears turn red when you're angry" "i knew you'd say something" "you must be exhausted to miss the class" "your favorite pie is pumpkin, right?" "i know your phone number, don't worry" "you miss me, i can tell" "you fiddle with your pens when you're bored" "you don't like converse unless they're high tops" "your favorite cereal is cinnamon toast crunch and you first ate it when you were 8"
being known is being loved.
had i loved me better i wouldn't have been in most of the situations i placed myself in. but with pain there is always purpose. everything happens for a reason. stay gracious.
I won’t control you. Do what you want. Your actions will tell me how much you respect the relationship.
it sucks to be so understanding but never understood
"Cause I can't lie
I love you still, for all my life and I always will
Even though I know how the story ends
I'd do it all again"
It’s the connection we can’t explain
I was not made for….*gestures broadly at the world*