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11.25.14 Abby • 20 • Taken 💙• Bisexual Blog about my favourite things.
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Giveaway Contest: We’re giving away fifteen paperback classics featuring Richard Adams, Edgar Allan Poe, Simone de Beauvoir, J.R.R. Tolkien, Richard Wright, Harper Lee, and others! Won’t this collection look lovely on your shelf? :D To win these classics, you must: 1) be following macrolit on Tumblr (yes, we will check. :P), and 2) reblog this post. We will choose a random winner on April 25, at which time we’ll start a new giveaway. And yes, we’ll ship to any country. Easy, right? Good luck!

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books for when you want to feel like a beautiful 15th century milkmaid or an adventurous schoolgirl in the english countryside

(I honestly couldn’t think of a better way to categorize it) 

#books#book recs#queue are an artist#studyblr
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good emotional skills to know 4 college but also in general

this is stuff that i’ve found helpful and am in the process of working on. they may not be achievable for you without help and may not work for your specific circumstance, but this is a list of suggestions that you might be able to think about. i am also not a mental health professional so please do feel free to contradict me!!

  • self soothing.  having a toolbox to take care of yourself by yourself. bc sometimes nobody else is available and you just gotta put some lotion on, listen to a tune, and go to bed early. 
  • checking in. checking in with yourself to see if you’re okay. knowing how to alter your strategies when your strategies aren’t working. knowing when your strategies aren’t working. this is just taking some time every day to reflect on what goals you didn’t meet and why and what you can do to fix that.
  • there’s nothing you “should” be doing. if you get caught up thinking “i should be doing x” that’s false! stop that! “should” be doing better implies that you have some obligation to do whatever it is that you “should” be doing. you don’t owe anybody except yourself. analyze why you think you should be doing that thing and change that into…. “i want to be doing x because…” or “doing x will make me happier, because…”. overall, more productive and less self-shamey. 
  • disconnecting from the crowd. eating in a crowded dining hall can be stressful! knowing how to be alone in a crowd and stay calm is helpful
  • being okay with being alone.  tbh college is kind of… being alone a lot, in my experience. even though you’re surrounded by people, a lot of time is spent alone. making friends is hard. your friends have different schedules. you’re busy. shit sucks. we make the best of it.
  • knowing yourself. this relates to a lot of what i’ve already said but like. knowing your emotional state and knowing what helps trick the monkey brain is helpful. stop repressing your feelings, friends.
  • talking to strangers. ordering from a menu! paying library fines. going to office hours. asking for a cashier at the register if there isn’t one. ya this is hard. ya you gotta expose yourself. sometimes i just try playing a persona. like this isn’t me ordering a sandwich. this is a cool me who knows how to talk to people who is ordering a sandwich.
  • you don’t have to be friends with your roommates. you just have to live together in a way that doesn’t make you two hate each other. ideally, you two will coexist in a way that doesn’t interfere with the other’s daily life.
  • give and taking. on the topic of roommates, sometimes your roommate can be a shitty person, but sometimes you are the shitty person! give a little but if they’re negatively impacting your life, communicate.
  • communicating during disagreements. explain what your emotions are instead of blaming them. “i feel hurt when you…” or “i feel frustrated when” or “i feel unappreciated when.” if things get heated, ask if you both can take a ten minute break and then come back. and don’t bring up disagreements when the other party is preoccupied or going somewhere. you can legitimately schedule a discussion.
  • it’s okay to apologize. learning to swallow your pride gets easier each time.
  • knowing that people work differently than you. some people are not gonna click with you and it’s gonna seem like they have this whole brain process up there that is totally unlike yours. and yeah! that’s how it is. and that’s chill if they aren’t hurting anyone else. work with them and be flexible!! 
  • comforting people. you will probably/definitely see someone cry! hell if i know how to comfort people. someone please help. but some things i’ve learned are: 1) different people need different things. different people need different things! 2) people need different things at different times. 3) you can ask them what they want and it won’t be weird. 4) apparently a lot of people like hugs? but ask. and it’s okay to not want a hug. 5) just show that you care in some way if you don’t know what they need. i used to think that if somebody needed to tell me what they needed it was a sign that i just didn’t know them well enough and we weren’t compatible or i wasn’t being a good friend. that’s fake! friendship isn’t based off of fitting naturally in every way and making an effort to be good for them is important.
  • knowing it’s okay to not be liked by everyone. it’s okay if strangers think you’re dumb because you said something dumb in public. you know you’re not dumb. it’s okay if not everybody you meet likes you. it’s okay if you do something cringey. everybody has their own shit to deal with and you will not shatter their world.  grow and move on!
  • forgiving yourself. i’m trying this new thing where when i feel embarrassed about something i say. out loud. “i forgive myself.” and then i just try to grow from that and move on without getting caught in a spiral of shame.
  • knowing what you need vs what you want and what is better at the time. what you need: a shower. what you want: to not do that. solution: take a shower! or maybe what you actually need is to go to sleep? but guess what. you probably know what is good for you. the hard part is actually doing it.
  • realize that building habits is less work than discipline. emotional effort is expended every time you have to make yourself do something. just make it part of your routine and you’ll just think it’s normal to do all the good things! like, for example, i’m trying to make it a habit to eat structured meals instead of a “eat when i’m hungry” thing because i know that makes me skip meals, which is bad!
  • you won’t be able to do everything. forgive yourself for that. write down  things that are top priority and focus on them. everything else is not important right now and you shouldn’t beat yourself up for not being able to do them.
  • your health is important. i’m not saying health will solve all your problems. it won’t! but health will cause a lot of your problems to go away. because let’s face it. not sleeping causes a lot of problems. 
  • it’s okay to ask for help. we say this a lot but it’s hard to internalize it. here’s a thought: there’s so much shame and hesitation about asking for help so by doing that you’re actually being proactive (which is respectable) and mature, and therefore… not weak or stupid. ask for help even before you need it! most people love to help others. and especially take advantage of people who are OFFERING help. for example: counselors at school or TAs. it’s literally their job. they want to do it. and if you don’t want to talk to anybody in real life, my inbox is always open.
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booty shorts that say “i am indirectly responsible for verizon’s billion dollar loss” on the ass

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daily reminders:

  1. having a studyblr does not guarantee good grades. consistent hardwork does!! also, there is no elevator to success. you have to take the stairs. it will be tough, & there will be times when you’ll feel like giving up, but if you put your minds into it, you’ll definitely get there!! 
  2. you do not need expensive stationery to be part of the studyblr community. do not feel compelled to spend money on overpriced stationery, especially if it does not aid in your productivity!!
  3. your handwriting is beautiful. it is who you are; don’t ever change it for anyone.
  4. remember to take breaks!! eat some fruits/ snacks/ listen to music/ surf the net for awhile!! dont burn out!!
  5. your grades do not define you.  dont let a stumble be the end of your journey. failures are part and parcel of life. its ok to get a bad grade, and its definitely ok to cry it out. but, always get back up and press on!!!
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10 Things I Wish I Knew Before University

  1. You are going to feel like dropping out. I would say to stick it out for the first year and sit for finals. If you get a good grade for your finals, that could really give your confidence a boost and motivate you to keep going. And then, if you still feel like dropping out or changing majors, you should do as much research as possible.
  2. Feeling pressured to do more things. During my first year, I said yes to everything–even things that I didn’t feel like doing. I felt like if I didn’t, I’d be missing out on something really important or fun. FOMO, basically. However, more often than not, I wasn’t missing much and these opportunities will arise again very soon.
  3. Buying too many unnecessary things. I bought so many stationery and notebooks before I started uni in hopes that they would motivate me to study. I ended up not using even half of them my first year. At least, I’d be set for supplies until I graduate.
  4. Revising in uni is not the same as revising in high school. I used to think I could study last minute for a test, like I did in high school. I learned the hard way that that wasn’t the case at all. Now, I review the topics after every lecture. The key is to keep up because all those lectures are going to pile up really fast.
  5. Past papers are your new best friend. I find that professors have their favourite questions that they like to give out. During finals, they might even use the same exact questions as they did in tests!
  6. Failing/Getting a low grade in a test isn’t going to ruin your life. I once got so caught up on that one test. But luckily during finals, I snapped out of it and just tried my best. My final grade wasn’t too bad. You live and you learn.
  7. Wear whatever you want (as long as it doesn’t get you in trouble). When I wear a hoodie and sweatpants, I get comments that I look like I just rolled out of bed (which I did, duh). And when I have really nice makeup on and do my hair, I’m trying to impress someone. I think people just like to run their mouth and it’s nothing personal, so you shouldn’t care what they say anyway. 
  8. Keep in touch with friends outside your university. It can really come in handy during times when you really have to vent about someone in your classes. They can also help you keep grounded and have a different perspective.
  9. You don’t have to love the library. I’m the kind of girl who studies lying on her stomach on the bed with papers and books surrounding me and my cat stepping on them occasionally. I think the library is too quiet and public for me. And if you’re the same way and prefer the cafe or elsewhere, then that’s okay too. The goal here is that you get your studying done.
  10. Stay healthy. Whenever it’s near finals, I would abandon every other responsibility except studying. I would stop eating healthy and quit exercising, all in the name of making time to study. But they should go hand-in-hand with studying and not one or the other. I find that the better I take care of myself, the better my grades are. You should also get enough sleep–this, I never fail to do.
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Giveaway Contest: Thanks to the generosity of @harperperennial, we’re giving away all eight of the brand new, limited edition 2018-19 Harper Perennial Olive Editions! And this year, all of the Olives are CLASSICS! <3 Won’t these look lovely on your shelf? :D To win these books, you must: 1) be following macrolit on Tumblr (yes, we will check. :P), and 2) reblog this post. We will randomly choose a winner on November 10, at which time we’ll start a new giveaway. And yes, for the third straight year, Harper Perennial has agreed to make this an International giveaway! Good luck!

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BEKKATHYST AUTUMN 2018 GIVEAWAY

~This giveaway is in no way affiliated with Tumblr.~

Please read thoroughly before entering!

Hello lovely Tumblr folk! It’s that time again- I have a giveaway for you all. We have had a very difficult last couple of months with a lot of ups and downs. We are hoping that the giveaway will help us attract some new attention to the shop, while also giving a lucky person an awesome crystal package! 

All these items came from my shop.

What you get:

  • $50 credit that can be applied to anything in my shop.
  • golden sheen obsidian decotrative dagger
  • selenite rough wand 
  • amethyst kitty and agate and amethyst kitty face 
  • obsidina merkaba
  • rough clear quartz 
  • fluorite wand and points
  • assorted pebbles
  • amethyst point 
  • angel aura quartz points 
  • rough black tourmaline
  • rough calcite 
  • amethyst pyramid 
  • tumbled stones
  • AND MORE!
  • This has a retail value of $325 in addition to the $50 shop credit!

Rules:

  1. You must be 16 or older. (If under 18 you MUST have parent’s permission)
  2. You don’t have to live in the US to join!
  3. You must be following me, so you can get updates if anything about the giveaway changes.
  4. Please check out my shop and if you’re interested, you can sign up for my email newsletter here. (Totally not necessary or required, it’s just an option!)
  5. DO NOT tag this post as giveaway. That will risk the notes getting messed up, and this will be ruined for everyone.
  6. Reblog this post to enter. Likes count, too. No giveaway or spam blogs. If you reblog on a side blog, let me know in the tags what the name of your blog is that you’re following me with.
  7. Please don’t spam people with reblogs- limit 2 reblogs per blog per day.  
  8. Each entry will be assigned a number and the winner will be chosen by a random number generator.
  9. The giveaway ends Saturday, November 3rd at 6 pm Pacific time.
  10. The winner will be messaged and must respond with their full name and address within 24 hours, or a new winner will be chosen.
  11. Please respect me and my rules, and have fun!
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Small Ways To Improve Your Life

  • make your bed to immediately make your room look more put together
  • water first, then coffee or tea
  • pray or meditate, even just for ten minutes, to set the tone for your day
  • browse the news headlines ( & read the articles that interest you when you’ve got time)
  • wear something you feel b o m b in
  • listen to music while doing your daily activities-commuting, cleaning, cooking, exercising
  • smile at at least two people
  • smile at YOURSELF
  • call or message someone you love
  • eat food that makes you feel radiant
  • make lists of things you need to accomplish for the day
  • stretch for 10 minutes
  • record in your phone the positive thoughts you have so you can remember them
  • carry water with you (always always always)
  • shut off your phone for an hour and have some ME time
  • take a hot shower or bath at the end of a stressful day
  • try to make plans to spend time with someone at least once a week
  • think about 3 things you are grateful for at the end of each day
  • do something calming, relaxing, and non-electronic 30 minutes before you sleep
  • sleep pants-less
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