"Me Too" - New Zealanders' Stories of Sexual Abuse

....He then grabbed my breasts. I said his name incredibly sharply and he said “sorry!” and ran out the room. Back to my friends bed - his pregnant wife. He text me an apology, but then started trying to convince me to fuck him saying “i’d love to have another go at you” like I was some sort of game. He thought the issue was his wife. While it is, the main issue is that he doesn’t have my consent. He just assumed he would and that without her he would. I feel violated and like I don’t matter.(2)

I was sober and staying at my friends’ house after a party. I had the spare room with a single bed to myself, and everyone at the house went to bed. Then after a bit the door opened and someone walked into the room. I couldn’t see who it was so I spoke out, and my friend responded. He came right over to the bed where I was half trying to sit up, in a corner. He just stood there. I said thanks for the nice night out and gave him a “thanks, now bye” hug you give friends at the end of the night (1)

#MetooWhen I was 12 years old, on the bus home from school an old man asked me to have sex with him for money.When I was 18 I invited a guy over to hang out and he had sex with me even though I said no!When I was 19 I was very drunk to the point of passing out and someone came into my tent and touched me. My ‘friends’ were around and nobody came to help. When I was 21 I went home with a man and he forced himself on me. I had to push him off me and run

I was working as a secretary to a partner in a smallish firm (5 partners). I was a solo parent so my job was vitally important to me. One night my 12 yr old son left his electric blanket on (he was given responsibility of turning it off) and about 1 a.m. it set fire to his bed, the carpet (where he threw it and had singed his pyjamas. I dealt with it all and went to work and started shaking so my boss got our biggest client and they took me to lunch. They plied me with martinis, wine etc. until

I worked at a local branch of a worldwide company where the staff encouraged the builder that was hired to carry out renovations to harass me. Comments about grabbing my butt and evening making up stories of taking me out on dates and sleeping with me

Part 5.. We've never talked about that day. He's never done anything like that again. I try to forget it but I never will. But he's still my best friend.. I don't have any friends so I can't lose him.. I'm just always afraid in the back of my mind that he will lose control and do it again. I've never told anyone about this and never will. This is as close as I will get because if anyone knew, it would ruin everything..

Part 4.. I just started crying and I gave up fighting back. After a little bit I think he noticed I wasn't okay. He noticed that I was crying and he stopped. He asked me what was wrong and I couldn't talk at all. He said he was sorry and just wanted me so badly he couldn't stop himself. He ended up staying for a while after then he left. I didn't talk to him for a couple days but he was my best friend.. So I did end up just talking to him again.. I still talk to him about everything.

Part 3.. I asked him to stop. I didn't want to do what he wanted to do. I just wanted to talk. He was so persistant and he wouldn't listen to me. I froze and just started crying. He turned me around and pulled my pants down and he started trying to have sex with me. I kept trying to pull away but he had me against the wall and I couldn't move. It was almost like he was in a trance. I kept saying no and for him to stop but if he heard me, he wasn't listening..

Part 2.. He did talk to me at first but he was acting different that day. I got really deep into conversation with him and I guess we had a moment. He started kissing me and touching me and it was all happening fast. I didn't even know what to do. He started putting his hands down my pants and I asked him to stop. He kept saying "come on I just want you so bad" even when I told him no. I tried to walk away into the restroom but he followed me.

Part 1.. I have severe anxiety and depression. I eventually reached out for help and all it did was cause problems. My husband and I just fought constantly. One day, I was talking to a friend about everything and he asked to come over so he could help distract me and make me feel better. I wanted him to come because he's the friend I talk to about everything and he usually does end up cheering me up. I figured he would let me talk and cry and he would make sure I was okay..

(3) his friend took a hint and moved seats with him so the other one was further away. The film finished and they both disappeared. My friend and I stood at the bottom and talked to the team leaders about it, they said it'd get dealt with. We walked back to the dorm and the first thing I did was lock myself in my room and cry. My friends boyfriend blamed her. To this day I haven't heard whether or not they actually did anything - probably not.

(2) I turned around and asked him to stop, and the other lad too, because I could see my friend was uncomfortable - I was tolerating it and keeping my mouth shut until he reached out and squeezed my friends shoulder. I turned around and told him to fuck off and he laughed. He fucking *laughed* at me. I threatened to kick him between the legs so hard he'd be tasting the treads of my Doc Martens every time he coughed. And "oo calm down don't get mad" was what this asshole said -

(1) I went on a 4 week summer programme in my last year of secondary school (literally the summer just gone) and the second week we were at a uni campus. The team leaders took us to the student cinema where we watched Fantastic Beasts. Now my friend and I were sat at the back one row from the projector, expecting it to be fine. About 10 minutes into it and the lads behind us start pulling our hair, throwing food at us, seeing how close they could get their fingers to our faces etc -

Auckland/Aged 5 onwards. The first time. They had turns. They played roles, but not what they created for "my brothers" .. I remember being locked inside cold dark closets day in and day out the smell of their heated breathing against my neck pushing my head so far down into carpet so I cannot escape, my protectors were so close, in the very next room "my parents" My father saw this. but did not question so I didnt either. I was a girl, they were two boys. Now Im a women & they are men. #Metoo

2 I'm sure he spiked my drink, the next thing I remember is that he was having sex with me and all i could think was to ask if he was using a condom

1. I was asleep in my room in my shared flat. I woke up to see a flat mates friend standing naked in my room saying he really needed to have sex. He lifted up my duvet and got into bed beside me. I was frozen physically but managed to shout loudly until another flat mate finally came to help