Help me attend my father’s funeral and finance my leave of absence from work

My father died and I found out yesterday through email.

Long story short, yesterday, via email, I found out my father died. The funeral is in NOLA (his hometown) next week and I need help getting there, paying for lodging as well as financing my leave of absence from work bc i will not be paid for 1 month. ‬

A round trip flight is $155 (my aunt only bought tickets for my brothers so I need to pay for this myself)

And lodging is $80 a night and Ill be there for 4 days so that will be $320

I also would like to have a couple hundred dollars available for transportation as well (to and from both airports, to and from the funeral, etc.)

I will not be returning to work for a month when I get back and on average I make about $1900 a month. Me not working means I cannot pay rent, bills, and/or buy groceries.

The total I need is $2575

Rather than just have people donate in good faith, I would like to offer for every donation of at least $10 will serve as a raffle ticket for a free commissioned art piece from me as I was planning on opening up commissions for my art this week until I was told this news. For example, $10 would be one entry, and $100 would be 10 entries. I want to let you guys know you are appreciated and I wanna give back something I am passionate about to show my appreciation for your continued support. Attached are pics of some of my recent pieces.

Donation methods:

I would use GFM but again, I need to book my flight and Airbnb ASAP and GFM takes forever to send $ and takes out hella fees.

I know this is a lot of money to raise in a short period of time but I really need help.

For the trip alone I need $675 for my month off I need $1900.

Please donate, if you cant—please boost this.

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so, I haven’t wanted to chime in on the like vs reblog discourse because I’ve always kind of been “it’s your blog reblog what you want” but recently the ratio for me has been ridiculous, so I did some research.

this is what my notes look like currently:

this is what they looked like maybe 3-4 years ago:

and this is what they looked like around 6-7 years ago:

notice anything?

sure, it’s your blog. post what you want. but when gif makers stop making gifs, don’t say we didn’t warn you. we make gifs to be seen, and if it doesn’t get reblogged, it dies on our blog. it’s clear to me that this is a trend and I’m betting it has everything to do with this spike in “aesthetic” blogs.

if you like it, please reblog it. all we want is for our work to be seen.

#also like getting notes on shit posts is fun too but#when a shit post gets 900 notes and a gifset gets like 120 its#bad scoob

This goes for all content-makers who share on here. Obviously, likes are lovely, but reblogs are the only way things get seen. If you like something, take a second and consider reblogging. Help your favs out by sharing their awesome creations, be it art, stories, gifs, edits, etc.

Yall its 1 AM and I’m CRYING AT THIS

concept: stumbling out of jeongguk’s bedroom to grab some water and go to the toilet, hair a mess and legs wobbly, skin still damp and sweaty. Jeongguk grinning cockily in bed with his arms behind his head, sheets barely covering his naked body as he watched you wobble around shakily because he did that.

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MUSHROOM KINGDOM

PEACHY MAMA

my policy for “they’re just doing it for attention” has always been and always will be “then someone needs to pay attention to them”

I’ve always thought this

Let me tell you about the time I worked as a computer teacher for a small private school. My first day went well, but in the staff room that day I was told I was lucky that this one kid was out sick. No one could control him.

Next week, he was in. It took me 10 minutes to determine that I was dealing with a 10 year old kid who was incredibly intelligent, more than a little bored, and loved being the center of attention.

He was also black. I say this because I think that a intelligent, somewhat bored, attention-seeking white kid might have been treated differently.

So, day one I made him sit by himself where no one could see him to stop him from taking over the class (which he was clearly used to doing).

Day two: I paid close attention to when he finished (not surprising, he was first and did everything correctly). I immediately told him he was helping me, and paired him with a struggling student.

My hunch was right; he made a excellent teacher. He thrived on having this other kid’s attention. He wasn’t bored. He was one of my best students.

He was a bright kid. And he needed people to pay attention to him and would settle for any kind of attention he could get. But when he was able to channel that positively, he was a great student and a really helpful classmate.

IMPORTANT POINT HERE

Please do not talk about a child’s weight in front of them, or tell them they need to go on a diet. 

Talking about weight in front of children is associated with mental and physical health risks, and both the American Academy of Pediatrics and the Canadian Pediatric Society recommend against all weight talk around children.

Starting an ED in a child doesn’t necessarily look like outright mocking a child’s weight- it can be mild comments like “Have you lost weight?” with an approving tone, telling your child they have to play a sport so they don’t “gain weight and grow up unhealthy”, or always commenting on a young girl’s “dainty” figure when you notice how little she naturally eats. Just cut weight talk out of your vocabulary around kids please.

another important point:

Don’t talk about your own weight in front of children. I grew up hearing my mom call herself fat and that has affected me immensely.

also please realize that most adults talk about not gaining weight rather than losing weight and a lot. SO MANY eds are more centered around the fear of gaining so even if you think “it’s okay i’m not telling them to lose weight” it’s not trust me. been there. fucked up from that ✌🏻

Also for people saying that some children need to lose weight etc, yeah while that may be true, a diet is literally never the answer when it’s more so lifestyle changes (which research has shown is made by the nutritional habits of the parents). A doctor can easily discuss the importance of fruits and vegetables vs unhealthy without mentioning weight at all or shaming the patient. lso discussions about bmi, something a child in a lot of cases cannot even properly grasp is just dumb to mention in front of a child, and healthcare providers can speak to parents separately about issues with weight since a child will not understand the medical jargon an adult would and a child would definitely need it to be explained in a different manner to understand without it affecting their mental health

It doesn't even have to be talking, if you in any way make weight seem like an important thing to worry about, it's going to affect your child. I have memories of a specific moment where I received just a disapproving look from my father when he touched my stomach once and that is the very first time I ever felt bad about my appearance. I was 8 years old, and it has stuck with me like glue even now at 23 years old, so bad that I had to bring it up several times in counseling. Just be so careful about what you make sure is important to your children because it can mess them up for life, even if you didn't mean to do it.

Last night i had a dream where legolas straight up shot someone with a gun

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