since mrs, ms, and mr are all descended from the latin word magister, i propose the gender neutral version should be mg, short for "mage"

this website is a hivemind but gotdamn it sure is a squizard

pondering the orb (wiwaxia) ...

really i think one of my favorite character dynamics is “i don’t actually like you but we’ve been through so much together that i’d trust you with my life and know that we will always back each others calls. but i still wouldn’t trust you with my car keys.” like “we aren’t really friends but we’ve been thrust into an intense situation where you are the only other person i know so now we’re besties.” and “if it weren’t for our years of history i would have literally nothing to talk to you about at this work dinner.” Enemies to lovers has NOTHING on general disinterest to begrudging acknowledgment to discovering that this person is now an inextricable part of your life

can't stop listening to this

I love the use of the phrase 'some strange alchemy' as a descriptor for a process you don't understand.

'Through some strange alchemy(crochet) they turned a bundle of yarn into a stuffed giraffe'

'Through some strange alchemy(bad cooking) they turned a perfectly marinated steak into a charcoal briquet'

'Through some strange alchemy(good cooking) they turned a pile of slop into the fluffiest bread loaf I'd ever seen'

'Through some strange alchemy(bad reading comprehension) they took my polite statement and turned into a disgusting act against the poor'

and so on

LIVE (nothing wrong with me)

LAUGH (nothing wrong with me)

LOVE (nothing wrong with me)

Big eyes

ⓘ A sewing machine is a device that provides a several-fold increase of the speed at which you can make mistakes

When your partner has a praise kink but you're Montessori trained so you know that praise is an ineffective way to encourage development and it's much more productive to acknowledge their effort so that they learn to effectively give themselves feedback so they can develop a healthy intrinsic motivation instead of deriving their self worth from labels put on them by other people .... "baby it's amazing how much you could last today compared to last week"

#I can tell you’ve been practicing hard and working to build your stamina #how did it feel to last longer? did it feel good? I’m so glad to hear that

lifetime sub who's an experienced dog trainer & teacher trying to encourage a newbie dom w a master's in education: i know iT'S BAD PEDAGOGYYY. JUST PUNISH MEEEeeee please before i die

ive found that partially treated mental illness can sometimes look to uninvolved onlookers like faked mental illness.

"someone who really has pOCD would be disgusted and horrified at their intrusive thoughts" or maybe i'm in therapy & am going by the books, being radically ambivalent to my intrusive thoughts instead of wasting energy mentally washing my paws of sin. i'm not going to perform my rock bottom for you for the sake of being believed.

also like... something something, being afraid of healing because you're afraid of letting go of the stability of misery, letting go of the narrative you made up to feel worthy of attention, letting go of your "sympathy cred," this narrative has probably killed a few ppl.

Generally if you find yourself demanding to know why strangers aren't living more miserable lives, you're probably in the wrong.

"I'm not going to perform my rock bottom for you for the sake of being believed."

Holy fuck. Tattoo that one on your bones.

That's good.

Americans don’t wear cowboy hats all the time? What’s the point then?

-Bram Stoker

“Salvage” created for Critical Chips 2, published/edited by Zainab Akhtar~

Being polyam is FR like "I'm not aro/ace but I believe in their beliefs"

Posted this an hour ago and already got the tags peer-reviewed twice so here they are in the main post for all to see: #sexual stuff doesn't make/break/define a relationship #People can be meaningful to you in a variety of ways and these are all valuable #The nuclear family is a false ideal #I could go on

As an aroace, right back at you OP! I've legitimately thought about making an 'I'm not polyamorous but I believe in their beliefs' post before.

It's us together against amatonormativity and traditional relationship hierarchy. ✊

[ID: the epic handshake meme, two muscular masculine arms clasped together, where one is labeled aro ace (spaced for readability), the other is labeled polyam. Aro ace’s hand has text that says “relationships do not need to be defined by sexuality.” Polyam’s hand has text that says, “people can be meaningful to you in a variety of ways and these are all valuable.” Their handshake is labeled “the nuclear family is a lie!” The word lie is in all caps. /end]

Also you can have both! I am ace, married to a woman who is allo but dating someone on the aroace spectrum, and I am dating a woman another ace woman. I like to cuddle a lot, and being poly means more cuddles!

Liberal voice: "Being a fairweather ally is exactly what needs to be done at this moment in time! That's how moments are made: By giving up all my morals and beliefs when things make me feel uncomfortable!"

alright I reflected on the self. I'm 100% sure the beasts are the issue here

Hell yeah bro. 🤝Time for top surgery

sorry homie. I see now you said beasts. Like, The animal . Not breasts. The word for boobs. Did not mean to threaten you.

this is so fucking funny

In the age of doubling down on past mistakes and monetizing outrage, Steve Albini changed and grew. RIP.